I finally left
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I finally left
Well I moved everything out of my agf's house. I warned her that I would not put up with another of her drunk drama filled nights and I didnt. I left but not after she hit me and was abusive. She kept coming at me and I was finally fed up with this because she had done this three or four times before. Well everytime she would attack me I would push her or throw her off me. One time when I threw her she must have hit her face on something and it bruised it.
I called the police after I moved out and reported what happened. They checked on her and saw the bruise on her face. Im pretty sure they think I hit her. She called me and told me that they want a written report from her. She told the officers that she was attacking me and I threw her which caused the bruise. She said shes not sure if she will write the report and that the officers didnt take pictures. I want this nightmare to end. I just want it over and I hope this does not escalate into a legal situation. I never hit her, never slapped her and it was the first time where I actually pushed her away from me.
I called the police after I moved out and reported what happened. They checked on her and saw the bruise on her face. Im pretty sure they think I hit her. She called me and told me that they want a written report from her. She told the officers that she was attacking me and I threw her which caused the bruise. She said shes not sure if she will write the report and that the officers didnt take pictures. I want this nightmare to end. I just want it over and I hope this does not escalate into a legal situation. I never hit her, never slapped her and it was the first time where I actually pushed her away from me.
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Good for you for taking action before the cops came to pick either of you up to go to jail. Someone has to be the one to break this cycle.
You came to a point where you were having to defend yourself against her attacks and in the process you caused her physical harm. You are right that you may still have to answer to that at some point. What is going to count in your favor is that she A) she initially told the police what really happened. Anything she changes her story to later will be noted as an inconsistency and challenged. B) You left to avoid the confrontation and to keep from having to defend yourself further or my fervently. Had you been the aggressor, the likelihood of you being the one to leave without being escorted by law enforcement is less.
My suggestion is to avoid her for the time being. Don't discuss the 'case' with her. She is more than likely going to use her filing a report as a means to manipulate things in her favor. You know, as in saying she won't file a report against you if you come back and make nice. No way, nothing doing. If she wants to file a report, so be it. At some point in time we have to face our part in our relationships. You are limiting your liability, but you still have a share in what became of the two of you. I suspect you will be able to own up to your role far more readily than she.
I wish you the best. Keep posting!!
Alice
You came to a point where you were having to defend yourself against her attacks and in the process you caused her physical harm. You are right that you may still have to answer to that at some point. What is going to count in your favor is that she A) she initially told the police what really happened. Anything she changes her story to later will be noted as an inconsistency and challenged. B) You left to avoid the confrontation and to keep from having to defend yourself further or my fervently. Had you been the aggressor, the likelihood of you being the one to leave without being escorted by law enforcement is less.
My suggestion is to avoid her for the time being. Don't discuss the 'case' with her. She is more than likely going to use her filing a report as a means to manipulate things in her favor. You know, as in saying she won't file a report against you if you come back and make nice. No way, nothing doing. If she wants to file a report, so be it. At some point in time we have to face our part in our relationships. You are limiting your liability, but you still have a share in what became of the two of you. I suspect you will be able to own up to your role far more readily than she.
I wish you the best. Keep posting!!
Alice
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