Need avice
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Need avice
..i'm reaching out to the depths of sr wisdom here..ok
.i've met and be friended a family friend with serious..serious alcohol
issues..like 2 sometimes 3 bottles of op rum,per day..24/7..
..he's 53,now single and alone.
..works hard,but is drunk on the job..lost his licence to drive(thank god).
..i've taken him to his doc,today..got the the usual guidance..
..he wont listen..
..so..how do i help this fellow..he's a nice bloke..but very sick.????
.i've met and be friended a family friend with serious..serious alcohol
issues..like 2 sometimes 3 bottles of op rum,per day..24/7..
..he's 53,now single and alone.
..works hard,but is drunk on the job..lost his licence to drive(thank god).
..i've taken him to his doc,today..got the the usual guidance..
..he wont listen..
..so..how do i help this fellow..he's a nice bloke..but very sick.????
First he has to want to help himself. Glad he went to the DR. My doctor tried to talk to me about my drinking years ago. I sobered up for a bit then eventually went back to drinking. If he won't listen...I'm not sure what you can do. Be there for him when he ready....my best advice.
Oz you're a good man - but you know the score.
I'm sure you were like me - there's nothing anyone could have said to me to make me quit until I made up your mind to do it myself.
Thinking it's any different with your mate is only gonna bring you into frustration and depression, Oz.
Be supportive for your mate, but don't walk his journey for him - and don't let his struggle become yours, mate. You have one of your own.
It's not selfish - it's about teaching a man to catch his own fish, you know?
D
I'm sure you were like me - there's nothing anyone could have said to me to make me quit until I made up your mind to do it myself.
Thinking it's any different with your mate is only gonna bring you into frustration and depression, Oz.
Be supportive for your mate, but don't walk his journey for him - and don't let his struggle become yours, mate. You have one of your own.
It's not selfish - it's about teaching a man to catch his own fish, you know?
D
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Ozzy, don't let your good heart be the thing that brings you down...
It's one thing to share/ care. It's another to let yourself get caught up...
And a whole 'nother thing to know that there's a difference, and yet another to actually notice it as it happens.
Be careful, but for every success story there was somebody willing to try...
:ghug2
-TB
It's one thing to share/ care. It's another to let yourself get caught up...
And a whole 'nother thing to know that there's a difference, and yet another to actually notice it as it happens.
Be careful, but for every success story there was somebody willing to try...
:ghug2
-TB
Be honest with him and DON'T enable his drinking.
There were way too many people pussyfooting around me when I was still drinking, agreeing with my BS, helping me cover up my behaviour.
Take care.
There were way too many people pussyfooting around me when I was still drinking, agreeing with my BS, helping me cover up my behaviour.
Take care.
A good move OZ. If someone wants to drink and won't listen to any advice, then there's nothing you can do. I hope his stepdaughter and family realize this also. It's the hardest and most heartbreaking aspect of dealing with an alcoholic who won't listen, and they won't listen because they want to drink.
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