Good news! I'm divorced!
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Good news! I'm divorced!
Hi everyone,
It has been nearly a week since I learned that the superior court granted me a divorce! As long as my ex-AH doesn't appeal the decision to the Swiss Federal Courts, I will be allowed to change my name on May 1st! The child custody/visitation and money issues have yet to be ruled on, but it feels great NOT to be married to that man.
I can't believe I married him to begin with. Where was my head? I think I was depressed, out of my mind, and felt stuck. Now, looking back, I realize that I was only stuck in my own head.
So, if you feel stuck, I send you the strength and courage to change the things you can before they get worse, because they will. In my case, I could have saved hundreds of thousands in legal and alcohol-illness-related bills, at least five years of dysfunction/depressed living, and perhaps prevented my daughter from becoming hurt by her father's drinking, had I found the courage to change my life before it got worse.
Now, the next matters at hand (children and money) don't seem such a big thing, knowing that: 1) he's out of my home and can't return; 2) I'm no longer married to him! Such a great feeling! 3) I live in a different country with my two children and an ocean separates me from him.
I would like to thank all of you on SR who helped me the last 3 years! You gave me a lot of courage to make those changes!
It has been nearly a week since I learned that the superior court granted me a divorce! As long as my ex-AH doesn't appeal the decision to the Swiss Federal Courts, I will be allowed to change my name on May 1st! The child custody/visitation and money issues have yet to be ruled on, but it feels great NOT to be married to that man.
I can't believe I married him to begin with. Where was my head? I think I was depressed, out of my mind, and felt stuck. Now, looking back, I realize that I was only stuck in my own head.
So, if you feel stuck, I send you the strength and courage to change the things you can before they get worse, because they will. In my case, I could have saved hundreds of thousands in legal and alcohol-illness-related bills, at least five years of dysfunction/depressed living, and perhaps prevented my daughter from becoming hurt by her father's drinking, had I found the courage to change my life before it got worse.
Now, the next matters at hand (children and money) don't seem such a big thing, knowing that: 1) he's out of my home and can't return; 2) I'm no longer married to him! Such a great feeling! 3) I live in a different country with my two children and an ocean separates me from him.
I would like to thank all of you on SR who helped me the last 3 years! You gave me a lot of courage to make those changes!
Last edited by mamaplus2kids; 04-06-2009 at 01:45 PM. Reason: Thank you!
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I also celebrated my divorce date! I asked some girlfriends to help me whoop it up and we had such a laugh - we had a mock funeral for my marriage: we eulogized it and sang a hymn and put it to rest. Then we toasted my & his bright new futures!
It can be such a relief and such a defining moment. I wish you peace and strength as you move forward.
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It can be such a relief and such a defining moment. I wish you peace and strength as you move forward.
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You have created the change and are now able to live the results. Way to go.
I hope your children are getting all the support and communication they need.
Now you can focus on them.
I hope your children are getting all the support and communication they need.
Now you can focus on them.
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