Is this good news?
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Is this good news?
I have posted occasionally about my 19 year old daughter. She started using cocaine last year and in December checked herself into rehab. Rehab seemed to go well, however, when she returned she sought out her old drug-using friends. I learned while she was in rehab that the recovering addict has to stay away from people, places, and things that are associated with her drug use. Naturally, I was concerned that she was in contact with these old drub buds but she is 19 and is responsible for her own behavior and consequences. She has been home from rehab for 6 weeks and is not contacting these old buds of hers as frequently, if at all, and has recently said that there are very few people that she can trust. This led to a conversation about how very few people you meet in this life that become a true friend.
Do you think she is getting it and on the recovery road, or am I grasping at straws and should prepare myself for the next relapse?
Do you think she is getting it and on the recovery road, or am I grasping at straws and should prepare myself for the next relapse?
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Wonderful, it sounds like she is getting it. At 19 it takes awhile for the friend thing to sink in, and there is always the chance of relapse, but it sounds like she is doing the right things. While I am sure you would prefer her to stay totally away from the old friends (and I agree with you) they maybe the only ones she has and it will take her time to see them for what they are, just drug buddies. Now that she is not using they will really have no time for her. I would encourage her to meet some new friends I know here a lot of young people meet others at book stores like borders, they have coffee shops and people just hang out and meet other people. I would also encourage her to meet some new people at meets. I hope everything works out well with your daughter.
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She's 19. It sounds like she is figuring it out for herself.
My husband got sober at 18 and stayed clean for 1.5 years. He relapsed for one night and then got sober again. He's 43 and has been clean for 23 years.
She sounds like she's doing okay. It will take her some time to figure it out for herself. She has to do that, though.
Good luck, Mom. There are no guarantees, but it sounds like she's on her way.
My husband got sober at 18 and stayed clean for 1.5 years. He relapsed for one night and then got sober again. He's 43 and has been clean for 23 years.
She sounds like she's doing okay. It will take her some time to figure it out for herself. She has to do that, though.
Good luck, Mom. There are no guarantees, but it sounds like she's on her way.
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I hope so. She is working to meet new friends but it is difficult when all of her old friends are drug users. She took a trip to LA with a clean friend (a guy) and his buddy. While she was there the buddy wanted to drink and party in the motel room. She came unglued emotionally and started calling home about how she couldn't handle this. Her friend took her to an NA meeting, dropped her off at some corner in Los Angeles, and she called me scared. She was picked up by her friends but was desperate to come home. She sounded so hysterical that I almost called 911 to have her admitted to a psych unit. Instead, I booked a flight and was with her in 3 hours. I was making the plane reservations in the car on the way to the airport. She hugged me so tightly when I arrived and slept beside me like a baby that night. She wasn't using and made the choice not to party. She said it was a huge trigger and was the worst she had felt since coming home.
After that fiasco, she has spent so much more time at home. She is back into doing things with the family.
I am crossing my fingers that she continues on recovery road but am trying not to be overly optimistic.
After that fiasco, she has spent so much more time at home. She is back into doing things with the family.
I am crossing my fingers that she continues on recovery road but am trying not to be overly optimistic.
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sounds like she is trying and she is learning. how horrible for her to go through that out of town but she knew she couldnt handle it and reached out for help. i see nothing wrong when they are trying to get out of a situation like that. i bet she learned a lot from that. in time she'll get involved in new things school, a job, hobbies that will bring her in contact with new people who share her sobriety. I know when i was younger it seemed like the whole world partied hard - now it seems like on a minority of people really go to those extremes.
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