Update on son
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Update on son
Well yesterday was a bit of a test for me.
The son's gf called to say they had an argument and he left. Shortly after that he came back and packed up his stuff. She was so upset. I told her not to worry about it everything will be ok.
Then I called John on cellphone and asked what his plans were. He said he was coming home. I said I don't think that's going to work for me. If you come here, you know what we expect from you in return.
It's been 6 months now and I don't think he's been looking real hard for a job; therefore, if he thinks it's ok to come back here and not be out lookin every day for a job, he's wrong.
That's it, I didn't say anything more. I didn't go on and on, I just said "think about it!" I didn't hear anything back from him or her yesterday or today. I also didn't worry about it, I didn't worry about him screwing up, I put it right out of my mind.
I am assuming though that he went back there because she hasn't called me anymore, which is a pretty good indication that he must have come back.
I just told myself whatever happens now is up to him. After all, he is 46 years old!
I also think it's good for him to know that I'm not going to guide his every move, and I am no longer going to be there for him every time something goes wrong.
Shoot, the kid must think he's on a rubberband that he can bounce back and forth anytime he wants.
I talked with his PO yesterday. He said he called my house in error! Funny huh? He asked how John was doing and I said I didn't think he was looking real hard for a job. He said, he was doing everything right on his end i.e. going to meetings, getting tested. He said in John's defense things were really difficult out there as far as jobs go.
Ok, then he said, and you're going to love this one..."it's always a pleasure to talk to you!" Yipes, another one crazy for me. Mr. Dev will never believe this one! LOL
Hugs, Devastated
The son's gf called to say they had an argument and he left. Shortly after that he came back and packed up his stuff. She was so upset. I told her not to worry about it everything will be ok.
Then I called John on cellphone and asked what his plans were. He said he was coming home. I said I don't think that's going to work for me. If you come here, you know what we expect from you in return.
It's been 6 months now and I don't think he's been looking real hard for a job; therefore, if he thinks it's ok to come back here and not be out lookin every day for a job, he's wrong.
That's it, I didn't say anything more. I didn't go on and on, I just said "think about it!" I didn't hear anything back from him or her yesterday or today. I also didn't worry about it, I didn't worry about him screwing up, I put it right out of my mind.
I am assuming though that he went back there because she hasn't called me anymore, which is a pretty good indication that he must have come back.
I just told myself whatever happens now is up to him. After all, he is 46 years old!
I also think it's good for him to know that I'm not going to guide his every move, and I am no longer going to be there for him every time something goes wrong.
Shoot, the kid must think he's on a rubberband that he can bounce back and forth anytime he wants.
I talked with his PO yesterday. He said he called my house in error! Funny huh? He asked how John was doing and I said I didn't think he was looking real hard for a job. He said, he was doing everything right on his end i.e. going to meetings, getting tested. He said in John's defense things were really difficult out there as far as jobs go.
Ok, then he said, and you're going to love this one..."it's always a pleasure to talk to you!" Yipes, another one crazy for me. Mr. Dev will never believe this one! LOL
Hugs, Devastated
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Thanks Dev, for sharing your progress and growth. You're really being an encouraging example. I need that right now. I'm happy to hear that you passed that test yesterday. I hope that I can, as I see the test coming at me.
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Dev,
Seems like all those guys just looooooove you- the wardens, the PO's, the judges. What is your secret? LOL
Glad to hear that your boundaries were firmly in place and you were able to take care yourself.
Mom hugs
Seems like all those guys just looooooove you- the wardens, the PO's, the judges. What is your secret? LOL
Glad to hear that your boundaries were firmly in place and you were able to take care yourself.
Mom hugs
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Thanks while I'm hoping my daughter will stay on the right path I know that's not always the case. An even though she is trying she still at times asks things of us that we aren't comfortable doing. Reading posts like yours helps me prepare for what to say or do when needed.
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That's great to hear that you're doing so well...
And you have yet another man at your feet! LOL!
Good to see you shining in your recovery
and being such an inspiration to the rest of us.
Trevor's almost 30 and
I've kicked that baby bird out of the nest for good now, too.
Shalom!
And you have yet another man at your feet! LOL!
Good to see you shining in your recovery
and being such an inspiration to the rest of us.
Trevor's almost 30 and
I've kicked that baby bird out of the nest for good now, too.
Shalom!
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(((Dev)))
Your posts always make me chuckle.
I think those "kids" that return home are called "Boomerangs"
We've placed a force field around the house so it'll ward off any "Boomerangs"
(if that don't work we'll try electric fencing)
I know I cringe everytime my youngest AS has a spat with his GF, and WHY OH WHY does he, or she, have to call me and tell me?
I've decided I'm refusing all BAD NEWS calls from this day on.
Hugs and hugs,
and hugs to Mr. Dev
Your posts always make me chuckle.
I think those "kids" that return home are called "Boomerangs"
We've placed a force field around the house so it'll ward off any "Boomerangs"
(if that don't work we'll try electric fencing)
I know I cringe everytime my youngest AS has a spat with his GF, and WHY OH WHY does he, or she, have to call me and tell me?
I've decided I'm refusing all BAD NEWS calls from this day on.
Hugs and hugs,
and hugs to Mr. Dev
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Dev, you are just a hunk magnet...after all, that got you Mr. Dev did it not?
I'm chuckling to myself thinking of you cutting your son off at the pass, shooting bullets of recovery and him doing an about turn.
Happy Easter, Dev and to my favourite Italian Mr. Dev too.
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I'm chuckling to myself thinking of you cutting your son off at the pass, shooting bullets of recovery and him doing an about turn.
