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Old 07-29-2009, 05:19 PM
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Unhappy detach?

I need your help. My son is in jail again due to drugs. He was not ready to go into a treatment program until after he was arrested. People have been telling me to detach from him and have no contact. Will this help or make things worse?
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Old 07-29-2009, 05:20 PM
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Hi and Welcome,

I think you need to do what feels right for you. Focus on yourself. You can find lots of support here as there are two forums for Friends & Families and you might also want to check out AlAnon or NarAnon.
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Old 07-29-2009, 05:28 PM
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Welcome tiredgrandma.

I can't give any better advice than Anna's.
Read around, especially the family and friends forums

I hope you'll find something that helps you decide what the right thing to do is
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Old 07-29-2009, 05:37 PM
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Welcome.

I think contact is fine, but don't do things for him that he needs to do for himself.
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Old 07-29-2009, 05:43 PM
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Hi and welcome to SR!
Anna's post says it all.
I understand your fears...
I am the mother of an alcoholic(25).
I came here two years ago frantic and full of fear, convinced it was my job to fix her. Between Friends and Family Forums, and Al-Anon, I learned about her disease, and that I couldn't control it, cure it or fix it. I learned to separate my process from hers, detach and keep the focus on me and turn her over to her HP and trust His plan for her.
I am glad you have found us...

Edit: I should add that today she will have a month sober tomorrow after many relapses and 8 years of using

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Old 07-29-2009, 05:53 PM
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Welcome to the Sober Recovery community.

Depending on where you live, there may be some dedicated
people of A.A. or N.A. that are taking a meeting into the jail.
Who knows, your son maybe already attending one tonight?
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Old 07-29-2009, 05:58 PM
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Welcome to SR!

I hope you'll check out the Friends and Family Forums.
51Anna gave you great advice, and Grateful2B as well.

Have you considered an Al-Anon group in your area for the 3-D support as well?
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