Glenna9802

Three days of no drinking, first time I've done that in a LOOOOOONG time. It feels really good. Going to meetings has really lessened my anxiety, and the anxiety is what usually causes me to drink. It's been so hard for me to relax for years, but I have had a few relaxed moments here and there in the past week, and I can only attribute it to the only thing that's changed, being in recovery.

I told my AH that I might want to pick up a chip next time I go, and he laughed at me and said that I didn't even have a problem (his is severe). I told him that it had become a problem for me on my terms, but he totally blew it off.

I'm trying to keep the focus on me for right now and my own work. It's hard to manage my own self living with AH, but with the program I'm getting the tools I need, just have to learn how to use them.

Thanks for listening.

NewBeginning010

Congrats Glenna9802 That 's fantastic, keep it up

mikel60

Keep going Glenna! The chips were really motivating for me. I couldn't wait to get the next one. Well done!!
Mike

CarolD

nelco

Its difficult with 2 people in a house are abusing alcohol. I experienced that pain and all the madness it brings. The blame, guilt and the watching the other person.... my own experience was .....`My husband ( whom I was watching) eventually got sober and I was left with me......oh God it was scary, because it was only then I discovered I could not stiop drinking myself and I had nothing to blame anymore. If I was to offer you any suggestion Glenna it would be to keep the focus on yourself. Its hard, very hard in fact but well worth it. You seem to be really making progress, keep up the good work X

ElChupacabra

Chips?

Pelican

Good for you!

I'm proud of you!

jsml1234

Strong work Glenna.

KenL

It's something AA gives out to those with milestones is sobriety.

Good work on the three days!! It's too bad your husband blew you off but don't get discouraged. Feeling good is good enough but you deserve a chip for living with a sever alcoholic as it is. Congratulations!!!

least

Besides AA you may want to consider AlAnon to get help in dealing with your AH. But keep on working on your sobriety program FOR YOURSELF. You can do it! Congrats on three days!:ghug3

Gypsy Feet

I found working on the co-dependent issues I had was very helpful when I got sober. There are lots of great posts in the friends and family and adult children sections here on these forums.

Great work on the three days

ViciousCycle

Hey Glenna, WTG!!!
Drinking was anxiety-driven for me too........but you wait! Wait till you get more time under your belt.......talk about feeling some PEACE.......it is awesome and I am so happy for you....keep it going, the end result is better than any pill you could take!!
Hugs.

Glenna9802

Thanks everyone!! I actually am in Al-Anon.

I'm lucky because on Saturday nights there is a dual meeting for both AA and Al-Anon. Perfect for me!!

I'm just waiting for the moment when AH offers me another drink and hope I can resist.

nickishine

Hi Glenna! Congrats on your 3 days!

Forgive me for my ignorance, but does AH stand for Alcoholic Hubby?

Get those chips, G! I had a few "rainbows" of them a few times in my life! They give out different colors for each milestone. It's a tangible and visible way to see how far you've come!

Hang tough when he asks you if you want a drink! How hard that must be, but you can do it through your support systems and God! Don't give up or turn back. Have something around you all the time that you're drinking so maybe that will lessen his thoughts on offering you something!?

mle-sober

Glenna!!

Way to GO!

You've got a double burden right now and you are doing a great job.

Regarding your AH, Wjust remember that what you are doing right now is going to throw his entire world into doubt, confusion, and self-loathing. He's going to do whatever he can to make it all your fault and make you the problem. Because otherwise, if he let himself get honest with himself, he'd have to face his own demons. And he's scared as heck.

So, just give him as much space as possible. Walk around him as much as you can. If I were you, I wouldn't share anything at all about my recovery. Because it's inviting his scorn. And you're delicate right now. You need to build up some boundaries and some comfidence.

I'm rooting for you. I'm so glad your sober and that you are seeking support. You deserve to be happy.

Astro

Good on you for taking care of yourself Glenna, take those chips with pride and keep doing the deal one day at a time!

Julesy

You're on the right track Glenna. My husband has never accepted I have a drink problem, but I know in myself I have - that's all that matters. He drinks and can be very verbally abusive, but since I have been sober I find I am able to deal with it much better. Being told that I am "boring" when I don't take him up on an offer of a drink is way easier to deal with than the damage drinking does.
You're doing a great job - keep it up girl.

SaraLynn

Glenna
Good for you!! Keep going back for those chips!
SL

24hrsAday

keep at it! ODAT..

NewDayNow

Great job Glenna.

Thanks for that Julesy