detach?
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detach?
I need your help. My son is in jail again due to drugs. He was not ready to go into a treatment program until after he was arrested. People have been telling me to detach from him and have no contact. Will this help or make things worse?
Hi and Welcome,
I think you need to do what feels right for you. Focus on yourself. You can find lots of support here as there are two forums for Friends & Families and you might also want to check out AlAnon or NarAnon.
I think you need to do what feels right for you. Focus on yourself. You can find lots of support here as there are two forums for Friends & Families and you might also want to check out AlAnon or NarAnon.
Welcome tiredgrandma.
I can't give any better advice than Anna's.
Read around, especially the family and friends forums
I hope you'll find something that helps you decide what the right thing to do is
D
I can't give any better advice than Anna's.
Read around, especially the family and friends forums
I hope you'll find something that helps you decide what the right thing to do is
D
Hi and welcome to SR!
Anna's post says it all.
I understand your fears...
I am the mother of an alcoholic(25).
I came here two years ago frantic and full of fear, convinced it was my job to fix her. Between Friends and Family Forums, and Al-Anon, I learned about her disease, and that I couldn't control it, cure it or fix it. I learned to separate my process from hers, detach and keep the focus on me and turn her over to her HP and trust His plan for her.
I am glad you have found us...
Edit: I should add that today she will have a month sober tomorrow after many relapses and 8 years of using
Anna's post says it all.
I understand your fears...
I am the mother of an alcoholic(25).
I came here two years ago frantic and full of fear, convinced it was my job to fix her. Between Friends and Family Forums, and Al-Anon, I learned about her disease, and that I couldn't control it, cure it or fix it. I learned to separate my process from hers, detach and keep the focus on me and turn her over to her HP and trust His plan for her.
I am glad you have found us...
Edit: I should add that today she will have a month sober tomorrow after many relapses and 8 years of using
Last edited by grateful2b; 07-29-2009 at 06:05 PM.
Welcome to the Sober Recovery community.
Depending on where you live, there may be some dedicated
people of A.A. or N.A. that are taking a meeting into the jail.
Who knows, your son maybe already attending one tonight?
Depending on where you live, there may be some dedicated
people of A.A. or N.A. that are taking a meeting into the jail.
Who knows, your son maybe already attending one tonight?
Welcome to SR!
I hope you'll check out the Friends and Family Forums.
51Anna gave you great advice, and Grateful2B as well.
Have you considered an Al-Anon group in your area for the 3-D support as well?
I hope you'll check out the Friends and Family Forums.
51Anna gave you great advice, and Grateful2B as well.
Have you considered an Al-Anon group in your area for the 3-D support as well?
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