Please God, no more worplaces with drugs, alcohol, pornography
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Please God, no more worplaces with drugs, alcohol, pornography
How sad to wish for a working environment that does not have porn, alcohol, and drugs. I'm sick of it. I've been unemployed for a year and have been happy to be out of the toxic workplaces. My last workplace was crawling with all of it. The boss was getting prescription pain killers from a guy in one of the departments and then gave it to his best friend who was head of another department. He called me one day and told me he and a bunch of the other guys had gone to a ti**y bar. Another job I had, I went to work one morning and there was a hole in the wall into the hallway of the building! Apparently, the owner was a cocaine addict and owed someone money. They stole all the computers in the office for repayment. Another job, the owner's best friend was a doctor and he was getting pills from him and they would bar hop together. I came to work one morning and someone had been using my computer to look at porn.
And, I look like a job hopper!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please God, guide me to a workplace that does not have drugs, alcohol, or pornography. Because if you don't do that and I wind up with the same stuff going on, then all HE** will be breaking loose!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe I should get a job with the DEA!!
And, I look like a job hopper!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please God, guide me to a workplace that does not have drugs, alcohol, or pornography. Because if you don't do that and I wind up with the same stuff going on, then all HE** will be breaking loose!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe I should get a job with the DEA!!
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I hope you find that safe place, too, Worthy.
When I read about the collapse of the banks, Wall Street, etc, nearly always buried in the story is a mention that the head of the bank or the investment firm used drugs or had a drinking history. I shake my head and wonder how many people in America know that it was not only greed which nearly destroyed our economy.....it was drugs.
People still don't get it, do they?
Keep praying for that good workplace. Wishing you all the best,
Bluejay
When I read about the collapse of the banks, Wall Street, etc, nearly always buried in the story is a mention that the head of the bank or the investment firm used drugs or had a drinking history. I shake my head and wonder how many people in America know that it was not only greed which nearly destroyed our economy.....it was drugs.
People still don't get it, do they?
Keep praying for that good workplace. Wishing you all the best,
Bluejay
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Heck, I didn't even get it until I got into Alanon. Now I know why I always felt so paranoid and scared! I tried drinking along with them, so I wouldn't lose my job. I would NEVER get involved in drugs or porn though. I will NEVER participate in drinking with them ever again! I redid my resume to be more honest. What do you think?
2007-2008 lighting company
Owner was addicted to prescription pain killers. He was being supplied by the red-haired guy at the front desk, who also was supplying it to the owner’s best friend, the Director of Operations. They liked going to ti**y bars too. That’s what the owner told me. I was laid off because all the drinking buddies got brand new cars when I was begging for a raise so I could pay my bills.
2006-2007 property management company
The property managers had a heck of a time reconciling rent payments, property management. Bills at the end of the month. They were going crazy, staying up all night trying to reconcile their property numbers. Their reports did not match. I pulled a report on my end and it was totally different. I sent it to one of the property managers and I don’t think the company was very pleased with my actions. Oh, and there were lots of lawsuits because of black mold in their apartments. I felt a little paranoid, just like I did at the other jobs.
2004-2005 laptop sales
Owner was on prescription pills. His friend was a doctor, so he was getting them
With an actual prescription! It’s all about who you know! Came to work one morning
And someone had been using my computer. They forgot to close the window to the porn
Site they were using. The owner would call me and was upset because I didn’t wake him
Up to be at a meeting on time. Poor guy. He was out at night clubs the night before, so
He was really tired.
2003-2004 yacht sales company
The manager had an awfully red face. He couldn’t stand the other manager and would Constantly tell me so. The other manager left because he couldn’t stand working with him anymore. I followed suit.
2002-2003 construction company
One of the employees was retiring, so the company decided to have a party for him. The women were not invited because there were strippers there. I’m glad the office manager placed an ad from a politician in my pay envelope. I wouldn’t have known to vote for!
I worked at a mortgage company, too. I wasn’t there long. I walked through the building to go to the office one morning and noticed someone had cut a hole into the wall of the office. All the computers were gone. Apparently, the owner owed someone money for his cocaine habit.
