jcfollower

I loaned my XRABF a large chunk of change (I know, I know--baaaad idea--trust me, I have sufficiently flogged myself, *but* it was a legitimate need unrelated to his disease, albeit a rescue) and now he is in a position to begin paying me back, which of course I have been terrified that he won't. He gave me a significant piece of collateral (sentimental and financial value) at his insistence, and I won't return it until he's paid me back 100%.

Here's where I need the wisdom: he gave me a business address to stop by today, anytime, to pick up a portion of the $. I am feeling a bit nervous Nellie, worried that he is a) setting me up to be embarrassed, b) telling me there'll be $ when there won't, c) giving me a check that will bounce....I feel ashamed and embarrassed, and that is on -me-, I realize, but once again -he- is pulling the strings. I sent him a message saying that something's come up, I don't think I can make it by, and can -he- drop it off to me at my store this evening. Part of me thinks I have to play by his rules if I want the $, but part of me also hopes that he will be kind and do the right thing himself. Any input is greatly appreciated.

Ceres

Can you bring someone with you? We have more power in packs. ;-)

jcfollower

Good idea! I will see if I can arrange that....thanks, Alizerin.

stella27

take a friend as Alizerin suggested -- or ask him to drop it in the mail?

naive

i would go and get it, with a friend as suggested.

if you leave it to him, it might be spent by tomorrow.

if it's a check, cash it immediately.

get the money immediately upon meeting him. do not have a conversation and wait until the end of the meeting to get the cash. secure the cash and speak afterwards if you feel to.

naive