no contact at last
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no contact at last
i'll start with saying that i have started no contact today. the events of the other day have led me to this decision. i cant remember if i posted about it or not. basically she was really restless and doing the face picking thing. i FEEL pretty sure she was on something, that or she is going crazy. with all i have been going through with her, the thing that pushed me over the edge was her saying that she would call me last night and didnt. i will now try to break my addiction to her. no, wait, i will do that.
i'll start with saying that i have started no contact today. the events of the other day have led me to this decision. i cant remember if i posted about it or not. basically she was really restless and doing the face picking thing. i FEEL pretty sure she was on something, that or she is going crazy. with all i have been going through with her, the thing that pushed me over the edge was her saying that she would call me last night and didnt. i will now try to break my addiction to her. no, wait, i will do that.
Watching someone you care about displaying bizarre behavior can be really uncomfortable. That was when I realized that I needed to let my daughter go and trust that God was holding her in His loving arms. I can still remember the horror that I felt though so I know how hard it it. Sending prayers your way that you can find some peace. Hugs, Marle
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I agree Steve. They do come back. My XH did - many times - and I was weak each time. And each time it was the same...love and romance for a few days and then back to deep in the sh$T.
I wish someone had told me that - that they come back. Cause in the case of my XH, I would've moved....far away.
Good for you in making that step. Be strong and we are all here if you need us.
I wish someone had told me that - that they come back. Cause in the case of my XH, I would've moved....far away.
Good for you in making that step. Be strong and we are all here if you need us.
Good for you, Steve. I have seen you struggle against admitting to yourself that she is an addict and is currently using. I'm sure it was hard to see her acting like that, but I'm sure that it helped to banish some of the denial you'd been clinging to for so long.
I agree with the "they always come back" theory. One of my girlfriends never erases a guy's number from her phone. I, personally, had always felt a great sense of satisfaction and "moving on" when I deleted a guy out of my phone. But she said to me, much like we're telling you here, that they always call again........and it's always best to know it's them on the caller ID than to get caught off-guard when you answer it. Best advice she ever gave me!! Now I know which calls just need to go straight to voicemail!
I agree with the "they always come back" theory. One of my girlfriends never erases a guy's number from her phone. I, personally, had always felt a great sense of satisfaction and "moving on" when I deleted a guy out of my phone. But she said to me, much like we're telling you here, that they always call again........and it's always best to know it's them on the caller ID than to get caught off-guard when you answer it. Best advice she ever gave me!! Now I know which calls just need to go straight to voicemail!
Good for you Steve! And like every addiction, looking at it one day at a time makes it possible...Those 24 hours keep adding up and before you know it, you'll have days where you don't even think about it!
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I believe it is called the yo - yo period, it is written down in their hand book that they must come back to make our lives more misrable at least 5 or 6 more times before the realize you have had enough............ever think about a restraining order.....weomen take that personally.........good luck
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