A lot going on...
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A lot going on...
I have to share because I have been using you guys to get through the last week or so. Reading Reading Reading.... (and a lot of what was in the post from Ago, Invalidating your emotions, happens at my house)
We leave for vacation tomorrow... I had written a bunch of detail but deleted it because it really doesn't matter what the details are the bottom line is....
I wish AH wasn't going.... there I said it. I wish I could just take my kid.
I feel myself getting all stressed out because I can't be sure of AH's mood or behavior. I don't want to spend a week listening to him tell me what I should have done, or how expensive everything is. If I choose to do something that doesn't center on him how rude I am. Its already started and we don't even leave until tomorrow. WHAT WAS I THINKING!!! Why do I fall back into thinking we can do something like normal people? And why do I keep falling into this place where all my energy is going toward being worried about what HE thinks and says. Crap.... Its like I'm just walking in a circle around him waiting for him to do something so I can react....
Vacations are suppose to be fun. Maybe just writing it out will help. How can I deal with MY thinking?
We leave for vacation tomorrow... I had written a bunch of detail but deleted it because it really doesn't matter what the details are the bottom line is....
I wish AH wasn't going.... there I said it. I wish I could just take my kid.
I feel myself getting all stressed out because I can't be sure of AH's mood or behavior. I don't want to spend a week listening to him tell me what I should have done, or how expensive everything is. If I choose to do something that doesn't center on him how rude I am. Its already started and we don't even leave until tomorrow. WHAT WAS I THINKING!!! Why do I fall back into thinking we can do something like normal people? And why do I keep falling into this place where all my energy is going toward being worried about what HE thinks and says. Crap.... Its like I'm just walking in a circle around him waiting for him to do something so I can react....
Vacations are suppose to be fun. Maybe just writing it out will help. How can I deal with MY thinking?
Can I ever relate to your feelings!
I spent close to 20 years trying to 'create' a normal family situation out of something that was anything but.....
So grateful I'm not doing that anymore.
I don't know what to tell you about how to get through it. I couldn't do it. I had to get away from him in order to find peace. I could only detach so much in the middle of the hurricane.
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I spent close to 20 years trying to 'create' a normal family situation out of something that was anything but.....
So grateful I'm not doing that anymore.
I don't know what to tell you about how to get through it. I couldn't do it. I had to get away from him in order to find peace. I could only detach so much in the middle of the hurricane.
L
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