So here is a question ...
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So here is a question ...
We are going to visit friends this summer (friends we ALWAYS drink very heavily with). Most of our friends also drink here and there, although i wouldnt consider anyone other than myself really has a problem not from what i have seen.
what have you told people when they offered you a drink and you wanted to refuse? I dont want to start divulging my personal info. i have been thinking of either saying im on antibiotics or something like that? what has worked for you?
my family knows that i am taking this seriously, but for peopl that arent as close to me i dont feel i should be telling them ..
what have you told people when they offered you a drink and you wanted to refuse? I dont want to start divulging my personal info. i have been thinking of either saying im on antibiotics or something like that? what has worked for you?
my family knows that i am taking this seriously, but for peopl that arent as close to me i dont feel i should be telling them ..
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I just spent 10 days with family and friends at a cottage near the beach, there were a few people in our group who drank, and on the island it seemed like alcohol was present just about everywhere. When the cravings came up, I picked up my Big Book and started reading, and I was able to make it to a small meeting at a church.
These answers work for me when someone offers me a drink:
* No.
* No thank you.
* No, I don't drink, but thanks.
You get the picture, right? No is a word, and most people are usually pretty accepting and respectful of it. Of course, if that doesn't work, you can always say:
* Sure, I'd love a drink, and while you're at it you might want to pre-dial 911. You're going to need the police here.
These answers work for me when someone offers me a drink:
* No.
* No thank you.
* No, I don't drink, but thanks.
You get the picture, right? No is a word, and most people are usually pretty accepting and respectful of it. Of course, if that doesn't work, you can always say:
* Sure, I'd love a drink, and while you're at it you might want to pre-dial 911. You're going to need the police here.
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I see that FireHazard said the same thing I was going to say...
tell them that you have developed an allergic reaction to alcohol. If they really care about you, and your presence is not merely to be there as a 'drinking buddy'... they will accept this explanation & respect it.
And we're not lying when we say we are allergic to alcohol, because we really do have a negative reaction to it.
tell them that you have developed an allergic reaction to alcohol. If they really care about you, and your presence is not merely to be there as a 'drinking buddy'... they will accept this explanation & respect it.
And we're not lying when we say we are allergic to alcohol, because we really do have a negative reaction to it.
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I just say no thanks.. I used to think people cared about what I did way more than they really do LOL.. and I found the only reason people even ask or pester about it is because they feel weird because they're drinking so much!
Before I quit for good, and would take "breaks" (what a laugh THAT was), I would say that I didn't feel like it, or had an early day.. or was trying to eat healthier.. etc.
Before I quit for good, and would take "breaks" (what a laugh THAT was), I would say that I didn't feel like it, or had an early day.. or was trying to eat healthier.. etc.
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Originally Posted by smacked 
I just say no thanks.. I used to think people cared about what I did way more than they really do LOL.. and I found the only reason people even ask or pester about it is because they feel weird because they're drinking so much!
Before I quit for good, and would take "breaks" (what a laugh THAT was), I would say that I didn't feel like it, or had an early day.. or was trying to eat healthier.. etc.
Before I quit for good, and would take "breaks" (what a laugh THAT was), I would say that I didn't feel like it, or had an early day.. or was trying to eat healthier.. etc.
Now I realize it was me making my internal universe revolve around drinking.
When it comes to staying sober I am in the "white lies are ok" club.
Say whatever works for you:
No Thanks, I have a big day planned tomorrow
No Thanks, I am on medication
No Thanks, I am not feeling up to it today
No Thanks, I am giving my body a break
No Thanks, I am trying to tighten up my tummy
No Thanks, I am trying to be healthier
No Thanks, I am driving
No Thanks, I need to be up early in the morning
No Thanks, I am taking a break from alcohol
{One day soon} No thanks, I don't drink alcohol
I liked this one from earlier "Yes Please, do you have any coca-cola"
Yes Please, could I get a ginger ale?
Yes Please, a glass of water would be great, do you have a lemon?
Yes, Please, a coffee would be great
Yes Please, what kind of teas do you have?
Good luck & stay close
NB
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