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Hi,
To those who read about my mishap in dating the other week, let me just tell you that all of you were right in telling me to move on. He not only is seeing another woman, but also the woman before her...I was just next on the list I guess! He is also being sued by 2 banks and had a home foreclosed on.
I have known him for years and knew NONE of this before. YUCK! He is the nicest guy too. Charm can be deceiving. So glad that things didn't work out. HP looking out for me even though at the time I didn't like it.
Thank You HP!
To those who read about my mishap in dating the other week, let me just tell you that all of you were right in telling me to move on. He not only is seeing another woman, but also the woman before her...I was just next on the list I guess! He is also being sued by 2 banks and had a home foreclosed on.
I have known him for years and knew NONE of this before. YUCK! He is the nicest guy too. Charm can be deceiving. So glad that things didn't work out. HP looking out for me even though at the time I didn't like it.
Thank You HP!
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One night last week I had a dream that SR had added a forum where people could post details about the person they were considering dating: how many marriages, whether they were ever foreclosed, how well they kept a job, etc.
And we would all stand up and hold up numbers, like this:
...with a scale like
Run Like The Wind
Ease Your Way Toward the Door
Watch Carefully
etc.
Some days I think that wouldn't be a bad idea LOL
And we would all stand up and hold up numbers, like this:
...with a scale like
Run Like The Wind
Ease Your Way Toward the Door
Watch Carefully
etc.
Some days I think that wouldn't be a bad idea LOL
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Originally Posted by GiveLove 
how many marriages, whether they were ever foreclosed, how well they kept a job, etc.
Ha!Thanks and God bless us all,
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To Coyote: if they have since gotten their act together that would be a PLUS. It is the habitual and present junk that is worrisome.
I wonder if we need to do background checks just to date? This seems insane to me, but maybe it is MY picker that is off or at least askew...
I wonder if we need to do background checks just to date? This seems insane to me, but maybe it is MY picker that is off or at least askew...
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Hi everyone, this is my first post. I habitually have relationships with alcoholics, and the pain from this has led me here, hoping for some support and wisdom. I am aware of my not-so-attractive codependent,emotional side. I have ended a 4yr rollercoaster ride for the umpteenth time, it was sucking the life out of me, can't be the whipping boy anymore.
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I feel your pain, KatKrazy. I've spent 19 years of my life married to (2 different) alcoholics both into emotional abuse. Welcome to the best forum ever for support and a great place to help with healing!
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Thanks for your replies, Tigger 11, and Pelican. I feel not so alone already. I am a toxic relationship addict. I am in my mid 50's and in college. I have spent the better part of my adult years with unsuitable, unavailable men, with drug or alcohol abuse or both, I am the "fixer" for everyone but myself. I have gained much understanding of this addiction of mine, but need to delve into WHY and some tools to stop always selling myself short. It is an incredible journey to completely change oneself and strive for a peaceful life. My life has changed for the good, in many ways, and at times it just becomes overwhelming. I am happy to be here and look forward to sharing and recieving.
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Kat,
Why don't you start a new thread so that everyone here can meet you? I am not sure how to start one for someone else, but I can copy and paste your info into a new thread if you would like.
Hugs
Miss
Why don't you start a new thread so that everyone here can meet you? I am not sure how to start one for someone else, but I can copy and paste your info into a new thread if you would like.
Hugs
Miss
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Hello KatKrazy, and welcome to SoberRecovery
You can find the thread that MisFixit started for you by clicking here --> http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...kat-krazy.html
Mike
Originally Posted by KatKrazy
Thank you MissFixit, I'm not real savvy with the computer, if you start a new thread for me that would be great, let me know how to access.
Mike
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