Daveydukes

Hello everyone,

I am new to this site and at step one. What are the chances of finding a really great sponsor?

Thanks,

J

NewBeginning010

Welcome DD

Here is the AA brochure on sponsorship, its a pretty big PDF so you have to be a little patient (just like in recovery ;-)

Alcoholics Anonymous : Questions & Answers on Sponsorship

Glad to have you with us

Dee74

Welcome Davey

I'm not in AA, but no doubt NB's steered you in the right direction

Welcome to SR.
D

Taking5

Are you attending AA meetings yet? SR is a great place for support but it is no replacement for AA. You find an AA sponsor at an AA meeting. Pick someone you admire (of the same sex) and ask them to be your sponsor.

Doodledog

My two cents on finding a sponsor: Do some informal interviewing of the person before you ask them to work with you. How do they see their role? How do they approach their recovery program? What are their expectations of you?


Be honest about what you think you need in someone but be open to other possible approaches, too.

Finally, I'd ask for a trial run, so to speak, and then a reevaluation of the relationship after three months. It gives both parties a graceful way out if the partnership isn't working.

ddog

augustwest

I would say somewhere close to 100%, but it might take some trial and error. When i got into the program and was looking for a sponsor i looked out for a few important things to me. I found a sponsor that does the following:

• regular meeting attendance
• has completed the steps at least once or is at least on 10-12
• shares experience, strength, and hope in the 1st person-not someone preachy, adivice giving, and platitude spouting
• essentially looked for someone exhibiting the behaviors and demeanor that i wanted

augustwest

another thing that helped me is that i purposely looked for a sponsor who wasn't just like me. i don't need someone to co-sign my nonsense, i need someone who's gonna call me on my bs and be honest with me. in addition to the things posted above i looked for someone who appeared to be honest about their affairs, not always happy or always complaining but someone who appeared to be honestly sharing the full range of life experience in recovery and their successes and failures in the process.