I know I look like a job hopper. I just can’t seem to concentrate. I am working on my concentration skills, but I am first working on why I feel so paranoid all the time.
2007-2008 lighting company
Owner was addicted to prescription pain killers. He was being supplied by the red-haired guy at the front desk, who also was supplying it to the owner’s best friend, the Director of Operations. They liked going to ti**y bars too. That’s what the owner told me. I was laid off because all the drinking buddies got brand new cars when I was begging for a raise so I could pay my bills.
2006-2007 property management company
The property managers had a heck of a time reconciling rent payments, property management. Bills at the end of the month. They were going crazy, staying up all night trying to reconcile their property numbers. Their reports did not match. I pulled a report on my end and it was totally different. I sent it to one of the property managers and I don’t think the company was very pleased with my actions. Oh, and there were lots of lawsuits because of black mold in their apartments. I felt a little paranoid, just like I did at the other jobs.
2004-2005 laptop sales
Owner was on prescription pills. His friend was a doctor, so he was getting them
With an actual prescription! It’s all about who you know! Came to work one morning
And someone had been using my computer. They forgot to close the window to the porn
Site they were using. The owner would call me and was upset because I didn’t wake him
Up to be at a meeting on time. Poor guy. He was out at night clubs the night before, so
He was really tired.
2003-2004 yacht sales company
The manager had an awfully red face. He couldn’t stand the other manager and would Constantly tell me so. The other manager left because he couldn’t stand working with him anymore. I followed suit.
2002-2003 construction company
One of the employees was retiring, so the company decided to have a party for him. The women were not invited because there were strippers there. I’m glad the office manager placed an ad from a politician in my pay envelope. I wouldn’t have known to vote for!
I worked at a mortgage company, too. I wasn’t there long. I walked through the building to go to the office one morning and noticed someone had cut a hole into the wall of the office. All the computers were gone. Apparently, the owner owed someone money for his cocaine habit.
I know I look like a job hopper. I just can’t seem to concentrate. I am working on my concentration skills, but I am first working on why I feel so paranoid all the time.
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Hi worthy! I understand 100%... all I can say is I need to focus on doing my job right...
if people are busy checking out all the new female hires, with wine advertisements in their cubicle and bikini models as a desktop... its the job of management to tackle all that...
I won't change an addict or someone with bad taste, or make a disrespectful person start respecting... very frustrating I know... but better not to engange. Oh I can think of so many examples... last week a coworker sent a macho email... I was going to answer but I thought it was not worth it, I just saw the subject and deleted it right away... if a guy in his 30s has no education... do you think an email or words from me would change anything?
I get cat calls daily when I walk to my job... very frustrating to wake up and dress professional and study/work hard so someone can yell at you on the street... sheesh that makes me SO MAD...
I say wake me up after a few reincarnations where there is equality and respect.
Good luck!!
if people are busy checking out all the new female hires, with wine advertisements in their cubicle and bikini models as a desktop... its the job of management to tackle all that...
I won't change an addict or someone with bad taste, or make a disrespectful person start respecting... very frustrating I know... but better not to engange. Oh I can think of so many examples... last week a coworker sent a macho email... I was going to answer but I thought it was not worth it, I just saw the subject and deleted it right away... if a guy in his 30s has no education... do you think an email or words from me would change anything?
I get cat calls daily when I walk to my job... very frustrating to wake up and dress professional and study/work hard so someone can yell at you on the street... sheesh that makes me SO MAD...
I say wake me up after a few reincarnations where there is equality and respect.
Good luck!!
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Maybe I should. Maybe the employer who doesn't tolerate that kind of stuff will hire me. Or, are they all like that? I'm tired of making up excuses why I am no longer with the company. I am tired of having no money to feed my daughter. If I am in the same room with someone who has illegal drugs, am I not going to be a suspect also? Aren't I in harm's way? God is my employer now. I'll let God decide where I need to go and what to do.
