Wow..the emotional roller coaster
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Wow..the emotional roller coaster
I have been ok with filing for divorce but knowing the papers are in the courthouse being processed today is making me feel uneasy. I know this is necessary but it amazes me how quickly I fall back into the panic and poor me state. I wish my emotions would stabilize. This is harder than I thought.
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Lulu, I hear you.
There's no quick fix, just have to go through. I comfort myself when I'm in a lot of pain by thinking that the more I deal with the pain now, the less I deal with it later. It's kind of a like a conservation of pain rule. Facing it is much better than not.
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There's no quick fix, just have to go through. I comfort myself when I'm in a lot of pain by thinking that the more I deal with the pain now, the less I deal with it later. It's kind of a like a conservation of pain rule. Facing it is much better than not.
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I think it is normal to feel like that. I thought I might explode with anxiety when I was at this point. Remember that with each step you take to face the anxiety and unease - you get stronger. You are at the hardest part right now - taking a giant leap - but remember that each step forward makes you a stronger person.
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That point was scary for me as I feared retaliation as it his" modus operandi" to scare me back into my place. Stay strong.
Your story sound so familiar to mine. We deserve to become whole and healthy!
That point was scary for me as I feared retaliation as it his" modus operandi" to scare me back into my place. Stay strong.
Your story sound so familiar to mine. We deserve to become whole and healthy!
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Originally Posted by alanonicnov2008 
Lulu, I hear you.
There's no quick fix, just have to go through. I comfort myself when I'm in a lot of pain by thinking that the more I deal with the pain now, the less I deal with it later. It's kind of a like a conservation of pain rule. Facing it is much better than not.
<Hugs>
There's no quick fix, just have to go through. I comfort myself when I'm in a lot of pain by thinking that the more I deal with the pain now, the less I deal with it later. It's kind of a like a conservation of pain rule. Facing it is much better than not.
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Just offering (((hugs)))) and support.... be kind to yourself, changes are not easy, particularly when they are still so fresh. When I feel triggered or anxious... I try to give the situation to God/HP. "Here, take this mess. You know better. I wash my hands" then back to the current task at hand, no laters or tomorrows, just now, try to do what you need to do as mindfully as possible. Helps to come back to the present moment...
Like MeHandle told me "the scriptures say: stay still, and know that I am God"
Like MeHandle told me "the scriptures say: stay still, and know that I am God"
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M Scott Peck writes...we cannot solve life's problems except by solving them
this is much more then stating the obvious because to many, solving problems is not the obvious answer, confronting problems is a painful process most people try to avoid.
You are confronting life, doing what needs to be done and I applaud you becasue from this you will grow. The right things come from being strong.
this is much more then stating the obvious because to many, solving problems is not the obvious answer, confronting problems is a painful process most people try to avoid.
You are confronting life, doing what needs to be done and I applaud you becasue from this you will grow. The right things come from being strong.
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Originally Posted by Duped
It's tough, I still feel it (although I did not have to go through a divorce). My anxiety surfaces now on mere contact. Fear of getting sucked back in etc.
...well, you get the idea.
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