Where to start???
Owner of a strange glitch.
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: midsouth
Posts: 2,331
I agree with all the above... including the OP.
Don't think I'll ever be *ready* I just had to do it.
Stay around even if you're not ready... read/post/learn...
Welcome
SR is a useful place.
Take care and be safe,
TB
Don't think I'll ever be *ready* I just had to do it.
Stay around even if you're not ready... read/post/learn...
Welcome
SR is a useful place.Take care and be safe,
TB
Member
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Buzz-free Zone
Posts: 1,372
Welcome!
You will know when you've had enough...you have to want to "want to stop."
You already know where you're at and you can continue doing what you're doing until a decision is made for you - alcohol and/or drugs will stop you before you stop it. That is its goal...
Fear of the unknown is always scary. You're in good company here with many who know exactly where you're at.
Take care of yourself,
Hb
You will know when you've had enough...you have to want to "want to stop."
You already know where you're at and you can continue doing what you're doing until a decision is made for you - alcohol and/or drugs will stop you before you stop it. That is its goal...
Fear of the unknown is always scary. You're in good company here with many who know exactly where you're at.
Take care of yourself,
Hb
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,746
Welcome to SR Mrst. It seems to me that maybe you're more ready than you think to stop drinking. Coming here was a good first step to getting sober. We have lots of support and understanding to offer.
Resident
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Toronto, Ontario
Posts: 4,150
Welcome to SR MrsT
It took me some time, and an ultimatum, to be ready.
When you are ready there is plenty of support at this forum and we will be here for you.
Give it a little more thought.
What I did to determine if I was ready or not was make a list of the goods and bads of quitting.
There were several more good things about quitting than not quitting so I quit.
Maybe this would help in your determination if you are ready or not.
It took me some time, and an ultimatum, to be ready.
When you are ready there is plenty of support at this forum and we will be here for you.
Give it a little more thought.
What I did to determine if I was ready or not was make a list of the goods and bads of quitting.
There were several more good things about quitting than not quitting so I quit.
Maybe this would help in your determination if you are ready or not.
Member
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Dallas, TX
Posts: 113
I told my therapist that I didn't have a desire to stop drinking. Instead, I had a desire to have a desire to stop drinking. How messed up is that??!!!
We're all different but for me it's been the small steps that have counted. Here's what I've done:
1. See a therapist and spill the beans (be 100% honest on how much you use).
2. If he wants you to see a psychiatrist, go see one. Listen to what they say.
3. Here's the biggie - TRY one AA meeting. What do you have to lose?
Someone else said it here - the bottle or whaever else will always be there. Try small steps and see where it leads you. For me, I've woken up for 2 mornings with zero alcohol in my system and I can't begin to tell you how good it feels.
God Bless and Good Luck!
RacerX
We're all different but for me it's been the small steps that have counted. Here's what I've done:
1. See a therapist and spill the beans (be 100% honest on how much you use).
2. If he wants you to see a psychiatrist, go see one. Listen to what they say.
3. Here's the biggie - TRY one AA meeting. What do you have to lose?
Someone else said it here - the bottle or whaever else will always be there. Try small steps and see where it leads you. For me, I've woken up for 2 mornings with zero alcohol in my system and I can't begin to tell you how good it feels.
God Bless and Good Luck!
RacerX
Member
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Bangalore
Posts: 28
February 2
Goodwill
“Goodwill is best exemplified in service; proper service is ‘Doing the right thing for the right reason.’”
Basic Text, p. xv
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The spiritual core of our disease is self-centeredness. In dealing with others, the only motive our addiction taught us was selfishness—we wanted what we wanted when we wanted it. Obsession with self was rooted in the very ground of our lives. In recovery, how do we root self-obsession out?
We reverse the effects of our disease by applying a few very simple spiritual principles. To counteract the self-centeredness of our addiction, we learn to apply the principle of goodwill. Rather than seeking to serve only ourselves, we begin serving others. Rather than thinking only about what we can get out of a situation, we learn to think first of the welfare of others. When faced with a moral choice, we learn to stop, recall spiritual principles, and act appropriately.
As we begin “doing the right thing for the right reason,” we can detect a change in ourselves. Where once we were ruled by self-will, now we are guided by our goodwill for others. The chronic self-centeredness of addiction is losing its hold on us. We are learning to “practice these principles in all our affairs”; we are living in our recovery, not in our disease.
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Just for today: Wherever I am, whatever I do, I will seek to serve others, not just myself. When faced with a dilemma, I will try to do the right thing for the right reason.
Goodwill
“Goodwill is best exemplified in service; proper service is ‘Doing the right thing for the right reason.’”
Basic Text, p. xv
––––=––––
The spiritual core of our disease is self-centeredness. In dealing with others, the only motive our addiction taught us was selfishness—we wanted what we wanted when we wanted it. Obsession with self was rooted in the very ground of our lives. In recovery, how do we root self-obsession out?
We reverse the effects of our disease by applying a few very simple spiritual principles. To counteract the self-centeredness of our addiction, we learn to apply the principle of goodwill. Rather than seeking to serve only ourselves, we begin serving others. Rather than thinking only about what we can get out of a situation, we learn to think first of the welfare of others. When faced with a moral choice, we learn to stop, recall spiritual principles, and act appropriately.
As we begin “doing the right thing for the right reason,” we can detect a change in ourselves. Where once we were ruled by self-will, now we are guided by our goodwill for others. The chronic self-centeredness of addiction is losing its hold on us. We are learning to “practice these principles in all our affairs”; we are living in our recovery, not in our disease.
––––=––––
Just for today: Wherever I am, whatever I do, I will seek to serve others, not just myself. When faced with a dilemma, I will try to do the right thing for the right reason.
Member
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: SE and then South some more
Posts: 2,648
Well, we'll be here even if you're not ready. There have been several people who have been right where you are at right now that have come to this site.
Hope you'll keep posting and reading. This is a great supportive place to be. Welcome to SR!!!
Hope you'll keep posting and reading. This is a great supportive place to be. Welcome to SR!!!
not little, a stranger no more
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: in the crowd
Posts: 410
Welcome mrst!
I agree with what all the posters before me said. It's ok not to feel ready. Also, bravo for posting, I know it takes some courage. I was lurking for such a long time before I posted. The important thing is that you found your way over here, and that we are also here, that whenever you need support, ther will be people her that will listen.
I agree with what all the posters before me said. It's ok not to feel ready. Also, bravo for posting, I know it takes some courage. I was lurking for such a long time before I posted. The important thing is that you found your way over here, and that we are also here, that whenever you need support, ther will be people her that will listen.
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