Missymae737

support...

My oldest son is in deep troube...He is thirty years old...About seven months ago, he was dianosed with a rare disease, that without ongoing treatment would result in organ failure, such as damage to the liver...So, alcohol should not be taken in any amount...

My son is an alcoholic and admits his problem...He continues to drink...He just received a suspension from work for a total of two weeks...He has a high paying job...He is the father of two children...

OK, I am deeply sad about this, I know there is nothing I can do...I am concerned about my own emotional pain, and unlike my last relapse after being sober for seventeen months, I failed with sobriety. I am not strong...Before my last relapse I felt I was strong and could weather any storm...

So, I come before you for help...I am in great emotional pain...

Aysha

That is terrible. I am so sorry you have to go through this.
I really dont have any advice for you.
You already know what you can and cant do about your son.
I cant begin to imagine what its like to watch someone you love do that to themselves.
All I can say is take care of yourself. Stay close to SR for now.
Stay close to trusted family and friends that will support and comfort you.
I am sry I am not much help.
My thoughts are with you and your son. Hang in there.
You can make it.
Sometimes when we think we cant make it. We can more than ever.
((missymae))

vegibean

Missy I am so sorry to read about your situation. I have yet to go something so difficult in my own sobriety. I really wish you and your family the best. I hope your son receives a medical remedy. Please hang in there and remind yourself that you just have to get through this one second at a time. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

Rowan

Marian, you did the right thing by coming here and sharing your pain. I understand how difficult it must be to see your son in active addiction. Having said that, he is a grown man who has the same opportunities for recovery that we all have. Have you considered going to Al-Anon, or posting on our Friends and Families forum? There are many members here who are 'double winners', and I'm sure they would have some helpful insight and advice.

In the meantime, I hope you continue to take good care of yourself. Hang in there - I know you're in a lot of pain right now. Hugs.

Missymae737

Chiy,

Your wrong,

You are a great help offering your words of comfort...

Thanks

Dee74

Alanon is a great idea Marian, if you're not already doing it - as is Chiy's suggestion of sticking close to the boards.

I'm sorry you have to go through this - I hope your son has that eureka moment we all need to have

hugs
D

Missymae737

Rowan,

Thanks, I will go to the other forums...

I am just so choked up and in tears...Its ok to cry, feel this terrible emotional pain...This is part of healing right?

Thanks to all my friends here, I can do this...Remain sober...

splendra

I wish I could make your pain go away(((((Missymae))))). It is so sad that people are so sick and they choose to go farther down a self destructive path. I feel your pain. I have a brother and a sister who are very ill yet they choose not to even try to get well.

My only advice is that you be very gentle with yourself right now(it is not your fault) and take very good care of yourself.

adore79

Well wishes and prayers going out to you both and his children.

Rowan

Tears are healing (((Marian))), let them come.

tanyapmc

I'm sorry for your pain. I agree that crying is good. Stay close to us during this difficult time.

stone

I am sorry to hear this Marian, I really hope he can do something about it. I know it must be really hard to deal with, I think you being sober will show him it is possible...ya know?

Aysha

I agree..Let them flow. Crying can wash all that pain away for a moment. Its good to let it out.
Dont hide from your feelings. Let them come and let them run their course.

CarolD

I am so sorry you are dealing with such anguish.
Prayers coming your way for you and your son.

Anna

Marian, I am also so sorry that you are going through this.

I am sending lots of prayers for your son and for you too.

Please take care of yourself.

serenityqueen

I'm sorry to hear about what you are going through. As a Mother myself, I know that I would put myself in front of a moving train to protect my Son. However, you know that this is one train you cannot protect him from.

My Son is what some call a normie, I don't particularly like that word. I like to think that he saw what my own addiction did to me, has faint memories of my deceased little Sister and chose to never pick up.

The only thing you can do and the biggest thing you can do for your Son is not to pick up yourself. As an alcoholic/addict, our first instinct is to drink or get high when something painful happens. . . and watching your Son going through this has got to be horrific.

We are here for you, we can Pray with you . . . and I agree, crying is cleansing and healing. I shared in another forum that I actually set time aside when things are rough and have a good cry. I set my timer for 15 minutes and just let go. But when the timer goes off, I have to dry the tears and continue to go on. I would definately find some Alanon Meetings in your area, you are far from being alone in this.

You, your Son and Family will be in my Prayers.

Faith is Confidence in God When You Do Not Understand
Judy

least

Prayers going out for you and your son. Whatever you do, take care of yourself. Be good to yourself and don't drink. You need to be in good shape to give support to your son and his family.

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Missymae737

Hello and thanks to all. I really needed to see your kind words and I know they are heart felt...

To add to my toment, I had someone tell me today, why do I put faith in this forum , that it is fake and I don't know any of you...This came from a person who says they love me...

Well, we are not angels, we all have faults BUT I do know this, that the majority here are kind, honest and very caring , and I believe this is because we have experienced great suffering...

Many thanks to all of you...:ghug2

PXYZ

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ToABetterMe

Oh, this breaks my heart!
Im so sorry! I can only imgine your pain. Is the same pain I have seen in my mothers eyes when she watched my brother become addicted to Meth & alcohol.
The one she has when she tries to tell my sister to not drink everyday & please dont drive with the kids in the car.
And the one she had when she met me out side jail fter posting my $1200 bond for DUI.

Parents have to endure so much. I feel so bad for all the adult children put them through as well.

You are in my thoughts & Prayers!
:praying