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I have told prospective employers outright that I left my previous job (this was when I was younger) because the management used illegal drugs, and allowed the employees to do so as well, and I felt my personal safety was jeopardized.
I didn't put it in my resume, but I saw no reason not to explain that when asked in person. It was true. And yes, I did get hired. And no, there were no drugs at the new job. Good luck finding work!!
I didn't put it in my resume, but I saw no reason not to explain that when asked in person. It was true. And yes, I did get hired. And no, there were no drugs at the new job. Good luck finding work!!
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Thank you Worthy for posting this.
When I first got into Recovery I discovered that this stuff is EVERYWHERE. Living in my own little world, consumed by what I was doing, I never noticed. And then, as some folks have commented on SR before, I started to view these things as funny (joining in with the guys who would make jokes and boasts about these things) until the point where I just accepted it. All of this without THINKING.
Once I got into Recovery, I started to see it for what it was. Some time later, I had a boyfriend who went to a bachelor party and they hired a $tripper and afterward told me what happened on the person's living room floor. I honestly never knew they did those things; I thought they just took off their clothes and danced around. Duhhhh...
Sorry to say that even though I really liked this person and he was otherwise a "good" person with a good heart (AND who was neither alcoholic nor addicted!), I was very hurt and disappointed that this man was participating in this kind of behavior. Even though he said he didn't do anything with the $tripper, he just watched, I felt so uncomfortable and even afraid. When he went to the "Hedonism" vacation place in the Caribbean with a bunch of guys, that did it. The relationship was over. It still took me years to get out of that relationship.
But at least I know now (like you) how people accept such sickness in their lives by watching it, participating in it, and remaining silent about it. Today, I REFUSE. They can call me what they like, "Prude," "Puritanical," "Religious Fanatic," whatever. I know what and who I am because I've done the work on ME to get to this point. I can now identify when people (especially men) use excuses, blame, name-calling, rationalizations, etc, even the Bill of Rights of the United States Constitution, to support, legalize, justify and continue ADDICTION. It's not just drugs and alcohol they do this about.
Thanks again for sharing your post and making me think about this.
The whole world is turning their heads and participating in and allowing it to continue without speaking out.
When I first got into Recovery I discovered that this stuff is EVERYWHERE. Living in my own little world, consumed by what I was doing, I never noticed. And then, as some folks have commented on SR before, I started to view these things as funny (joining in with the guys who would make jokes and boasts about these things) until the point where I just accepted it. All of this without THINKING.
Once I got into Recovery, I started to see it for what it was. Some time later, I had a boyfriend who went to a bachelor party and they hired a $tripper and afterward told me what happened on the person's living room floor. I honestly never knew they did those things; I thought they just took off their clothes and danced around. Duhhhh...
Sorry to say that even though I really liked this person and he was otherwise a "good" person with a good heart (AND who was neither alcoholic nor addicted!), I was very hurt and disappointed that this man was participating in this kind of behavior. Even though he said he didn't do anything with the $tripper, he just watched, I felt so uncomfortable and even afraid. When he went to the "Hedonism" vacation place in the Caribbean with a bunch of guys, that did it. The relationship was over. It still took me years to get out of that relationship.
But at least I know now (like you) how people accept such sickness in their lives by watching it, participating in it, and remaining silent about it. Today, I REFUSE. They can call me what they like, "Prude," "Puritanical," "Religious Fanatic," whatever. I know what and who I am because I've done the work on ME to get to this point. I can now identify when people (especially men) use excuses, blame, name-calling, rationalizations, etc, even the Bill of Rights of the United States Constitution, to support, legalize, justify and continue ADDICTION. It's not just drugs and alcohol they do this about.
Thanks again for sharing your post and making me think about this.
The whole world is turning their heads and participating in and allowing it to continue without speaking out.
Psalm 118:24
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My work place used to be like this. Most of those people have long been fired or quit. It's really hard to find a job in this economy. Not sure where you are in recovery but, if your recovery is good, you can do your job and go home each day.
The Serenity Prayer works wonders to start each day.
The Serenity Prayer works wonders to start each day.
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