Coming home from recovery
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Coming home from recovery
I came home from completling treatment for 68 days sober....I decided to come hom early to surprise my partner....she was not surprised she panic'ed and scrambled to get all the alcohol out of the house ...went to her moms house...and stayed the night....
man do I feel like a lepor....
help!
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
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Welcome to our recovery community....
Congratulations on your new way of life.
Sometimes the unexpected can throw
you out of balance. Keep in focus.
Do you have a plan for continueing your sobriety?
Congratulations on your new way of life.
Sometimes the unexpected can throw
you out of balance. Keep in focus.
Do you have a plan for continueing your sobriety?
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Re:
Originally Posted by CarolD 
Welcome to our recovery community....
Congratulations on your new way of life.
Sometimes the unexpected can throw
you out of balance. Keep in focus.
Do you have a plan for continueing your sobriety?
Congratulations on your new way of life.
Sometimes the unexpected can throw
you out of balance. Keep in focus.
Do you have a plan for continueing your sobriety?
Thanks everyone....
I have a booklet of all the meetings in my areas....Im planning on two meetings a day...until I hear that share that inspires me to ask that person to be my sponsor....
I already been to one meeting so far....and I need one to end my day.....
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Hi and welcome!
Oh boy do I remember coming home from rehab... I was there for 60 days. My wife didn't leave, thank God, but she sure as hell didn't quite know what to do with me... I'll always remember it like it was yesterday.
For us, everything changed, it was a whole new dance. As hard as it was for me... it was just as hard for her... Now 10 months sober... lots of things are so much better. I need to continue my recovery though... I'm not where I want to be yet, not always "happy, joyous and free"... which of course can affect "us". She lost a drinkin' buddy, though she's not even close to alcoholic, she does like a drink (and a half) at the end of the evening... And those nights alone with the music and candles, well, let's say we are getting there... And, I am very optimistic. We are married 25 years this september and were HS sweethearts before that, going back 34 years...
Tell us more about you!
Mark
Oh boy do I remember coming home from rehab... I was there for 60 days. My wife didn't leave, thank God, but she sure as hell didn't quite know what to do with me... I'll always remember it like it was yesterday.
For us, everything changed, it was a whole new dance. As hard as it was for me... it was just as hard for her... Now 10 months sober... lots of things are so much better. I need to continue my recovery though... I'm not where I want to be yet, not always "happy, joyous and free"... which of course can affect "us". She lost a drinkin' buddy, though she's not even close to alcoholic, she does like a drink (and a half) at the end of the evening... And those nights alone with the music and candles, well, let's say we are getting there... And, I am very optimistic. We are married 25 years this september and were HS sweethearts before that, going back 34 years...
Tell us more about you!
Mark
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68 days sober! What a fantastic accomplishment!! Congrats on your hard work. I'm not there yet, and I have no partner, but what you are going through will affect you both. Try to be easy on her, and on yourself too. It will, like all good things, take time to work out. Hang in there!
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Congrats. But you need to keep in mind while 68 days is a huge acomplishment in terms of sobriety, it is not very long at all in terms rebuilding relationships with those around us. Even less so since you were in treatment. I would just give it time and remember that we didn't get sick in a day and they didn't get to be the way they were either. Changes take time to digest. Plus, you have a program to work and your partner doesn't (assuming). Best to just focus on yourself at this point and grind through. You have a great foundation to build on sounds like. Good luck.
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Thank god my partner didnt leave....today I just left her alone...let her do her own thing...went to two meetings today met some wonderful sober folks. got a phone list...
I did all my steps but I cant wait to do them again...especially the daily moral inventory I have to take into consideration....
I can definatly see why people "go out" when they get home...its a lot to take in...and hard to deal with all the unsure emotions that come with coming home......
with the alcoholic and the people who have suffered through the alcoholics hurricane....
Im staying quiet. In my own home...just letting her have her own time....focusing on forums and silent advice...
I have no idea what she is going through right now
We have been together for 4 years....she has stuck around through it all...
I did all my steps but I cant wait to do them again...especially the daily moral inventory I have to take into consideration....
I can definatly see why people "go out" when they get home...its a lot to take in...and hard to deal with all the unsure emotions that come with coming home......
with the alcoholic and the people who have suffered through the alcoholics hurricane....
Im staying quiet. In my own home...just letting her have her own time....focusing on forums and silent advice...
I have no idea what she is going through right now
We have been together for 4 years....she has stuck around through it all...
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((sandrinexxx))
Welcome, you will find a lot of encouragement, support and help here.
You are doing great.
One day at a time!
Where in Arizona are you located? I'm in Tucson, glad to meet some else from Arizona, quite a few of us.
Welcome, you will find a lot of encouragement, support and help here.
You are doing great.
One day at a time!
Where in Arizona are you located? I'm in Tucson, glad to meet some else from Arizona, quite a few of us.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
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You really are sounding super...
Before getting a sponsor....please look on the free literature rack
for the official AA guideline......
"Questions and Answers on Sponsorship"
Forward we go...side by side
Before getting a sponsor....please look on the free literature rack
for the official AA guideline......
"Questions and Answers on Sponsorship"
Forward we go...side by side
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Welcome Sandrine 
68 days is awesome....I hope to see you around here some more. Like Anna said, I know that people here will always understand - I lean on this place a lot.
Good luck with finding a sponsor for some face to face stuff too
D
68 days is awesome....I hope to see you around here some more. Like Anna said, I know that people here will always understand - I lean on this place a lot.
Good luck with finding a sponsor for some face to face stuff too
D
Sitting back & being quiet is ok for now, you have been through a lot.
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I think for me coming home as a changed person I expected the rest of the family had changed too. Remember to keep the focus on yourself because you've changed and are ready to have a healthy happy life doesn't mean they've changed for the better too.
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Originally Posted by tallcactus
((sandrinexxx))
Welcome, you will find a lot of encouragement, support and help here.
You are doing great.
One day at a time!
Where in Arizona are you located? I'm in Tucson, glad to meet some else from Arizona, quite a few of us.
Welcome, you will find a lot of encouragement, support and help here.
You are doing great.
One day at a time!
Where in Arizona are you located? I'm in Tucson, glad to meet some else from Arizona, quite a few of us.
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