Heya, newbie
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Heya, newbie
Hey guys
Ive finally made my decision tonight that im going to stop drinking at home. I roughly consume a bottle of wine and 2 cans of cider every night. I dont know how that rates in the alcoholic sense but i know i need to stop now if i want a normal life. Im quite young.
I know that most people stop completely, but my main problem is that i am a very anti-social person, when im out i enjoy myself, but i can rarely bring myself to going out. I know that if i went out with my friends i could maintain a normal social life, its just when im at home with my mum (who is an alcholic although she denies it) i am driven to drink, because it is readily available to me. I know that i can drink a bottle of wine and a couple ciders, and i know that my mum wont batter an eyelid. (ive being drinking like this for a couple years, maybe more than i want to admit to.)
So tonight ive written everything down, and have decided that if i want a normal life i have to stop being influenced by my mum and have to stop drinking at home.
Thanks for reading, i will be updating hopefully with success not failure.
Ive finally made my decision tonight that im going to stop drinking at home. I roughly consume a bottle of wine and 2 cans of cider every night. I dont know how that rates in the alcoholic sense but i know i need to stop now if i want a normal life. Im quite young.
I know that most people stop completely, but my main problem is that i am a very anti-social person, when im out i enjoy myself, but i can rarely bring myself to going out. I know that if i went out with my friends i could maintain a normal social life, its just when im at home with my mum (who is an alcholic although she denies it) i am driven to drink, because it is readily available to me. I know that i can drink a bottle of wine and a couple ciders, and i know that my mum wont batter an eyelid. (ive being drinking like this for a couple years, maybe more than i want to admit to.)
So tonight ive written everything down, and have decided that if i want a normal life i have to stop being influenced by my mum and have to stop drinking at home.
Thanks for reading, i will be updating hopefully with success not failure.
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Well thanks for the support of moderation.
I am in the, no one knows there body like the one occupying it, group.
Those who fail, may be lying to themselves, maybe even unknowingly. Only time will tell. No offense, im only young, so maybe that is a foolish presumption. Again time will tell.
"This is one of the disadvantages of wine: it makes a man mistake words for thought." ~Samuel Johnson
I am in the, no one knows there body like the one occupying it, group.
Those who fail, may be lying to themselves, maybe even unknowingly. Only time will tell. No offense, im only young, so maybe that is a foolish presumption. Again time will tell.
"This is one of the disadvantages of wine: it makes a man mistake words for thought." ~Samuel Johnson
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Originally Posted by Stevey 
Well thanks for the support of moderation.
I am in the, no one knows there body like the one occupying it, group.
Those who fail, may be lying to themselves, maybe even unknowingly. Only time will tell. No offense, im only young, so maybe that is a foolish presumption. Again time will tell.
"This is one of the disadvantages of wine: it makes a man mistake words for thought." ~Samuel Johnson
I am in the, no one knows there body like the one occupying it, group.
Those who fail, may be lying to themselves, maybe even unknowingly. Only time will tell. No offense, im only young, so maybe that is a foolish presumption. Again time will tell.
"This is one of the disadvantages of wine: it makes a man mistake words for thought." ~Samuel Johnson
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If you stop drinking at home, I bet in no time at all, you'll find yourself going out alot more often . . . because you "can drink" then.
Since your Mom is an alcoholic, you are that much more likely to become one yourself. Like you said, you're young. Please stop drinking now. I would hate to see you go through the 32 years of hell I went through from the first time I picked up until I finally got clean and sober.
Glad you found us and please keep reading and sharing. You're a part of this family now too.
Hugs,
Judy
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Not drinking around my family is difficult for me too: it's what we do. Its a bit of a challenge to stay with them, face that I am getting nervous, and not drink.
Be proud of yourself for dealing with this while you are young: you will save yourself so much grief and gain so much pleasure in your life w/o alcohol.
Glad you are here.
Be proud of yourself for dealing with this while you are young: you will save yourself so much grief and gain so much pleasure in your life w/o alcohol.
Glad you are here.
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Hi Stevey, welcome to SR 
You know that you are your own person, and that you have a personal responsibility to make your own decisions, as you have already decided to stop drinking at home... But why not decide to quit altogether? I can relate to feeling anti-social sometimes. However, I've discovered that being sober has really helped me communicate better and that, by being true to what I feel is right, I can actually fit in without feeling left out. More importantly, though, I have discovered that drinking is not a solution to anything.
If you read some of the posts you'll see what drinking can do to a person; why risk doing that to yourself? This isn't a booh! scare tactic, I'm just talking from experience - I also wrote down a decision when I felt young, but it got washed away. I hope you decide to stop drinking altogether. It sounds as though your mother might be enabling you with her own drinking. Please realize that having booze readily available doesn't mean you have to drink it
If you are tempted to drink or craving, reach out and ask for help - you'll find a lot of support here
No failure. Remember to "Shoot for the moon... Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars". Take care of yourself.
You know that you are your own person, and that you have a personal responsibility to make your own decisions, as you have already decided to stop drinking at home... But why not decide to quit altogether? I can relate to feeling anti-social sometimes. However, I've discovered that being sober has really helped me communicate better and that, by being true to what I feel is right, I can actually fit in without feeling left out. More importantly, though, I have discovered that drinking is not a solution to anything.
If you read some of the posts you'll see what drinking can do to a person; why risk doing that to yourself? This isn't a booh! scare tactic, I'm just talking from experience - I also wrote down a decision when I felt young, but it got washed away. I hope you decide to stop drinking altogether. It sounds as though your mother might be enabling you with her own drinking. Please realize that having booze readily available doesn't mean you have to drink it
If you are tempted to drink or craving, reach out and ask for help - you'll find a lot of support here
Originally Posted by Stevey
Thanks for reading, i will be updating hopefully with success not failure.
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It's awesome and inspiring to go
to a meeting and see the younger
generation coming in to help
themselves stay clean and sober.
They come together and listen
to the many "old-timers" share
their own experience, strengths
and hopes on what it was like
drinking, what happened to
them and where are they now.
When you get involved in
ur program and you are there
to support each other u will
find the joy of staying clean
and sober. Helping others
to stay clean and sober is
the key of staying clean and
sober urself.
That's how Ive done it and
continue to do it one day
at a time.
Hi Im Sharon and Im an
alcoholic. by the grace
of my HP and people
like you here in SR I
havent had a drink of
alcohol since 9-11-90.
For that and you I
am truely grateful.
to a meeting and see the younger
generation coming in to help
themselves stay clean and sober.
They come together and listen
to the many "old-timers" share
their own experience, strengths
and hopes on what it was like
drinking, what happened to
them and where are they now.
When you get involved in
ur program and you are there
to support each other u will
find the joy of staying clean
and sober. Helping others
to stay clean and sober is
the key of staying clean and
sober urself.
That's how Ive done it and
continue to do it one day
at a time.
Hi Im Sharon and Im an
alcoholic. by the grace
of my HP and people
like you here in SR I
havent had a drink of
alcohol since 9-11-90.
For that and you I
am truely grateful.
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