A request.....

Old 03-11-2009, 03:40 AM
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A request.....

Today is my brothers funeral, and I need a little extra strength to read the eulogy I wrote for him. I knw you guys have loads and I'm hoping you'll send me a tiny bit each this afternoon, just enough to give me the strength to do it with dignity for him.

I'll be thinking of every one of you today, all the ones who've helped me, all the ones who're just finding out about this disease and all the ones who are still suffering from it.

Lorraine x
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in these types of situations, the strength will be given to us. you don't have to speak at all if you don't want to. why not just see how you feel at that time and take the pressure off of yourself?
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I wish you much strength and I hope it will be the ceremony that you want it to be for him, you, and all his loved ones (I am sure it will be). Your eulogy comes from the heart and nothing could be more dignified than that. I will be thinking of you!
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Thinking of you, and holding you up to your HP.



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((((Lucy)))


Sending you strength, love, hugs and prayers.

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My thoughts are with you sweets, hugs to you

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Sending you love and strength to honor your task, Lorraine.

Remember that there's no shame in tears. Everyone there will understand. It just means we're human.

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My thoughts and strength .... OMG, I'll be thinking of you all day.
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Old 03-11-2009, 08:53 AM
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You will have the strength you need to get through this. Trust in God. I will keep you in my prayers.
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((((LucyA))))........heartfelt prayers sent.
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I hope the funeral goes as well as it can. you are in my thoughts, x
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(((Lucy))),

My prayers are with you today and more, Lucy. You are doing fine.
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Thank you, so much. Today I found some amazing strength, and I truly believe it's bacause I trusted something other than myself.

I carried my brother into the chapel and I read the eulogy, I am so proud to have been able to do that for him. I really believe he's at rest now, and not suffering anymore.

I want to thank all who have helped and supported me in the last couple of years, without you and your wisdom and your own experiences I would not have had the inner peace and strength I needed.
I'm going to stick around here, it's a loving place, maybe I won't post for a while, but I'm here with you sharing and supporting and I think maybe praying too.

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You are in my thoughts & prayers. Whatever you decide there's always a place for you here.
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Dont go Luce. Stay.
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May you receive all you need to get thru the pain of your loss and grieve for your brother.
I wish you all the best in life as of now, and hope you will stay around here at SR.
God bless you
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Originally Posted by Rebecca4 View Post
Dont go Luce. Stay.
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How could I go anywhere? I'm still here, leaning on the rest of you and offering whatever I can give.
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I am so sorry for your loss.

Two years ago my husband died tragically as a result of his alcoholism. I was left to handle all the preparations for his services, memorial table, photo tribute ...etc. on my own ... I also prepared a eulogy as best I could.

I was having the officiating Pastor read the comments I had written, as was left nervously wondering in all the confusion if what I had written was suitable. After reading the words I had sent him, the Pastor emailed my back and told me they were the best tribute he had ever seen written by a family member... and I quietly cried as I read his comments. During that time I was so exhausted and numb, I had begun to question everything around me... and to have the Pastor reassure me that I had conveyed the words of tribute in the way I had hoped, meant so much.

Both of my husband's brothers were to speak at my husband's services, however, one brother kept breaking down and the other struggled to put his words together. I am sure I would have struggled as well if I had been the one to speak my own words instead of having the Pastor speak them for me.

Please be comforted in knowing that your words meant so much to those close to your brother. I am so glad you found the strength you needed during such a difficult time.

Visiting Sober Recovery helped me cope during the many months that followed my husband's death ... as it was only here that I felt anyone could understand this painfully tragic outcome to the powerful and deadly addiction to alcohol.

May you continue to find strength during the weeks and months to come.
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