TOPIC: If I Need Help I Go Back To The Basics And Ask For Help. Do You?
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TOPIC: If I Need Help I Go Back To The Basics And Ask For Help. Do You?
Hi Im Sharon and Im an Alcoholic.
By the Grace of my HP and people
like you here in SR I havent found
it necessary to pick up a drink of
alcohol since 8-11-90.
For that and you I am truely grateful.
When I need help with a situation
in my life I emmediately refer back
to what I learned in the beginning
of my recovery days. It's the basics
that are the simpliest to follow.
I have also come back here to my
SR family a many many times over
the years for ur suggestions and
guidance.
For that again Im truely grateful.
Ive learned early on that there isnt
a thing i need to worry about nor
have to go thru alone. EVER.
I have gone thru many changes in
my life over the past yrs. Divorce,
relocating, jobs, hip replacement
and more.
Today I am happy to say all is well
and im enjoying life and living free from
the distruction of alcohol a day at a
time.
Im in my 5 week since hip replacement
and doing great. So great that my husband
and I took our Harley out for a spin this
past weekend and I was pain free.
We are planning our first out of town
road trip very soon with a trailer
connected and we cant wait.
I have a situation however....and it
involves possibly going back to
Ambrosia Bakery :: Fresh Mardi Gras King Cakes from Louisiana where i
worked for a yr and a half since this
past Dec.
I visited the bakery last Tuesday not
knowing when i would hear back from
them. I have begun to feel comfortable
not working, getting up early
and looking forward to our road trip.
Yesterday i got an email from the
bakery wanting me to call them and
now im unsure of what to do.
My husband is comfortable without me
working and he wants me to have weekends
off so we can travel.
In a way i miss my buddies at the bakery
and yet i want my freedom. I have had
situations at all my jobs when it came
to following rules and authority. I know
if i return things will be the same unless
i change something in me.
I dont know if i am willing to let others
tell me what to do at this point in my
life. Dont get me wrong, i do listen and
follow authority to a certain point....my
problem is how they talk/yell, scold, order
me about.
Im not stupid, nor dumb, nor the brightest
pupil on the planet....i can still use some
discipline. ....in a gentle way.
So now im using my program for guidance
into what to do. Turning my will and life
over to my HP as i understand Him.
At 50 yrs old, i shouldnt be burdened with
difficulties of life yet i am. I hate making
decisions so what to do?
Go back to work or ride ride ride?????
What would you do?
By the Grace of my HP and people
like you here in SR I havent found
it necessary to pick up a drink of
alcohol since 8-11-90.
For that and you I am truely grateful.
When I need help with a situation
in my life I emmediately refer back
to what I learned in the beginning
of my recovery days. It's the basics
that are the simpliest to follow.
I have also come back here to my
SR family a many many times over
the years for ur suggestions and
guidance.
For that again Im truely grateful.
Ive learned early on that there isnt
a thing i need to worry about nor
have to go thru alone. EVER.
I have gone thru many changes in
my life over the past yrs. Divorce,
relocating, jobs, hip replacement
and more.
Today I am happy to say all is well
and im enjoying life and living free from
the distruction of alcohol a day at a
time.
Im in my 5 week since hip replacement
and doing great. So great that my husband
and I took our Harley out for a spin this
past weekend and I was pain free.
We are planning our first out of town
road trip very soon with a trailer
connected and we cant wait.
I have a situation however....and it
involves possibly going back to
Ambrosia Bakery :: Fresh Mardi Gras King Cakes from Louisiana where i
worked for a yr and a half since this
past Dec.
I visited the bakery last Tuesday not
knowing when i would hear back from
them. I have begun to feel comfortable
not working, getting up early
and looking forward to our road trip.
Yesterday i got an email from the
bakery wanting me to call them and
now im unsure of what to do.
My husband is comfortable without me
working and he wants me to have weekends
off so we can travel.
In a way i miss my buddies at the bakery
and yet i want my freedom. I have had
situations at all my jobs when it came
to following rules and authority. I know
if i return things will be the same unless
i change something in me.
