FreeingMyself

OK...does this sound like someone who is taking account for his actions.
"You owe me that, you took away everything." - refering to alcohol.
Then, shortly later, talking to the kids, "There's God, we're all just apostles....she's Varsity, we're just JV." This gets to me........and it sounds like he really believes its all me!

LaTeeDa

I give his "recovery" 2 days.

What makes me sad is using the kids as a weapon. They are being damaged....

L

Bernadette

No it sounds like typical alcoholic quacking.
Don't engage, it isn't even worth an eye roll.


peace,
b

Still Waters

And using the kids, poor woe is us, Mommy is the bad guy...

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ItsmeAlice

Behold the mighty Wizard of Oz!!! I know, I know, I wish I were that great, too.

Hold your head up, sweetheart. He says he's quitting then it's all your fault. He says he can have just beer and that doesn't work out so that's your fault.

I have been down that road time and time again. I have made suggestions and tried to help only to be made out as the mighty wizard who made his life hell when his binges only got worse.

Now when my ABF makes proclimations of moderating his drinking, quitting all together, or switching to a certain (disliked) brew to wean himself off it over time, I give him the most sincere smile I can fake (since I know better now) and say, "Good luck with that dear." He has stopped verbally laying blame on me. I'm sure he still stews over how it's all my fault when he's drinking every night, but that's his problem.

I agree with the other posts. Don't engage. In his mind, that would only show your guilt over your wrongdoing.

MeHandle

It gets to you because it is a form of abuse. He used both passive and aggressive emotional abuse here, as you describe his words.

There is a point at which progression is not defined as the norm of "alcoholism and alcoholic behavior."
It goes more like this: When the alcohol abuser progresses also into a domestic abuser.