How I handled the mean email

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10-12-2009, 08:03 AM

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BohemiMamaof3

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How I handled the mean email

I am so glad I waited a few days rather than reacted immediately out of anger, hurt, etc. I could have ignored it completely, and considered that. Instead I wrote something like:
Dear Brother, Glad to finally hear from you. Welcome back to the east coast. Mom says you're in rehab and I was glad to hear that. Hope everything goes well for you. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Love, your sister.

10-12-2009, 05:17 PM

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ItsmeAlice

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Taking time to answer is helpful in so many ways. For me it gives me a chance to pick my battles. Do I really want to go down the road toward a futile argument with XABF or CoDa Mom or do I want to stick to the basic sentiments as you have and save my energies for more important things?

Very inspriring post, thank you!!

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10-12-2009, 07:14 PM

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Freedom1990

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I think you handled it beautifully. It's amazing what happens when we wait and don't react immediately. I bet you feel pretty good about writing that, don't you?

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10-12-2009, 07:17 PM

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That's great! A side benefit I have found to waiting and not being a part of the drama is that I feel better about me. When I get sucked in or react in agner, I feel such shame and spend a good amount of time beating myself up.

Thanks for the inspiration!