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Hi everyone
Joined recently, had a spectacular relapse after around 24 months of the most blissful sobriety. Struggling to come to terms with having slipped, missed a crucial day at work, broke a huge promise to myself and my wife, kids... Am picking up the pieces, but would appreciate an assist... I don't expect something for nothing, am open to assisting where I can, too.
Joined recently, had a spectacular relapse after around 24 months of the most blissful sobriety. Struggling to come to terms with having slipped, missed a crucial day at work, broke a huge promise to myself and my wife, kids... Am picking up the pieces, but would appreciate an assist... I don't expect something for nothing, am open to assisting where I can, too.
Follow Directions!
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Fredericksburg, Va.
Posts: 9,730
Welcome to SR Kanyon, so what did you do to stay sober those 2 years?
What did you quit or start doing that led you to decide it was okay for you to drink again?
BTW glad to see you are back at it.
What did you quit or start doing that led you to decide it was okay for you to drink again?
BTW glad to see you are back at it.
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,756
Welcome to SR Kanyon! I'm glad you joined our family.
I too just relapsed after several months of sobriety. Am now picking up the pieces and moving forward again. You can too. Let's stay sober together, ok?
(((hugs)))
I too just relapsed after several months of sobriety. Am now picking up the pieces and moving forward again. You can too. Let's stay sober together, ok?
(((hugs)))
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Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: South Riding, VA
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We are all alcoholics. Our compasses point to a drink. Some of us never pick up again...and some slip and jump back on immediately.
Some go out and stay out. You aren't one of them.
You are here.
Some go out and stay out. You aren't one of them.
You are here.
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Join Date: Jan 2009
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Originally Posted by Kanyon 
Hi everyone
Joined recently, had a spectacular relapse after around 24 months of the most blissful sobriety. Struggling to come to terms with having slipped, missed a crucial day at work, broke a huge promise to myself and my wife, kids... Am picking up the pieces, but would appreciate an assist... I don't expect something for nothing, am open to assisting where I can, too.
Joined recently, had a spectacular relapse after around 24 months of the most blissful sobriety. Struggling to come to terms with having slipped, missed a crucial day at work, broke a huge promise to myself and my wife, kids... Am picking up the pieces, but would appreciate an assist... I don't expect something for nothing, am open to assisting where I can, too.
Nonexistent Willpower
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Texas
Posts: 439
Hey Kanyon
Glad you made it!
I'm going to start a Slippers Anonymous meeting. I know it all too well.
I too would say "Don't beat yourself up, it's useless." I didn't truly understand the word "Powerless" until about the 6th relapse. Then it kinda sank in a little. So I made a decision to capitalize on the experience of over 100 men and women. (Hey, I'm an alcoholic, yes I will use you all I can...it's in my nature..)Today I've realized they were JUST like me. Their solution really works. It's only 164 pages long. It takes 2.5hrs. to read.
I haven't had to slip in 5 years, but I'm capable of it I know from experience. This time I'm not keeping myself sober. I'm not even struggling with drink. The problem has been removed. It does not exist for me.
Anyone can have it. It's promised.
I'm going to start a Slippers Anonymous meeting. I know it all too well.
I too would say "Don't beat yourself up, it's useless." I didn't truly understand the word "Powerless" until about the 6th relapse. Then it kinda sank in a little. So I made a decision to capitalize on the experience of over 100 men and women. (Hey, I'm an alcoholic, yes I will use you all I can...it's in my nature..)Today I've realized they were JUST like me. Their solution really works. It's only 164 pages long. It takes 2.5hrs. to read.
I haven't had to slip in 5 years, but I'm capable of it I know from experience. This time I'm not keeping myself sober. I'm not even struggling with drink. The problem has been removed. It does not exist for me.
Anyone can have it. It's promised.
Life is Grand
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Michigan
Posts: 2,039
Hi and welcome Kanyon 
I think (for me anyway) what would be the hardest thing to do after a relapse (believe me, I have had my share) would be to forgive myself for making a mistake, and that is what it was, a mistake. It is not a defect of chatacter to make a mistake, it is called being human. Then I would try to think about my feelings and actions leading up to the relapse after two years. I am sure your wife knows, possibly ask her if you were acting different. Maybe she can help in the future to mention that you are "not yourself". For me, if I am not working on my recovery, I am working on a relapse. There is no middle ground. Then jump back into the good life, and work that recovery. If you had two years sober, you know how to do it. Just never stop "doing it"! Please be kind to yourself, being able to forgive ourselves is one of the most powerful tools we have.
Cathy
I think (for me anyway) what would be the hardest thing to do after a relapse (believe me, I have had my share) would be to forgive myself for making a mistake, and that is what it was, a mistake. It is not a defect of chatacter to make a mistake, it is called being human. Then I would try to think about my feelings and actions leading up to the relapse after two years. I am sure your wife knows, possibly ask her if you were acting different. Maybe she can help in the future to mention that you are "not yourself". For me, if I am not working on my recovery, I am working on a relapse. There is no middle ground. Then jump back into the good life, and work that recovery. If you had two years sober, you know how to do it. Just never stop "doing it"! Please be kind to yourself, being able to forgive ourselves is one of the most powerful tools we have.
Cathy
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I had hit rock-bottom (for myself), had partied hard for a whole weekend, came back late the Sunday, and realised it had to stop. So it was the first time I had really promised myself and my wife and truly meant it!
That was the hardest part... I tried to stay fir and so on, and mostly succeeded. What I thought I could do was maintain my old friendship circles, that was a big mistake. I think spending time with them was eroding at my conviction, unbeknownst to me at the time, it was a subtle process... Then I just cracked...
That was the hardest part... I tried to stay fir and so on, and mostly succeeded. What I thought I could do was maintain my old friendship circles, that was a big mistake. I think spending time with them was eroding at my conviction, unbeknownst to me at the time, it was a subtle process... Then I just cracked...
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