problemchild

really need someone to talk to

Music man

What is the topic?
I'll talk about anything.

firestorm090

OK, we're here. What's on your mind? Be happy to help anyway we can.

Music man

exactly!!! were here and ready.

mamabin

I'm here too...

problemchild

It is the situation with my wife

problemchild

I usually post on the alcoholism board , so many of you may not be familiar

CarolD

Hi John...

Please tell us what is happening

Music man

Hey John, I just read your update thread, wow man must be tough. Have you heard from anything from her since?
I just wanted to tell you in case I fall asleep, I am praying for you and your wife.:praying

firestorm090

Hey guy,

what problem are you referring to regarding your wife? Are you guys arguing? Is she ill? Does she use or drink? Give us a clue and we'll try to help.

Music man

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...65-update.html
Thought I'd help out the people who would like to help hope you don't mind.

problemchild

ok here it is as best as i know, i was on the road my step daughter called and said, mom took a boat load of kolonipin plus was drinking.........Stepdaughter called 911 they took her to the ER, then sent her to a detox center, my wife drank maybe 3 mixed drinks a night at the most, as far as i was aware. So this follows a talk we had were she wanted me to leave (this after i got sober) so i left, now with her committed to a detox and a crisis center WTF am i suppose to do ? Leave, stay and see what happens or what, this is driving me crazy, i wanna drink but i have not, i wanna do whats right here but whats right ????????

firestorm090

Hey John,

Sounds like you've got your hands full. At least your wife is in the care of others who may be able to help her sort things out a little, while she comes back to reality. I can understand your desire to know why she has done this, but you may have to wait till she's better to have that talk. Pointing fingers is easy sometimes, but the real concern at this time is how to get both of you back on the track toward health. We all need that, so you're not alone. This could be a time of growth for both of you, for now the problem is out in the open, not behind those proverbial closed bedroom doors.

Hang in there and try to relax as much as you can. It's hard to step back from the problem to gain a new perspective, but it can be done.

Hope this helps some.

CarolD

Why not wait and see how the marriage goes
after she is released ...and you are both
clean and sober?

Do you need to do anything tomorrow?

Please remember your last drinking almost killed you
You must stay healthy and sober ...First of all.

Music man

your in a hard spot right now. It would push a lot over the edge. Relax and give your self a pat on the back for being sober right now.
I would be going crazy right now, but she is in a detox and you need to be ready when she is ready. A lot of things are said when people are messed up on pills and alcohol, so take what she said to you, with a grain of salt.
once the detoxing is over she will realize whats important to her, and by remaining sober you can be there for that moment.

I have very limited advice I can give since I have never had any similar situations close to me, but I can say stay sober and SR is here for you.

:ghug3

problemchild

What peed me off as they said she is bipolar, you gaotta know my wife this is not her character at all, hell my vet said my choclate labs were bipolar.......... What a fruit

least

What 'feels' right to you? Or are you so discombobulated you just can't think straight? You do have a lot on your plate. I can understand your anxiety. I can't do much but just care for your well being and keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope your wife will be alright and can get a new perspective on her problems. Time and sobriety may iron out a lot of these wrinkles. Just be kind to yourself and take it one minute at a time if you have to.

:ghug3

problemchild

Carol, i am willing but she is the one that insisted on a seperation, then she does this ?????? I feel like a dog chasing it's tail.

CarolD

There a test for bi polar.
She can have them run by her private doctor
and then ...med's may or may not be indicated.

Time...John....you both need time on this situation.

problemchild

I agree, but the last words we had she insisted i leave, very painfull and my heart still hurts because of those words, we have been together a long time and it is hard to accept that after i get sober, while i was drinking ?? Hell i hated myself, why now?