i didn't make it.
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Lake Tahoe CA
Posts: 1,098
Ermy - Ok you didn't make it this time. There is absolutely nothing in the world to stop you from trying again.
Now is not the time to try and talk sense with you. Just want you to know that I have read your post and I do relate. I'm a chronic relapser who is quietly putting time sober together. I'm doing it, in spite of all the times I've failed in the past.
Thanks for posting. Thanks for being honest. Hope to see you back real soon.
Now is not the time to try and talk sense with you. Just want you to know that I have read your post and I do relate. I'm a chronic relapser who is quietly putting time sober together. I'm doing it, in spite of all the times I've failed in the past.
Thanks for posting. Thanks for being honest. Hope to see you back real soon.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,416
I couldn't make 3 days for many years either Ermy. I think most of us try and try and try again. I eventually put day after day after day - I have a few years now.
Like MM says there's absolutely nothing stopping you trying again
think about where you went wrong, try to fix that, and start again.
We've all been there
D
Like MM says there's absolutely nothing stopping you trying again
think about where you went wrong, try to fix that, and start again.
We've all been there
D
Looking For Myself...Sober
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Where the heart is
Posts: 10,209
I know I have had my share of short comings.
I still am a chronic relapser.
I think first of all. You can never quit trying.
But not juts that. You need to learn from this.
See where it went wrong and if there was a way you could have avoided it.
I am sure there is and was.
Always keep trying and always learn and move forward with a new and better way next time.
I still am a chronic relapser.
I think first of all. You can never quit trying.
But not juts that. You need to learn from this.
See where it went wrong and if there was a way you could have avoided it.
I am sure there is and was.
Always keep trying and always learn and move forward with a new and better way next time.
trying to recover
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2009
Location: uk
Posts: 15
its 8 am here (uk) and i have slept a while after that little lot.
i have such a hangover, im shaking and my daughter, age 5, has just told me i stink. i feel guilty. i know im annoying my husband.
yet still, half my brain is saying "great its saturday, drinks tonight, no work tomorrow"
truth is it doesnt matter what day of the week it is!
wish i could just run away and hide alone.
i have such a hangover, im shaking and my daughter, age 5, has just told me i stink. i feel guilty. i know im annoying my husband.
yet still, half my brain is saying "great its saturday, drinks tonight, no work tomorrow"
truth is it doesnt matter what day of the week it is!
wish i could just run away and hide alone.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,416
Been there ermy - I had to decide what I wanted more - drinking and all the crap that came with it....or not drinking and the chance of a new life, and being who I really wanted to be.
There's no middle ground sadly - not for ppl like us anyway.
It's a big call - I couldn't make it until I was putting myself and my life in danger - I hope you find reasons enough to decide sooner.
D
There's no middle ground sadly - not for ppl like us anyway.
It's a big call - I couldn't make it until I was putting myself and my life in danger - I hope you find reasons enough to decide sooner.
D
Member
Join Date: Apr 2007
Posts: 2,299
Hey ermy,
I feel for you.I just want you to know you don't have to live like this anymore.You really don't.
I know the guilt and the shame and the despair.
You can change this-one small step at a time.As Chiy said-go have a shower, take some aspirin, start doing the things that need to be done today.Small things-take care of your daughter, go for a walk even....you don't need to drink today and that's all you need to focus on for now.Just today.You can do that.
You're not a failure-you're in the grip of addiction, but I promise you you can get out too.I'm doing it-one day at a time, and sometimes one minute at a time-just like you.You don't have to live in misery all your life.We're here to help you too.Keep posting,
Jules xox
I feel for you.I just want you to know you don't have to live like this anymore.You really don't.
I know the guilt and the shame and the despair.
You can change this-one small step at a time.As Chiy said-go have a shower, take some aspirin, start doing the things that need to be done today.Small things-take care of your daughter, go for a walk even....you don't need to drink today and that's all you need to focus on for now.Just today.You can do that.
You're not a failure-you're in the grip of addiction, but I promise you you can get out too.I'm doing it-one day at a time, and sometimes one minute at a time-just like you.You don't have to live in misery all your life.We're here to help you too.Keep posting,
Jules xox
Newbie
Join Date: May 2009
Location: UK
Posts: 109
Sorry to hear that Ermy. I went through a stage of relapsing on the 3rd or 4th day without drinking alcohol. I read that it takes 4 days for alcohol to leave your system so on the 3rd or 4th day your body wants its fix and that is why many drinkers never make it through the 3-4 days period.
I hope you can make a fresh start today.
I hope you can make a fresh start today.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
You are not stupid
It's very difficult to quit drinking ...it took me many
tries before I actually stopped.
Please see if this link has info you can use to benefit yourself
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Yes....you too can live a sober healthy life....
It's very difficult to quit drinking ...it took me many
tries before I actually stopped.
Please see if this link has info you can use to benefit yourself
Alcoholics Anonymous UK Newcomers
Yes....you too can live a sober healthy life....
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: in France
Posts: 393
Hi ermy
I saw you in chat the other day.
It's the disease alcoholism which is telling you you're stupid etc etc
It did the same to me and then as it succeeded in making me feel inadequate this pushed me to drink again.
Ok so you slipped-put it behind you and start again.
Today you won't drink and look forward to waking up tomorrow and not having a hangover.
