Hi Everyone - SOOOOO glad I found this site!
Hi Everyone - SOOOOO glad I found this site!
Hi everyone,
I stumbled upon this site last night & after reading the Personal Bill of Rights (awesome, by the way) and some other postings, I decided to join. I can not express in words the relief I feel to know that I am not alone in this. I have been yelling (both on the inside and out) for years for help. Both my parents are alcoholics. My father passed away in 2003 from Congestive Heart Failure. Since then, I believe (don't know for certain, other than her pattern of behavior has escalated) my mother's drinking has increased considerably. She has health problems of her own, and the drinking makes everything worse. It recently came to a head last weekend when she fell and broke her shoulder. She was hospitalized, and I explained to the staff that she was an alcoholic, much to her agitation. She then started experiencing severe withdrawal symptoms, so the doctors decided to keep her. I've never seen this side of alcohol abuse and it freaks me out. Reading everything last night gave me such a sense of calm & peace that I was finally able to sleep soundly for the first time in days. I have no idea how this is going to turn out, but I do know that I can only control my choices, not hers. I also finally feel released from her grip of manipulation and guilt - thanks to GingerM's post, I think I'm at that "tipping point", which means it will get worse before it gets better, but at least I have this forum to turn to for guidance and support. I genuinely, from the bottom of my heart, thank you all for that.
I look forward to reading & absorbing as much insight, guidance and support as I can & hopefully providing a shoulder for whoever needs it.
I stumbled upon this site last night & after reading the Personal Bill of Rights (awesome, by the way) and some other postings, I decided to join. I can not express in words the relief I feel to know that I am not alone in this. I have been yelling (both on the inside and out) for years for help. Both my parents are alcoholics. My father passed away in 2003 from Congestive Heart Failure. Since then, I believe (don't know for certain, other than her pattern of behavior has escalated) my mother's drinking has increased considerably. She has health problems of her own, and the drinking makes everything worse. It recently came to a head last weekend when she fell and broke her shoulder. She was hospitalized, and I explained to the staff that she was an alcoholic, much to her agitation. She then started experiencing severe withdrawal symptoms, so the doctors decided to keep her. I've never seen this side of alcohol abuse and it freaks me out. Reading everything last night gave me such a sense of calm & peace that I was finally able to sleep soundly for the first time in days. I have no idea how this is going to turn out, but I do know that I can only control my choices, not hers. I also finally feel released from her grip of manipulation and guilt - thanks to GingerM's post, I think I'm at that "tipping point", which means it will get worse before it gets better, but at least I have this forum to turn to for guidance and support. I genuinely, from the bottom of my heart, thank you all for that.
I look forward to reading & absorbing as much insight, guidance and support as I can & hopefully providing a shoulder for whoever needs it.
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Join Date: Jan 2010
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Welcome Learn2Live4Me. I love your name by the way. It is very empowering.
I am sorry you are going through this but I am very glad you found this site. There are a lot of people here who can help you and give you wonderful advise on how to help yourself. I am still new to recovery so I do not have a lot if insight yet but I will tell you that the decision to let go and get help for ourselves has been very empowering for me and I know it will be for you as well.
I am sorry you are going through this but I am very glad you found this site. There are a lot of people here who can help you and give you wonderful advise on how to help yourself. I am still new to recovery so I do not have a lot if insight yet but I will tell you that the decision to let go and get help for ourselves has been very empowering for me and I know it will be for you as well.
Ami, thanks for the compliment on my name & the warm welcome! I wanted to create something that made me feel better about this journey and that seemed to fit. Glad to hear that it is empowering to someone else
I've been dealing with this for several years (well over 20 now) but wouldn't say that I was in recovery until just recently. I think I was on the path but just didn't realize it - or even realize that there was such great support out there!
I look forward to us both recovering, learning & healing. It might not be easy at times, but it WILL be worth it.
I've been dealing with this for several years (well over 20 now) but wouldn't say that I was in recovery until just recently. I think I was on the path but just didn't realize it - or even realize that there was such great support out there!
I look forward to us both recovering, learning & healing. It might not be easy at times, but it WILL be worth it.
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Posts: 58
We will complete this journey for ourselves. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Things will be tough but just know that you have a whole world of people that are willing to help and stand behind you.
Welcome Learn2Live4Me!
I understand just how you felt at finding this site. The first time I heard the term ACOA it was like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders to know that I wasn't alone.:ghug3
I understand just how you felt at finding this site. The first time I heard the term ACOA it was like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders to know that I wasn't alone.:ghug3
I am thankful for the warm welcomes (not sure that's proper English, but whatever!)...I've had some setbacks recently & just haven't posted a thread. I need to, because I really could use some outside advice. Is part of recovery taking ten steps forward & two steps back? Because that is what I feel like I'm doing right now & it just makes me want to cry.
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Join Date: Jan 2010
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Hi Learn2Live4Me. I am now NewBeginnings1598, formerly Amiwrong. (Don't you love the new name???)
I am sorry you are having such a tough time. I will send prayers and hugs your way.
I think that we are only just beginning our recovery and no one ever does things perfect the first time. I know people in my Al Anon group and people here on SR that have been recovering for years, but do make the occasional mistake.
I think you have to take time and patience with yourself and focus on your accomplishments. It is good to see your mistakes so you can learn from them, but don't let them destroy all the accomplishments you have made. After all, recovery is about finding the good in ourselves and you have to see the positive to be able to do that.
I am sorry you are having such a tough time. I will send prayers and hugs your way.
I think that we are only just beginning our recovery and no one ever does things perfect the first time. I know people in my Al Anon group and people here on SR that have been recovering for years, but do make the occasional mistake.
I think you have to take time and patience with yourself and focus on your accomplishments. It is good to see your mistakes so you can learn from them, but don't let them destroy all the accomplishments you have made. After all, recovery is about finding the good in ourselves and you have to see the positive to be able to do that.
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