Language of Letting Go-January 21 - Wants and Needs

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Language of Letting Go-January 21 - Wants and Needs

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Wants and Needs


Part of taking responsibility for us means taking responsibility for what we want and need, and knowing that's okay to do.

Learning to tune in to us, learning to listen to ourselves, is an art. It takes practice. We can use our ability to guess what others want and need and apply that skill to ourselves.

What does it sound like we might want and need? What would we guess would help us feel better? What are our feelings telling us? Our body? Our mind? Our intuition?

If we ask, then listen closely; we'll hear the answer.

We are wiser than we think, and we can be trusted.

What we want and need counts. It's important, and it's valid. It's okay to learn to participate in meeting our own needs.

We can learn to identify what we want and need and be patient with ourselves while we're learning.

Today, I will pay attention to what I want and need. I will not discount myself.


From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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If we ask, then listen closely; we'll hear the answer.
I struggled with this because I always added my thoughts of how others might react, or how MY wants and needs would be accepted by others.

I learned that it didn't matter. MY wants and needs are valid and I hold the key to setting boundaries to ensure I take good care of myself...regardless of what anyone else may think.

To be able to stand for my own values and what is right for me...even when I stand alone...has been a valuable lesson of recovery for me.

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Ann, thanks for putting these out there. Its becoming my daily medicine to get me through my time alone from my AH .. I am having a great day today so far. I think its my HP clearing the fog.
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