sojourner

Update on 22 AS - he's homeless with girlfriend having been asked to leave the ex-relative's home about 3 weeks ago.

He's miserable. He stopped by here a while ago - he looks so tired, his hair hasn't been combed in a while, he asked if he could take some cough lozenges because his throat is hurting him. He was doused with cologne probably to cover the fact that he is not showering. He is looking for a job but no one is calling. I know this because he leaves this phone number because he no longer has a cell phone, and no one has called looking to offer him a job. He's thinking of selling his car to get some money.

Part of me wants to jump up and down and say "yippee" - maybe he's finally going to hit that wall. Part of me feels bad for him. Part of me is scared for him. Part of me says, "don't get your hopes up - he may have a lot further down to go. Just act nonchalant. Don't try to take away his pain in any way."

Yikes, i just want to know the next right thing to do. At this point, it looks like i am to still continue to do nothing except not enable. This is so hard...

Serenity Bound

mom to mom hugs :ghug3:

Chris

Seren

Hi Sojourner.....I know exactly how you feel! I just want my BFs son to hit bottom already! But.....not on my time, on his HPs time.

You and your son are in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs, HG

MyJoey

Just stopping by to send hugs and support. My heart hurts for you, we love our children so much. If only they could see how much. I know this has got to be hurting so badly, I am so sorry. ((((Julie))))

Freedom1990

:ghug2

k1a2t3h4r5y6n7

good luck. you sound so strong.

JMFburns

((sojourner))

Mom to mom hugs.

I feel the pain you are feeling, am going through it myself, it is so difficult.

My 28 yr old AS has been living in a homeless shelter for just over 2 mo. There was no way he thought he could do that 3 months ago, but yet here he is living there and no job, no money, no car, etc., etc., etc. I pray he and his HP get together soon (smile!)

AquaBlue

More Mom Hugs, Sojourner! I hope you're feeling the love! :ghug3

I can relate to what you're going through- stay strong- you're doing a great job!

Spiritual Seeker

I know it is NOT easy to watch what has become of your son.

Hang in there...be hopeful ...be patient
Try not to obsess

Keep the relationship alive at whatever level it is at until he is ready for change.

In the meantime, stay close to your own program

greeteachday

Sending lots of hugs from another mom...It is painful to see, but you are really doing well. Your love and respect for him allow him to find his own way. His choice when he is ready, will be one he made on his own and his recovery will be his to embrace and feel proud of. Keeping you both in my prayers.

Hangin' In

I found the best thing I could do for my AD was to get out of the way so she could find her way. Hardest thing I've ever done but it's the best thing I've ever done.

My prayers are with you and your son.

Hugs,
Hangin' In