he forgot...
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he forgot...
my birthday.
It isnt even an honest mistake type thing... my granddaughter and her Dad's b-day is the day before mine and that one he has been reminded of for the party for a couple weeks. Not once has he made the connection in his foggy brain 'if it is their b-day it must be the wife's too'. He called me a bit ago and before he hung up he mentioned the weather and how it shoud be nice for 'Granddaughter's' party so he is remembering that. I even mentioned that I had to get to the BMV to get my sticker for my tags and the bulb didnt go on. (in our state our license plates expire on our birthdays)
I kept telling myself for the last week that I fully expected him to forget but when he actually did it hurt like a SOB!
It isnt even an honest mistake type thing... my granddaughter and her Dad's b-day is the day before mine and that one he has been reminded of for the party for a couple weeks. Not once has he made the connection in his foggy brain 'if it is their b-day it must be the wife's too'. He called me a bit ago and before he hung up he mentioned the weather and how it shoud be nice for 'Granddaughter's' party so he is remembering that. I even mentioned that I had to get to the BMV to get my sticker for my tags and the bulb didnt go on. (in our state our license plates expire on our birthdays)
I kept telling myself for the last week that I fully expected him to forget but when he actually did it hurt like a SOB!
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My husband remembers some years and other years I have to remind him. He loves me, but just has a bad memory for things like that.
If he forgets (after being reminded) I just go out and buy myself something wonderful...funny how that seems to jog his memory the next year
Hope you have a wonderful day, Happy Birthday!!
If he forgets (after being reminded) I just go out and buy myself something wonderful...funny how that seems to jog his memory the next year
Hope you have a wonderful day, Happy Birthday!!
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I'm really sorry - that stinks. I like Ann's idea of going out and treating yourself to something very special!
Despite his absent mindedness, I hope your birthday is lovely and the year filled with good things to come
Despite his absent mindedness, I hope your birthday is lovely and the year filled with good things to come
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Honey, mine forgot too. I actually expected him to forget so I had something else planned to do, without him.
It hurt for a little while, but I had fun any way!
I hope you had a really great Birthday.
It hurt for a little while, but I had fun any way!
I hope you had a really great Birthday.
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Mine forgot our 10 year anniversary about 5 years ago. He actually went and layed out @ a poker game all night and left me @ home with the kids. Addiction steals their soul. I'm sorry suspicious, but happy birthday anyway!!
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Suspicious, I'm sorry. I know it hurts like heck to be forgotten on your b-day. To an addict it's no different that any other day.
I have came to accept I will never healthily be remembered nor loved by an addict, it just will never happen.
But I hope you had a Happy Birthday anyway. :huggs:
I have came to accept I will never healthily be remembered nor loved by an addict, it just will never happen.
But I hope you had a Happy Birthday anyway. :huggs:
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Thanks guys!
I did have a nice birthday. I went over to my Mom's and she cooked a huge steak dinner and had me a nice cake. Then me, my Mom, my kids and one's girlfriend played Phase 10 till midnight.
I did have a nice birthday. I went over to my Mom's and she cooked a huge steak dinner and had me a nice cake. Then me, my Mom, my kids and one's girlfriend played Phase 10 till midnight.
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So glad to hear you had a nice party with people who love you despite his thoughtlessness. Good for you!!!
I think forgetting a special day for someone can honestly happen. If it weren't for all the other let downs and dissapointments (addiction related or not) it would be forgiveable but add it to everything else it's hard to just let it go.
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I think forgetting a special day for someone can honestly happen. If it weren't for all the other let downs and dissapointments (addiction related or not) it would be forgiveable but add it to everything else it's hard to just let it go.
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7Happy birthday
its yours
I too got the big blow out on birthday- he organized family meal two days before, then cancelled it on the day on way home from work ( about the time he usually makes call to dealer , funny that).
I claimed my day by joining here , then went NO CONTACT.
Just a thought...
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