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Old 09-08-2009, 01:26 AM
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It's been an interesting six months that is for certain! My nephews, soon to be legally my sons (YAY!), are all doing well. We've had a few snags along the way while we integrated them into our family, but thankfully those were few and far between.

My addicted sister and her boyfriend were recently sentenced (finally), and I had hoped that I would feel some sort of closure, but all it left me feeling was disappointed. Disappointed in her, disappointed in the system, just bleh. I have started to realize that I cannot depend on her for any sort of real information as to what is happening. I've had to depend on the social workers who were attending the hearings for the children to get information. I worry that she has killed off some pretty serious brain cells because she just acts like she's not even present for these things. Recently Dad asked her if she was "behaving" and she says "Yes, except I mouthed off at a guard and they yelled at me."

I have accepted that I cannot "fix" her, and I am focusing instead on raising these beautiful children. The adoption should be finalized sometime this month, and then perhaps we can just breathe for a bit. She was given 10 yrs with mandatory serving of 30%, which means since she's already had a year in that she will be there for only two years. That's if they don't parole her instantly. I worry since her BF got the same amount of time. I know that he will go right back to this. Call it a gut feeling, and she will go back to him, and we will be back at square one. She's already stated that she wants more children, and I dread a repeat of the entire ordeal, but in the interim we are still kicking and breathing. Hubby is finally home from the middle east, and is adjusting to our new family of six!

So our update is happy, and functional and honestly there are days when it just seems as natural as breathing to be a mother of four boys. Just as natural as it was being just the mother of one, albeit a little more tiring! LOL
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Old 09-08-2009, 04:51 AM
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Those boys are so blessed to have you and your husband to be there for them! :ghug2
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Old 09-08-2009, 08:06 AM
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Those boys are so blessed to have you and your husband to be there for them! :ghug2
Ditto and God Bless the Child.

Keeping you all in my prayers.

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Old 09-08-2009, 09:11 AM
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I'm very happy for your family and sad for your sister (but more happy than sad).

You are an angel for taking this responsibility, and those boys can know that they are truly loved and important to someone. Thanks to you and your husband they can have a sense of "belonging", which is so important to us all as humans.

Kudos and admiration!
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Old 09-08-2009, 03:00 PM
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Thank you so much for letting us know that things are going well for you, hubby, and the boys. I'm sorry about your sister, but I pray she finds her bottom soon.

Hugs and prayers!

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You and your husband are wonderful to be there for those kids...Bless you!!

It's so sad...I hope truly that your sister does not continue the progression...Perhaps the time in jail will help the miracle happen and give her brain time to heal. Keepign you all in my thoughts
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Thank you for the update. You & your hubby are a blessing for those kids.
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Your story brought chills to me. I'm a teacher and see so many kids who don't have a wonderful aunt and uncle to love them. God has blessed these children with you.
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You and your hubby have brought happiness into these childrens lives that would have never been there....kudos for being the brave mom of 4 boys. Enjoy~~
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Best wishes for all future happiness and serenity!

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You are getting on with what needs to be done and with such
a wonderful attitude . I applaud you
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