tigger11

I went to the county court house at lunch today and submitted the paper work for an Order of Protection. A judge has probably reviewed it and made a decision, but I don't yet know what it is. I have to go back before 5pm to get the paperwork. Please pray that the nice judge grants me a temporary order of protection today. Either way, the request will go to trial in about 3 weeks at which time a determination will be made on a permanent (1 year) OP. If not then it's just a regular divorce.

I am afraid for my life. I know my SR friends (both alcoholics and codependents) understand the the need for protection against insanity and probably violence against me, but the judge doesn't necessarily share our knowledge or experience. Please pray for me!

Thanks!
Tigg

Startingover2

Praying for you! I really hope the judge sees what needs to be done.

laurie6781

You got it, prayers on the way.

Love and hugs,

nodaybut2day

tigger...I don't normally pray, but for you, I will.

Please let us know how it turns out.

tigger11

YAY - thanks for all your prayers!!!! The temporary order of protection was granted to me today!! The police will receive it tomorrow, and serve him with in the next day or two. He'll have to get out of my house, and then I can change the locks, reset the alarm and garage door code. Yay!!!

transformyself

Oh Tigger this is great news!!
Do you have tips from the dv shelter for dealing with him after he's evicted? Isn't that when guys tend to snap? I'm sorry, I hope I'm not ruining your happy moment, I just want to make sure you truly are safe from this guy..

Congratulations! Still prayin for you Sweet Tigger...

Live

And you didn't phone me! huff! LOL

Oh, sweetie...you can go home!!!!!

This brought tears to my eyes..and you can ask David...I am a tuff broad on the exterior, I don't cry.

Now, yes...be extra careful, as in super-duper careful.

I think maybe you might check with the DV counselor for tips?

WOW! Just wow!

I have to let this soak in, because I am going to have alot to say! Your ears will go numb! LOL

love you! hugs, smooches, more hugs!

Tena

ItsmeAlice

Wonderful news! Thank you for posting.

Alice

Cowgirl1265

Most excellent news, Tigger! Can't wait to see you safely ensconced in your OWN HOME.

bookwyrm

Brilliant news!

naive

oh tigger, i am thrilled.

and cautious too. i can't imagine he'll take it on the chin. i agree with livewyred, talk it through with the counselors at the shelter.

also, is there anyone that you can get to stay with you for the first few nights? i know what it's like to be jumpy everytime the refrigerator turns on.

can the police offer you any advice? here in the uk, they offered me a panic button in the house to press.

navie

nodaybut2day

Congrats tigger...I'm SO happy for you! You get to go home!! YAY!!

I second the suggestion to have someone stay with you for a little while, and perhaps even to check in on you regularly, especially in the evenings. Maybe I'm paranoid, but I've lived with a very sneaky and vindictive person for years and I can just imagine your X waiting a while for the dust to settle and then coming back to harass you when he thinks no one is looking...

Take good care of yourself (and the fur baby!)

tjp613

Frankly, if it were me, I'd get trained in the use of a firearm before I moved back home, then I'd sleep with a gun in the nightstand and one in the kitchen. I'd also take a self-defense course and I'd practice 3x a week.

tigger11

Live, I DID call you, like 8 times! No one answered and no answering machine. Pout.

Everyone - thanks! Here's my plan, just so you all can stop worrying.

1) I have a locksmith on standby to go change the locks as soon as casenet (a web site that will tell me when the OP has been served) tells me he's been served
2) Stopping by to pick up ammo on my way home. Have a 9mm handgun and a CCW permit. Will go everywhere with the handgun and the cell phone, even when I'm in the house.
3) Will have the alarm system code changed
4) Will change the garage door opener code, and get the new remote openers
5) Won't answer the phone unless I know the phone number, and it's not him.
6) If he tries to get in the house, or even ring the door bell, I'll immediately call 911, no talking or negotiating
7) Chain the back yard fence shut (it's a 6 foot fence)

As for having someone stay with me... I really don't want to do that. It would potentially put them in danger, and I don't want that. My dogs will bark if they hear anything, too.

Believe me, I'm not going into that house thinking a piece of paper will stop him. He'll be TICKED! And I'll be the reason for his TICKED-ness will be me. So I'll be ULTRA careful. Live, I probably need to give you my sister's phone number.

Hugs to all! Keep praying, please. This is just a temporary OP.

tjp613

Sounds like a great plan, Tigger. Don't forget to notify all of your neighbors, too. Tell them to call 911 if they see/hear anything odd.

I assume your DV counselors went over a safety plan with you in case he DOES end up in your house while you are there? Don't get cornered, don't go in the kitchen, keep papers in one place and close by, etc.? Here's a link just in case: Domestic Violence Safety TIPS

Here's another one: WomensLaw.org | Ending the Abusive Relationship

tigger11

Good link, tjp613 - also, forgot to mention I have 3 years of karate. Haven't been there in 3 years, but I remember the basics. Of course he claims to be a 6th degree black belt or some ridiculous thing, but he's got seriously bad knees, and hasn't done martial arts in at least 20 years.

tjp613

I added another link, Tigger. You sound like you're in good shape to defend yourself! I wish I had taken some self-defense classes! Bet you're glad now!!

tigger11

Sigh... he didn't get served yet.

Carol Star

I got this thing from Lowe's that rang in the house if anybody came in the driveway. Also do you have motion lights? Thick curtains? They do some stupid stuff in blackouts.....

tjp613

Grrrrrr!!! Was it supposed to be today for sure? Or was it like the TV repairmen..."We'll be there sometime between 1:00-5:00" and then they show up at 7:00?