breakingfree88

My ex-fiancee' is a crack addict. He picked up his 90 day chip/tag at NA tonight. He has regained employment (laid off in Dec.)

Since he has regained employment, he has told me through text that he wants to send me money.
1) He owes me a crapload
2) He knows I'm going through a really rough time financially (aren't we all? lol)

I know that my HP will supply all of my needs. So I'm not stressed about where the money will come from.
However, that is money that is due to me and GOSH would it help out.

I know that he's doing this to relieve his guilt and "get back in my good graces" as my sister would say.
I don't want him to think he's buying his way back into my life and although he claims he knows this and that I'm under no obligation...
let's be honest here.


So...

What do you think? I'm very tempted to "Take the money and run".
He won't be seeing me, I live 2 hours from him nowadays.
He would give it to my dad to give to me.
Feedback would be really appreciated.
Thanks so much!

laurie6781

Sounds more to me like he is taking Step 9, about making amends to heart, even if he isn't that far in the steps yet.

I know I started making 'financial amends' fairly early in my own recovery, and many of my sponsees have also.

No, it doesn't have to mean he wants back in your 'good graces' or that you have to accept him back.

If he sends you money, then you send (email or text) back to him, the new balance and say thank you for your payment.

J M H O

Love and hugs,

breakingfree88

Keep my address private. Although I just opened a PO Box so maybe that would be safe??

BigSis

You can pick up a Western Union money gram at most Safeway stores... have him wire it to one in a city near you (not your city). A simple thank you would be a good way for me to respond, as doing so would take away my tendency toward sarcasm. (ya think?)

Here's hoping he can come through ... for both your sakes.

KariSue

I would take it and do it whatever way is most convenient for you.

KariSue

breakingfree88

Thank you so much for your feedback. I don't have a mom that I can really talk to about things like this because she's bipolar and is very manic right now (y'all remember the suicide attempt about 3 mos. ago)
I really appreciate it.