old habit's die hard?
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old habit's die hard?
Yesterday, was the 7th day out of recover center for my x-spouse. I felt like something would go wrong, cause I've felt way to good.
Last night he didn't stop by, we hadn't talked about him stopping. I had called his sister's around 7 no answer. Ok Kota, just a old habit stop worring. Do the dishes, laundry, feed the animals, get the kids supper, watch some tv...... go to bed early.
8 o'clock finally!!! Bed time!!!! I sit in the girls room with them still 3 and 5 cause they are scared. I find myself looking out the window down the road, is there a car coming...... no!
Go to bed Kota!!! Can't I have a head cold.... I stay up and watch FrieProof..... If you haven't seen it it's good, it's about commiting your life to the Lord, and never leaving your partner behind, in a fire. I cried. I got on my knees and prayed.
Wake up this morning.... get in the shower, wake the kids up.... should I call his sister's....nope, it's only a quarter till 7. Ok finsish up getting ready, feed the animals, get the kids in the truck. I'm at work, it's 8:30 finally. Call sisters...... Hello B. yada yada yada... her's Mr. Kota, Kota.... relief hit's me.... he is home, he's been home! He went to eat last night, and for a drive.... Thank God
I hope my old feelings of fear of something bad is going to happen will subside soon!!
Thanks for listening,
Kota:praying
Last night he didn't stop by, we hadn't talked about him stopping. I had called his sister's around 7 no answer. Ok Kota, just a old habit stop worring. Do the dishes, laundry, feed the animals, get the kids supper, watch some tv...... go to bed early.
8 o'clock finally!!! Bed time!!!! I sit in the girls room with them still 3 and 5 cause they are scared. I find myself looking out the window down the road, is there a car coming...... no!
Go to bed Kota!!! Can't I have a head cold.... I stay up and watch FrieProof..... If you haven't seen it it's good, it's about commiting your life to the Lord, and never leaving your partner behind, in a fire. I cried. I got on my knees and prayed.
Wake up this morning.... get in the shower, wake the kids up.... should I call his sister's....nope, it's only a quarter till 7. Ok finsish up getting ready, feed the animals, get the kids in the truck. I'm at work, it's 8:30 finally. Call sisters...... Hello B. yada yada yada... her's Mr. Kota, Kota.... relief hit's me.... he is home, he's been home! He went to eat last night, and for a drive.... Thank God
I hope my old feelings of fear of something bad is going to happen will subside soon!!
Thanks for listening,
Kota:praying
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Oh, I know what you mean by your post. I waited for him, constantly looking up and down the street to see if he was coming. Months of that. I would just cry.
I hate that feeling that something bad is going to happen. It's like a panic waiting to explode. A sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. Fear. Anticipation.
I just couldn't take living that way anymore. That's stress and Stress Kills and I want to start making healthier decisions in my life. I had to get rid of that stress because you know what? People don't change THAT much. They don't change the way they behave and live their lives that much. So those anxious feelings just never go away as long as you're with them. They may subside for a little while and then boom! it happens all over again. Someone drops a frickin' piano on your head, or you get punched in the gut.
NO MORE. Thanks for sharing! I really needed to get that out.
I hate that feeling that something bad is going to happen. It's like a panic waiting to explode. A sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. Fear. Anticipation.
I just couldn't take living that way anymore. That's stress and Stress Kills and I want to start making healthier decisions in my life. I had to get rid of that stress because you know what? People don't change THAT much. They don't change the way they behave and live their lives that much. So those anxious feelings just never go away as long as you're with them. They may subside for a little while and then boom! it happens all over again. Someone drops a frickin' piano on your head, or you get punched in the gut.
NO MORE. Thanks for sharing! I really needed to get that out.
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Yesterday, was the 7th day out of recover center for my x-spouse. I felt like something would go wrong, cause I've felt way to good.
........ Call sisters...... Hello B. yada yada yada... her's Mr. Kota, Kota.... relief hit's me.... he is home, he's been home! He went to eat last night, and for a drive.... Thank God
I hope my old feelings of fear of something bad is going to happen will subside soon!!
Thanks for listening,
Kota:praying
........ Call sisters...... Hello B. yada yada yada... her's Mr. Kota, Kota.... relief hit's me.... he is home, he's been home! He went to eat last night, and for a drive.... Thank God
I hope my old feelings of fear of something bad is going to happen will subside soon!!
Thanks for listening,
Kota:praying
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I have a question?
I still love this man, after all the hardship I've gone threw with him and his "diease". Would I be crazy to want something still with him?