Then once it's tomorrow(and you don't have a hangover)-you can decide THEN if you want to drink tomorrow
For the moment just concentrate on today and when that urge or reflex to drink comes then log on here and post or chat or something. i've sometimes done that for a whole day-and the disease alcoholism tries to tell me it's pathetic but it works.....
Just hang on in there and keep coming back here and posting!
By the way my signature of little girl with umbrella is how i see life-trying not to be taken away by alcoholism and SR keeping me upright but the pull is always there!)
:ghug
I saw you in chat the other day.
It's the disease alcoholism which is telling you you're stupid etc etc
It did the same to me and then as it succeeded in making me feel inadequate this pushed me to drink again.
Ok so you slipped-put it behind you and start again.
Today you won't drink and look forward to waking up tomorrow and not having a hangover.
Then once it's tomorrow(and you don't have a hangover)-you can decide THEN if you want to drink tomorrow
For the moment just concentrate on today and when that urge or reflex to drink comes then log on here and post or chat or something. i've sometimes done that for a whole day-and the disease alcoholism tries to tell me it's pathetic but it works.....
Just hang on in there and keep coming back here and posting!
By the way my signature of little girl with umbrella is how i see life-trying not to be taken away by alcoholism and SR keeping me upright but the pull is always there!)
:ghug
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,237
Powerlessness......
I was POWERLESS over
my drinking.
No matter how many times I
tried to stop, vowed to not drink
again, I failed.
I thought i was a failure. How
could I not just take a drink.
It's so simple, so easy.
Just dont drink.......Ha.!
Thru a family intervention, them
doing for me what I couldnt
do for myself, I spent 28 days in
rehab, a controled inviroment,
recieving the tools and knowledge
of my disease of alcoholism.
I learned that i wasnt a failure.
I wasnt stupid.
There is something inside me,
my system that triggers the
urge to want to drink. It was
those cravings inside me that
I couldnt control on my own.
If someone told me to get rid
of ALL the alcohol in my home
because i needed to change, i
would, but because im powerless
over alcohol i would keep one
stashed away just in case....right?
I couldnt do this task on my
own. Im powerless. I needed help
....so while I was in treatment my
family took all the alcohol out of
the house which was great. No
temptation when i returned home.
The only way i wasnt gonna drink
anymore was to LEARN about alcoholism.
And there r interesting facts about
it and what effect it has on us who
cant drink normally.
I also learned that there is nothing
in this world i have to go thru alone
ever again. Not drinking anymore with
help from wonderful people is unexplain-
able. It's just awesome.
Welcome to AA and hang on tight
because u will experience many
wonderful gifts right here in recovery.
I was POWERLESS over
my drinking.
No matter how many times I
tried to stop, vowed to not drink
again, I failed.
I thought i was a failure. How
could I not just take a drink.
It's so simple, so easy.
Just dont drink.......Ha.!
Thru a family intervention, them
doing for me what I couldnt
do for myself, I spent 28 days in
rehab, a controled inviroment,
recieving the tools and knowledge
of my disease of alcoholism.
I learned that i wasnt a failure.
I wasnt stupid.
There is something inside me,
my system that triggers the
urge to want to drink. It was
those cravings inside me that
I couldnt control on my own.
If someone told me to get rid
of ALL the alcohol in my home
because i needed to change, i
would, but because im powerless
over alcohol i would keep one
stashed away just in case....right?
I couldnt do this task on my
own. Im powerless. I needed help
....so while I was in treatment my
family took all the alcohol out of
the house which was great. No
temptation when i returned home.
The only way i wasnt gonna drink
anymore was to LEARN about alcoholism.
And there r interesting facts about
it and what effect it has on us who
cant drink normally.
I also learned that there is nothing
in this world i have to go thru alone
ever again. Not drinking anymore with
help from wonderful people is unexplain-
able. It's just awesome.
Welcome to AA and hang on tight
because u will experience many
wonderful gifts right here in recovery.
Member
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: SE and then South some more
Posts: 2,648
You've gotten a lot of great feedback already. Keep posting, ask for suggestions, people here will give you a lot to think about. If you don't have the Big Book go get one and read the beginning up to pages 164 and the stories.
Take things one step at a time and one day at a time. If you really want this, you can do it!! :ghug3
Take things one step at a time and one day at a time. If you really want this, you can do it!!
:ghug3
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,772
Keep trying! I too relapsed many times before I was able to stay sober. Please don't give up on yourself and don't beat yourself up too badly. Try again. Keep trying til you make it.:ghug
Member
Join Date: May 2009
Location: British Columbia
Posts: 49
Hello and welcome. I too was unable to stop on my own. For me the key was the 12 steps of AA. I just passed 9 months sober which is pretty amazing since I was unable to do 9 days on my own.
Whatever you choose to do I wish you all the best.
Steve
Whatever you choose to do I wish you all the best.
Steve
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Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 61,492
Ermy,
I got stuck at 3 days for a long time too. It seemed like the three day point was when I was starting to feel a bit better physically and my addict brain argued that I would be able to manage one or two drinks.
Don't give up!
I got stuck at 3 days for a long time too. It seemed like the three day point was when I was starting to feel a bit better physically and my addict brain argued that I would be able to manage one or two drinks.
Don't give up!
Member
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: New Mexico
Posts: 617
I feel for you, lady. Cannot count all of the times I fell flat on my face in LESS than three days! I just kept GETTING UP when alcohol kicked my a**,and FINALLY sobreity took hold. Can't explain why or how, but it did. Not giving up is basically all you can do. so don't, and good luck.........
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