I dont know if i am willing to let others
tell me what to do at this point in my
life. Dont get me wrong, i do listen and
follow authority to a certain point....my
problem is how they talk/yell, scold, order
me about.
Im not stupid, nor dumb, nor the brightest
pupil on the planet....i can still use some
discipline. ....in a gentle way.
So now im using my program for guidance
into what to do. Turning my will and life
over to my HP as i understand Him.
At 50 yrs old, i shouldnt be burdened with
difficulties of life yet i am. I hate making
decisions so what to do?
Go back to work or ride ride ride?????
What would you do?
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Sharon,
I'm glad you're doing well!
I think life is a contuous learning experience and are never too old to be moving forward and learning in our daily lives.
Maybe this offer from the bakery, is an opportunity for you to grow. Maybe this is chance to change something in yourself. However, if you do go back, I think it should be on the condition that you are treated with respect at all times. There is no reason for employers to disrespect their employees. Would they give you weekends off?
I'm glad you're doing well!
I think life is a contuous learning experience and are never too old to be moving forward and learning in our daily lives.
Maybe this offer from the bakery, is an opportunity for you to grow. Maybe this is chance to change something in yourself. However, if you do go back, I think it should be on the condition that you are treated with respect at all times. There is no reason for employers to disrespect their employees. Would they give you weekends off?
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"At 50 yrs old, i shouldnt be burdened with difficulties of life yet i am. I hate making decisions so what to do?"
Be grateful for the decisions you have previously made that got you to where you are.
No offense... but trying to decide if you should have a job when you don't need a job...
... sounds like a pretty good position to be in.
We should all have such 'burdens' and 'difficulties' in life, yes?
Be grateful for the decisions you have previously made that got you to where you are.
No offense... but trying to decide if you should have a job when you don't need a job...
... sounds like a pretty good position to be in.
We should all have such 'burdens' and 'difficulties' in life, yes?
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I probabaly can work part time since
they r aware of my recent surgery.
I had indicated that i had no problems
working on Sundays last Tuesday, however
since then my husband and I talked and he
wants me to be off on the weekends with
him so we can go out of town.
they r aware of my recent surgery.
I had indicated that i had no problems
working on Sundays last Tuesday, however
since then my husband and I talked and he
wants me to be off on the weekends with
him so we can go out of town.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
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Your right Anna.....there was no since
in them disrespecting anyone....and I
have to remember that.....
Thanks Tommy.....The number 50 seems
so HUGE...lol and yet i feel so childlike and
look 40...
I am grateful for the situation that Im in....
sure things could be worst.
I have to weigh both sides and see if its
really worth adding that extra drama to
my life.
When i got on the bike for the first time
Saturday, it was AWESOME. There is
a freedom like no other and totally
undescribable unless u have experienced it.
The freedom from pain was so exhillerating.
Before i heard from the bakery, i had sub-
mitted myself to being happy working around
the house.
Since i moved back here to Baton Rouge 3 yrs
ago, i havent stopped. I went straight into
training for the bank which didnt pan out to
looking anxiously for a job to pay my rent and
bills, to the bakery job, to divorce to a new
marriage, hip replacement.....so much and the
only time i have slowed down some was after
the surgery.....but even that was hard.....
its just been the past 2 weeks that ive felt
finally at ease being at home with no stress.
Maybe i should continue on this path, relax
and enjoy life and get back to my face to
face meetings....
That too was put on hold until i went for the
first time last week. I brought my tray of
goodies as my service work and handed out
chips. I visited with long time friends and it
was all good.
in them disrespecting anyone....and I
have to remember that.....
Thanks Tommy.....The number 50 seems
so HUGE...lol and yet i feel so childlike and
look 40...
I am grateful for the situation that Im in....
sure things could be worst.
I have to weigh both sides and see if its
really worth adding that extra drama to
my life.
When i got on the bike for the first time
Saturday, it was AWESOME. There is
a freedom like no other and totally
undescribable unless u have experienced it.
