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Thread Starter
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: chicago
Posts: 148
aaaa dont know where to start
so ive been lurking here for a little while now, and have wanted to stop drinking for months now... but i dont know where to start. i am so used to coming home to a drink, because i work nights and am usually really tired aftetrwards, and i dont know what i would do. i ve tried to quit so many times but ive always felt sick and so needing that i went back.
also: you guys all seem really awesome. i am very happy to be here! YAY
also: you guys all seem really awesome. i am very happy to be here! YAY
Thriving sober since 12/18/08
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Orlando, FL
Posts: 3,115
Welcome 
A lot of us have been exactly where you are right now, it can get better. Posting here is a great start! Maybe find something else to do during the time you usually relax with your after work drink, I found that changing my habits were so critical in staying away from 'drinking thinking', I was very very habitual in the times I drank.
A lot of us have been exactly where you are right now, it can get better. Posting here is a great start! Maybe find something else to do during the time you usually relax with your after work drink, I found that changing my habits were so critical in staying away from 'drinking thinking', I was very very habitual in the times I drank.
Resident Awesome Guy
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Castle Pines, CO
Posts: 747
Well, I can say you have come to the right place. The first thing you need to do is make for certain that you are ready to stop drinking. The second thing I would do is get rid of any alcohol you may still have in your house. From there, it is one day at a time. Keep posting and reading here. This is a very good support structure for those of us that need help fighting this terrible addiction.
Welcome to SR.
Welcome to SR.
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: chicago
Posts: 148
thank ye for advice :ghug3
i need to find something to do that doesnt involve the drinking. i used to do everything without it but then i incorporated alcohols into almost everything. maybe i will read more
and be here more!@
i need to find something to do that doesnt involve the drinking. i used to do everything without it but then i incorporated alcohols into almost everything. maybe i will read more
and be here more!@
New Member
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 17
Your not alone, there are lots of us just starting. I'd agree with C23 about ridding your place of alcohol. I know I have 12 beer and 8 bottles of home-made wine in my "stock room" right now, I'm going to try and sell it all to friends before the cravings start. If I can't do that, I'm going to pour it all down the sink. Why not stop today, I wish you all the best.
Resident Awesome Guy
Join Date: Jan 2009
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Originally Posted by nobodyknows 
thank you guys
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: chicago
Posts: 148
Originally Posted by C23
No thank you. You coming here and joining helps me to not feel alone. It makes me realize there are countless others going through the exact same thing I am going through on a daily basis.
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Resident
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Toronto, Ontario
Posts: 4,150
Welcome to our world.
Everyone here is trying to quit whether it has been 1 day or years and years.
You said you used to do everything without drinking so try to recapture that. It just sorta creeps in on us until we are using more and more.
Deciding you don't want it to take over more and more of your life is half the battle.
If you come to that decision you will be able to do it and everyone here will give you the support you need when the going gets tough.
Good luck.
Everyone here is trying to quit whether it has been 1 day or years and years.
You said you used to do everything without drinking so try to recapture that. It just sorta creeps in on us until we are using more and more.
Deciding you don't want it to take over more and more of your life is half the battle.
If you come to that decision you will be able to do it and everyone here will give you the support you need when the going gets tough.
Good luck.
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: UK
Posts: 4,682
Hi there
Not a fourth grader
Now that would have been a BIG shock if you were!
Keep coming here and read all the threads, you will pick up on something. Keep posting too. I came back on and off for 6 months from joining, mostly drunk, and searched the internet for real life stories of people getting sober thinking how the hell do they do it...sip sip hehe
Seriously though i got outside help 4 months ago and have been sober since, attended my first AA meeting yesterday because i wanted to and am going again today, it can be done!
Not a fourth grader
Now that would have been a BIG shock if you were!Keep coming here and read all the threads, you will pick up on something. Keep posting too. I came back on and off for 6 months from joining, mostly drunk, and searched the internet for real life stories of people getting sober thinking how the hell do they do it...sip sip hehe
Seriously though i got outside help 4 months ago and have been sober since, attended my first AA meeting yesterday because i wanted to and am going again today, it can be done!
