90 posts for 90 days
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90 posts for 90 days
I am thinking I might try this approach to keep me on this site, reading and reminding myself of my condition and the condition of others.
Right now I don't feel comfortable going to AA as I live in a small city. No doubt someone's Grand-Dad or cousin will be there who knows me or someone I know.
Anyways, this is my second sober weekend. 8 days clean. Phew.
I actually went out to the pub last night until midnight. 3 of my friends drank, I did not. Wow. It's different on this side of the fence. I was quite bored and also quite anxious but I expected that. I also felt kind of blue. Not because I wanted to drink but because I was bored and I felt out of place. Goes to show you what power alcohol has over our ability to socialise. It's hard to talk to drunks when you're sober though. BUT. But... I know this will pass as I have been here before during my other sober stints. I know I'll get comfy again and not care as much.
It was funny watching my girlfriends get drunk and I was actually looking at them and could see how drunk they were by the changes in their eyes... their speech slurring, the volume of their speech and one of them fell into the bushes. That was funny.
Me, I walked home stone sober at 1 am and went to bed a bit cranky. Saw my room-mate's 6 pack of beer in the kitchen and didn't touch it.
I woke up this morning feeling grateful and probably a hell of a lot better than most folks do this morning in this town. I am now off to the gym and the pool. Can't say my friends will be in any shape to do this.
Wishing you all clarity, sobriety and peace.
Right now I don't feel comfortable going to AA as I live in a small city. No doubt someone's Grand-Dad or cousin will be there who knows me or someone I know.
Anyways, this is my second sober weekend. 8 days clean. Phew.
I actually went out to the pub last night until midnight. 3 of my friends drank, I did not. Wow. It's different on this side of the fence. I was quite bored and also quite anxious but I expected that. I also felt kind of blue. Not because I wanted to drink but because I was bored and I felt out of place. Goes to show you what power alcohol has over our ability to socialise. It's hard to talk to drunks when you're sober though. BUT. But... I know this will pass as I have been here before during my other sober stints. I know I'll get comfy again and not care as much.
It was funny watching my girlfriends get drunk and I was actually looking at them and could see how drunk they were by the changes in their eyes... their speech slurring, the volume of their speech and one of them fell into the bushes. That was funny.
Me, I walked home stone sober at 1 am and went to bed a bit cranky. Saw my room-mate's 6 pack of beer in the kitchen and didn't touch it.
I woke up this morning feeling grateful and probably a hell of a lot better than most folks do this morning in this town. I am now off to the gym and the pool. Can't say my friends will be in any shape to do this.
Wishing you all clarity, sobriety and peace.
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Hi turned. I'm glad you made it through the night ok. 
As for not going to any AA meetings, don't you think that if you see someone there that you know you may be able to find some comfort in knowing that you're not alone? When I first started going to AA YEARS ago I was surprised at how many people I knew and at the same time they were all happy to see me there and were such great support. AA is also great as a fellowship and I really got that.
I am in no way trying to shoot you off of your pedestal because you're doing great, however, I know at the beginning of sobriety I had no business being around others while drinking. Eventually I picked up again.
A little saying I hear in the program about that is "if you hang around a barber shop, eventually you're going to get a hair cut." Just want you to be vigilant for yourself.
Keep up that great work and Congrats on your 8 days!!!!
As for not going to any AA meetings, don't you think that if you see someone there that you know you may be able to find some comfort in knowing that you're not alone? When I first started going to AA YEARS ago I was surprised at how many people I knew and at the same time they were all happy to see me there and were such great support. AA is also great as a fellowship and I really got that.
I am in no way trying to shoot you off of your pedestal because you're doing great, however, I know at the beginning of sobriety I had no business being around others while drinking. Eventually I picked up again.
A little saying I hear in the program about that is "if you hang around a barber shop, eventually you're going to get a hair cut." Just want you to be vigilant for yourself.
Keep up that great work and Congrats on your 8 days!!!!
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Hi turned 
Nice to see you posting -I read another of your posts and we seem to be in a similar situation
Like you I've been too afraid to go to an aa meeting I'm afraid that even if I don't know anyone there someone might know me. However I'm at last starting to think I'd like to meet some poeple face to face who are as nice and as supportive as all these great people on SR
So AT LAST I'm going to my first aa meeting.-tomorrow. It's not in my town but in the nearest big city and it will take me two trains to get there.
Why don't you try that?
It'll be a pain to get to but at least I'm not expecting anyone to recognize me.
Well if you manage to do it on your own good for you but otherwise don't forget there are meetings everywhere and you don't have to go to the nearest one.
Like you I find posting on here very helpful too-just reading them isn't enough!
Nice to see you posting -I read another of your posts and we seem to be in a similar situation
Like you I've been too afraid to go to an aa meeting I'm afraid that even if I don't know anyone there someone might know me. However I'm at last starting to think I'd like to meet some poeple face to face who are as nice and as supportive as all these great people on SR
So AT LAST I'm going to my first aa meeting.-tomorrow. It's not in my town but in the nearest big city and it will take me two trains to get there.
Why don't you try that?
It'll be a pain to get to but at least I'm not expecting anyone to recognize me.
Well if you manage to do it on your own good for you but otherwise don't forget there are meetings everywhere and you don't have to go to the nearest one.
Like you I find posting on here very helpful too-just reading them isn't enough!
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Right now I don't feel comfortable going to AA as I live in a small city. No doubt someone's Grand-Dad or cousin will be there who knows me or someone I know.
Think about it, view alcohol as your spouse, the marriage sucks, your spouse is making you miserable, you want a divorce!!! Would you feel comfortable going to a divorce lawyer?
Now let us talk about the second part...... Let us say you go to an AA meeting and you see a cousin there, are you going to tell all every person you know "Hey I went to an AA meeting last night and my Cousing Bob was there!".
Heck no!!!! Why would you do that? The first thing the person you are telling is going to ask is "Why were you at an AA meeting?"
The name of AA is Alcoholic Anonymous, the idea is we go there expecting everyone else to keep thier mouths shut about us going there. Now to be honest I could care less if some one knows I am a member of AA or not.
I would much rather people know me as a recovered alcoholic then a drunk which is what I used to be known as.
If you got a DUI or a DIP what do you think people would say?
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Good luck with the 90 in 90 turnedthecorner.
When I started to get sober, I did 90 whines in 90 days under the Whiners support thread.
I also posted a lot here in the newcomers section and it helped me stay on track for the first part of my journey.
It really worked for me and for that I am grateful.
Good luck.
P>S> I got a 90 day coin from the Whiners which is still in my account here. I am thinking of spending it at Starbucks.
When I started to get sober, I did 90 whines in 90 days under the Whiners support thread.
I also posted a lot here in the newcomers section and it helped me stay on track for the first part of my journey.
It really worked for me and for that I am grateful.
Good luck.
P>S> I got a 90 day coin from the Whiners which is still in my account here. I am thinking of spending it at Starbucks.
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turnedthecorner,
good stuff. and well put...
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good stuff. and well put...
Not because I wanted to drink but because I was bored and I felt out of place. Goes to show you what power alcohol has over our ability to socialise. It's hard to talk to drunks when you're sober though.
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Thanks all. This morn I posted over in Newcomer Daily Support. Not really a support thread but figured it belonged there rather than here. I felt like starting a Pros and Cons list for Alcohol after thinking a bit about it before bed last night. It's over there in NC Support.
9 days! Thank God.
I love this site.
9 days! Thank God.
I love this site.
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