Happy Easter, Dev and to my favourite Italian Mr. Dev too.
Bunny Hugs
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Hi Cats....no, not everyone loves me. Other women hate me! Can't imagine why. Well, maybe, because, nay that can't be it!! Besides, Cats, I'm not that conceided to think all the judges love me. It's the DA that loves me!
Cats, be real! If I tell you my secret, I'll have to send "no neck" your way to do you know what!
Ann, you're right! I'm a hunk magnet! Sometimes it's a real curse, don't you know. Especially, when I'm in a hurry and all these men are detaining me for small talk, or whatever! LOL
Here it is now two days later and still no calls from the gf or the son. Hmmm? That indicates to me that he went back there for sure. In the meantime, my only concern is to be my charming self! LOL
Moose, going to look into getting that electric fence today!
Hugs, Devastated
Cats, be real! If I tell you my secret, I'll have to send "no neck" your way to do you know what!
Ann, you're right! I'm a hunk magnet! Sometimes it's a real curse, don't you know. Especially, when I'm in a hurry and all these men are detaining me for small talk, or whatever! LOL
Here it is now two days later and still no calls from the gf or the son. Hmmm? That indicates to me that he went back there for sure. In the meantime, my only concern is to be my charming self! LOL
Moose, going to look into getting that electric fence today!
Hugs, Devastated
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Dev, You're a wonderful example of recovery in practice!!!
Rubberband, boomerrang.....yep I got one of those and it's past time to put up the electric fence. Hopefully, this last time, I'd learned my lesson.
Hugs,
Chris
Rubberband, boomerrang.....yep I got one of those and it's past time to put up the electric fence. Hopefully, this last time, I'd learned my lesson.
Hugs,
Chris
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Dev,
I have two words for you: Duck and scissors.
(1) Duck: No, no, not like the quacking kind we talk about around here. I'm using it as a verb, as in "When the boomerang comes toward me, I know to DUCK and let it keep going.
(2)Scissors: A few little snips and each piece of the rubberband won't stretch near as far as it once did. In fact if you cut it just right, the pieces will end up so short that when trying to stretch them the pieces will just snap right back and pop the stretcher. Yeah, I can think of a few times I wanted to pop....uh, oh, nevermind.
Love ya, Dev. Keep up that shining recovery.
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I have two words for you: Duck and scissors.
(1) Duck: No, no, not like the quacking kind we talk about around here. I'm using it as a verb, as in "When the boomerang comes toward me, I know to DUCK and let it keep going.
(2)Scissors: A few little snips and each piece of the rubberband won't stretch near as far as it once did. In fact if you cut it just right, the pieces will end up so short that when trying to stretch them the pieces will just snap right back and pop the stretcher. Yeah, I can think of a few times I wanted to pop....uh, oh, nevermind.
Love ya, Dev. Keep up that shining recovery.
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Ann, do I have to warn them? Come on, why? OK, I guess all is fair in love and war huh? It's just that.....I hate to disappoint them all. Oh well, what's a woman to do. Now I know just how Scarlett felt! You know, Scarlett O'Hara?? You'll never know how difficult it is to be a "hunk magnet!"
I knew the new PO was crazy for me when he said, "oh you're married?" I mean it wasn't just "oh you're married" it was "Oh you're married." That was a sure sign right? I mean, can you tell the difference between the two "oh you're married?" statements right? I knew you could because I picked up on it immediately. Gosh, what a curse being so desirable is!
Hey Hangin' what great advice! You sound like a woman with experience in the rubber-band dynamics!
OK, better run and try to make myself look ugly 'cause I have to run to the store, and I'm going to be in a big hurry, so don't have time for all these men falling at my feet. OH MY, WHAT'S A WOMAN TO DO???
hUGS, Devastated
I knew the new PO was crazy for me when he said, "oh you're married?" I mean it wasn't just "oh you're married" it was "Oh you're married." That was a sure sign right? I mean, can you tell the difference between the two "oh you're married?" statements right? I knew you could because I picked up on it immediately. Gosh, what a curse being so desirable is!
Hey Hangin' what great advice! You sound like a woman with experience in the rubber-band dynamics!
OK, better run and try to make myself look ugly 'cause I have to run to the store, and I'm going to be in a big hurry, so don't have time for all these men falling at my feet. OH MY, WHAT'S A WOMAN TO DO???
hUGS, Devastated
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Sorry, I just remembered something else!!
We were at the casino the other day and the sweet hispanic janitor came up to me just to tell me how beautiful I was.
Yep, add yet another admirer to the list.
The fact that he was going in for cataract surgery has nothing to do with it!
Gosh, I tried to explain that to Mr. Dev, but he didn't get it! DUH?
OK, just wanted to set the record straight in the event you're all keep score here.
Hugs, Devastated AKA Hung Magnet
We were at the casino the other day and the sweet hispanic janitor came up to me just to tell me how beautiful I was.
Yep, add yet another admirer to the list.
The fact that he was going in for cataract surgery has nothing to do with it!
Gosh, I tried to explain that to Mr. Dev, but he didn't get it! DUH?
OK, just wanted to set the record straight in the event you're all keep score here.
Hugs, Devastated AKA Hung Magnet
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Originally Posted by devastated 
We were at the casino the other day and the sweet hispanic janitor came up to me just to tell me how beautiful I was.
Yep, add yet another admirer to the list.
The fact that he was going in for cataract surgery has nothing to do with it!
Yep, add yet another admirer to the list.
The fact that he was going in for cataract surgery has nothing to do with it!
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