I understand he needs more recovery time, that I as well as he has to take things one day at a time.
His last rehab, was more toward's the religious part..... which he was never. But seems to be now. Thought about asking him to go to church as a family.
I know I will disappoint my parents and siblings even thinking this. But I can't help it. Again.... I'm I stupid to have these feelings.
He's coming over tonight... per my request, I planned on taking him to see a band friday night. Thought about going to a drive-in movie with the kids saturday, and church on sunday, want to talk it over with him.
Thanks again,
Kota
:ghug3
I still love this man, after all the hardship I've gone threw with him and his "diease". Would I be crazy to want something still with him?
I understand he needs more recovery time, that I as well as he has to take things one day at a time.
His last rehab, was more toward's the religious part..... which he was never. But seems to be now. Thought about asking him to go to church as a family.
I know I will disappoint my parents and siblings even thinking this. But I can't help it. Again.... I'm I stupid to have these feelings.
He's coming over tonight... per my request, I planned on taking him to see a band friday night. Thought about going to a drive-in movie with the kids saturday, and church on sunday, want to talk it over with him.
Thanks again,
Kota
:ghug3
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I have a question?
I still love this man, after all the hardship I've gone threw with him and his "diease". Would I be crazy to want something still with him?
I understand he needs more recovery time, that I as well as he has to take things one day at a time.
His last rehab, was more toward's the religious part..... which he was never. But seems to be now. Thought about asking him to go to church as a family.
I know I will disappoint my parents and siblings even thinking this. But I can't help it. Again.... I'm I stupid to have these feelings.
He's coming over tonight... per my request, I planned on taking him to see a band friday night. Thought about going to a drive-in movie with the kids saturday, and church on sunday, want to talk it over with him.
Thanks again,
Kota
:ghug3
I still love this man, after all the hardship I've gone threw with him and his "diease". Would I be crazy to want something still with him?
I understand he needs more recovery time, that I as well as he has to take things one day at a time.
His last rehab, was more toward's the religious part..... which he was never. But seems to be now. Thought about asking him to go to church as a family.
I know I will disappoint my parents and siblings even thinking this. But I can't help it. Again.... I'm I stupid to have these feelings.
He's coming over tonight... per my request, I planned on taking him to see a band friday night. Thought about going to a drive-in movie with the kids saturday, and church on sunday, want to talk it over with him.
Thanks again,
Kota
:ghug3
If your guy is seeking treatment or is willing to go to some kind of counseling, then he apparently has some gumption to change things. I pray that he will decide that he wants sobriety more than anything and will do what it takes to get there. I don't encourage anyone to throw in the towel until they have exhausted their options to have a healthy marriage/relationship and their significant other continues to abuse them and show disrespect to them or the family.
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You can also love someone and know you can't live with them.~Misty
That is where I am right now. He's getting a apartment, and working on himself, and building a good relationship with the kids.
We where married young I was 20 he was 27. where together 10 years married almost 8 years.
When he was dranking he was verbal abusive, he choked me twice and head butted me once, while drinking, while not drinking, no abuse. That's why it's so hard, he's not the same person sober, or drunk.... like many I'm sure!!!!
He's asked God for forgivness, and hope's that I find it in my heart someday to give him forginess for the past. I do forgive him, I just haven't forgotten, and I'd like to see some more time in a sober recovery to change anything. I fear if I wait to long, he'll give up on me coming around as well.
That is where I am right now. He's getting a apartment, and working on himself, and building a good relationship with the kids.
We where married young I was 20 he was 27. where together 10 years married almost 8 years.
When he was dranking he was verbal abusive, he choked me twice and head butted me once, while drinking, while not drinking, no abuse. That's why it's so hard, he's not the same person sober, or drunk.... like many I'm sure!!!!
He's asked God for forgivness, and hope's that I find it in my heart someday to give him forginess for the past. I do forgive him, I just haven't forgotten, and I'd like to see some more time in a sober recovery to change anything. I fear if I wait to long, he'll give up on me coming around as well.
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You can also love someone and know you can't live with them.~Misty
That is where I am right now. He's getting a apartment, and working on himself, and building a good relationship with the kids. .......
I do forgive him, I just haven't forgotten, and I'd like to see some more time in a sober recovery to change anything. I fear if I wait to long, he'll give up on me coming around as well.
That is where I am right now. He's getting a apartment, and working on himself, and building a good relationship with the kids. .......
I do forgive him, I just haven't forgotten, and I'd like to see some more time in a sober recovery to change anything. I fear if I wait to long, he'll give up on me coming around as well.
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