The freedom from pain was so exhillerating.
Before i heard from the bakery, i had sub-
mitted myself to being happy working around
the house.
Since i moved back here to Baton Rouge 3 yrs
ago, i havent stopped. I went straight into
training for the bank which didnt pan out to
looking anxiously for a job to pay my rent and
bills, to the bakery job, to divorce to a new
marriage, hip replacement.....so much and the
only time i have slowed down some was after
the surgery.....but even that was hard.....
its just been the past 2 weeks that ive felt
finally at ease being at home with no stress.
Maybe i should continue on this path, relax
and enjoy life and get back to my face to
face meetings....
That too was put on hold until i went for the
first time last week. I brought my tray of
goodies as my service work and handed out
chips. I visited with long time friends and it
was all good.
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go back to basics and ask for help if i need it.
sure i ask for help.....
im not sure what my basics are...ive always done the same things.
contact friends.....pray..lots......work with a newcomer and then study the steps with them.
at the moment i have a huge hole in me that the wind blows straight through.
the loss of my dog is difficult.
so i do all thoses things alot......pray....do something for someone else.
and i dont drink.......
and i begin to feel better.
sure i ask for help.....
im not sure what my basics are...ive always done the same things.
contact friends.....pray..lots......work with a newcomer and then study the steps with them.
at the moment i have a huge hole in me that the wind blows straight through.
the loss of my dog is difficult.
so i do all thoses things alot......pray....do something for someone else.
and i dont drink.......
and i begin to feel better.
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This post reminds me that I wanted to read through my Big Book this weekend, so thank you!!!
I call my sponsor and then I do pretty much what I just said up there, I read my first three steps and refresh what I need to do every day. And in all that, I'm 10 stepping myself.
I call my sponsor and then I do pretty much what I just said up there, I read my first three steps and refresh what I need to do every day. And in all that, I'm 10 stepping myself.
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The lost of anything is difficult. I myself
havent experienced many loses, just
yet. Growing up, i was always sheltered
from death.
I did lose several birds and fish. My birds
were the hardest of the loses thus so far.
I only hope that when it's time for parents,
close friends, my cats and love bird, to
pass on, i will be prepared.
As of today I feel like I am.....and that's
good.
Doing exactly what we are suggested
to do in early recovery then we can over
come even the toughest obsticles like
death, right?
Thanks guys for ur thoughts and helping
me follow thru my situation.
I sent an email back to the bakery and
without lying or setting myself up. I told
them i had the opportunity to do some
traveling on the bike. For my husband
and I it is an opportunity we couldnt
pass up.
I thanked them for keeping me in mine
for work and that I pass on the torch
on sort of speak to the next person who
wants to work.
I wrote it with guidance from Above and
help from my SR family.
I have no regrets now and i can move
on with preparation for my first trip on the
bike with a trailer attached.
It maybe to Houston or possibly to the
Grand Canyon.....either one we will
take it slow and with caution and
enjoy the wind in our faces.
havent experienced many loses, just
yet. Growing up, i was always sheltered
from death.
I did lose several birds and fish. My birds
were the hardest of the loses thus so far.
I only hope that when it's time for parents,
close friends, my cats and love bird, to
pass on, i will be prepared.
As of today I feel like I am.....and that's
good.
Doing exactly what we are suggested
to do in early recovery then we can over
come even the toughest obsticles like
death, right?
Thanks guys for ur thoughts and helping
me follow thru my situation.
I sent an email back to the bakery and
without lying or setting myself up. I told
them i had the opportunity to do some
traveling on the bike. For my husband
and I it is an opportunity we couldnt
pass up.
I thanked them for keeping me in mine
for work and that I pass on the torch
on sort of speak to the next person who
wants to work.
I wrote it with guidance from Above and
help from my SR family.
I have no regrets now and i can move
on with preparation for my first trip on the
bike with a trailer attached.
It maybe to Houston or possibly to the
Grand Canyon.....either one we will
take it slow and with caution and
enjoy the wind in our faces.
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