nixx

Well, my boyfriend made it through rehab. Yesterday was his 30th day of being sober, so needless to say, I am very proud. All I can do now, I guess, is be supportive and hope like hell he keeps on going down this current path. Its so nice to have the "old" boyfriend back. Its not that I didn't love him during his active addiction, but this is the boy I feel in love with originally. I can't handle him drunk. I have schizophrenia and most of my energy has to go to keeping me well, not to mention, the stress worsens my symptoms and holds me back a lot. Some friends tell me I need someone with "less problems than me", who can take care of me and not the other way around. I tend to agree, but he is my love and I don't plan on going anywhere. Any thoughts?.....

greeteachday

Congrats on your BF's clean time and your recognition that he's got to take care of his side of the street.

As far as your relationship. only you know what is right for you. If you keep working on you and he keeps working in him, things could be geat. We don't know what tomorrow brings, but just for today, if you are at peace and happy where you are, life is great!

aasharon90

I was married 7 yrs into the marriage
when my family stepped in and did
an intervention on me. I spent 28
days in rehab plus weeks in an
outpatiant aftercare program.

I was 30 yrs old then,,,,

The rest of my yrs in the marriage,
i remained sober working my 12
step program learning and changing
every step along the way.

However my 25 yr marriage ended
due to my changes and growth in
myself.

The rest of the family survived on
their own but they lost me because
i remain devoted to my program for
myself and they never understood
me.

Ur friend will continue to change as
each day passes with him working
and following the 12 steps to his
program.

If my family had become involved
in a program fit for them in under-
standing the changes i was going
thru, then possibly we could have
saved the marriage.

When one person is sick in the family
the rest of the family is affected. It
takes the family to come together and
grow and change. Not just one.

Im happy he has made it to his 30 days.

Thats a few one days at a time collected
with many more to come taking it one
day at a time.

Hi im Sharon and im an alcoholic.

By the grace of my HP and people
like you here in SR I havent found
it necessary to pick up a drink of
alcohol since 8-11-90.

For that and you I am truely grateful.

hello-kitty

Welcome to the site. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. If you make yourself and your health the number one priority in your life, things will work out the way they are supposed in your relationship. You can't control your boyfriends choices, but you can control yours. I hope you are on meds for your schitzophrenia and working with a doctor. I think keeping him/her informed about what is going on in your personal life, both good and bad, is an excellent idea. And also, stay open to what your friends say. They probably have your best interests at heart and want you to be healthy and happy, with or without your boyfriend.

nixx

I am definetly on medication and attend my doctors appointments regularly. My therapist knows all that goes on, so no worries.
As for my friends- they are amazing and definetly have my best interest at heart. I always take their advice in to account and listen. Yet, I'm a hard headed individual, so I tend to do what I'm going to do no matter what.

sailorjohn

welcome!!!

Serenity Bound

nixx, welcome to SR! As the other have said, just keep taking care of you. Hopefully, your bf will continue in his recovery. You will not be able to cure him, his recovery is up to him. Just beware, and take care of you.
Hugs,
Chris