I need some help with a boyfriend and his devil
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I need some help with a boyfriend and his devil
I need help.
I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 years now and he has done really great until recently when he relapsed. He had been clean for the entire time, but all it took was him to meet some loser and BAM he relapsed. He has been off and on for the past 6 months now. He is in a methadone clinic, but he has already relapsed since being in the program. He started school, we hoped that this would be a positive focus for him, but within the first week he messed up again. He goes in and out of it, one minute he is back to his old ways and then he comes to us and tells us he wants help. His entire family is on the last leg with him and nearly about to abandon him all together.
He wants to go to rehab but has no financial backing to do so. He has called several places but continously gets the run around. Does anyone know of any free rehab programs in the Bay Area of California?
I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 years now and he has done really great until recently when he relapsed. He had been clean for the entire time, but all it took was him to meet some loser and BAM he relapsed. He has been off and on for the past 6 months now. He is in a methadone clinic, but he has already relapsed since being in the program. He started school, we hoped that this would be a positive focus for him, but within the first week he messed up again. He goes in and out of it, one minute he is back to his old ways and then he comes to us and tells us he wants help. His entire family is on the last leg with him and nearly about to abandon him all together.
He wants to go to rehab but has no financial backing to do so. He has called several places but continously gets the run around. Does anyone know of any free rehab programs in the Bay Area of California?
I urge you to read some of the Stickies at the top of the page of this forum. You, my dear, didn't cause this, cannot control it, and definitely cannot cure it. I didn't go to rehab for my opiate addiction. I went to an addictionologist and I paid for it by working overtime. Nobody helped me. It was my problem, and I was responsible to find my own way to get and stay clean. You can't help him with this. The best you can do is to let him fall. If you keep helping him, he'll only use you up, too.
Love,
KJ
Love,
KJ
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I urge you to read some of the Stickies at the top of the page of this forum. You, my dear, didn't cause this, cannot control it, and definitely cannot cure it. I didn't go to rehab for my opiate addiction. I went to an addictionologist and I paid for it by working overtime. Nobody helped me. It was my problem, and I was responsible to find my own way to get and stay clean. You can't help him with this. The best you can do is to let him fall. If you keep helping him, he'll only use you up, too.
Love,
KJ
Love,
KJ
This advice is coming to you via a very close friend of mine who overcame addiction by himself many years ago. until I heard this from him, I used to think exactly like you do about my (now ex) boyfriend. Best of luck
In San Francisco, the best place is called
"Joe Healy"
It is part of the Baker Places Organization.
Other places to check:
Haight Ashbury Free Clinics Inc.
Walden House
SFDPH Treatment Access Program
http://www.baartprograms.com/
San Francisco General Hospital Ward 93.
Ohlhoff Recovery Programs
"Joe Healy"
It is part of the Baker Places Organization.
Other places to check:
Haight Ashbury Free Clinics Inc.
Walden House
SFDPH Treatment Access Program
http://www.baartprograms.com/
San Francisco General Hospital Ward 93.
Ohlhoff Recovery Programs
The old saying you can lead a horse to water.... I think applies. Be careful. Active addicts can be very dangerous for otherwise sane people. Alanon type support may help as well as some of the great advice listed above and archived oN the friends and family threads.
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