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: chicago
Posts: 148
Originally Posted by yeahgr8
Hi there
Not a fourth grader Now that would have been a BIG shock if you were!
Keep coming here and read all the threads, you will pick up on something. Keep posting too. I came back on and off for 6 months from joining, mostly drunk, and searched the internet for real life stories of people getting sober thinking how the hell do they do it...sip sip hehe
Seriously though i got outside help 4 months ago and have been sober since, attended my first AA meeting yesterday because i wanted to and am going again today, it can be done!
Not a fourth grader
Now that would have been a BIG shock if you were!Keep coming here and read all the threads, you will pick up on something. Keep posting too. I came back on and off for 6 months from joining, mostly drunk, and searched the internet for real life stories of people getting sober thinking how the hell do they do it...sip sip hehe
Seriously though i got outside help 4 months ago and have been sober since, attended my first AA meeting yesterday because i wanted to and am going again today, it can be done!
thank you
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,780
I was a specialist in relapse, til I got six months sober and thought I had it licked... I'm now on day three and the withdrawal is so bad I'm going to the hospital, hoping they'll give me something to get thru the next three days. If I can get past that I can make it.
Get medical help if you can't get past the first few days, and give AA a good try too, it helped me a lot in early recovery. The main thing is to get safely past detox. To get the alcohol out of your system so you can start to see what sobriety has to offer - and it's far better than continuing to drink. I should know... but I want to be sober - again - and stay that way so I'm getting the help I need cause I can't do this myself, at least, not at first.
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Get medical help if you can't get past the first few days, and give AA a good try too, it helped me a lot in early recovery. The main thing is to get safely past detox. To get the alcohol out of your system so you can start to see what sobriety has to offer - and it's far better than continuing to drink. I should know... but I want to be sober - again - and stay that way so I'm getting the help I need cause I can't do this myself, at least, not at first.
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Join Date: Jan 2009
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nobodyknows: i was in your shoes a little while back.. i had a job (that i HATED) 2end shift.. if i did not have to work the next day it was AUTOMATIC.. started drinking RIGHT AWAY.. never thought it would stop. got to the point I HAD TO! alcohol abuse can and WILL kill you.. you can do it.(i had to quit that job) you have to WANT IT BAD ENOUGH TO GO TO ANY LENGTH to stay sober!
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Omigosh, I remember feeling totally overwhelmed when I KNEW I had to stop drinking.
I could not imagine getting through a single evening without drinking.
Take small steps and just concentrate on getting through each hour, each day. You will get stronger and it will get easier.
I could not imagine getting through a single evening without drinking.
Take small steps and just concentrate on getting through each hour, each day. You will get stronger and it will get easier.
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Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: CA desert
Posts: 1,599
Hey nobodyknows,
It's great to see you here. I just joined yesterday, went out last night and am picking up the pieces again today, so I know how you feel. I checked the parking lot this morning and my car is still in one piece, so I'm starting fresh today on trying to hang with you and get sober. After that, it's a whole new way of life, but we need to get sober first. BTW, I'm from the Windy City, but live in CA. now. Boy, I don't miss those winters, but I do miss snow on Christmas day. My family is still in the burbs, Elmhurst, Naperville, and Schaumburg. My exwife still lives in the house we bought together so many years ago. Maybe, you could send me a couple of those great Italian Beef sandwiches. The food here in CA. is just not the same as in Chi-town. Hang in there and stay with us. We're in this together.
It's great to see you here. I just joined yesterday, went out last night and am picking up the pieces again today, so I know how you feel. I checked the parking lot this morning and my car is still in one piece, so I'm starting fresh today on trying to hang with you and get sober. After that, it's a whole new way of life, but we need to get sober first. BTW, I'm from the Windy City, but live in CA. now. Boy, I don't miss those winters, but I do miss snow on Christmas day. My family is still in the burbs, Elmhurst, Naperville, and Schaumburg. My exwife still lives in the house we bought together so many years ago. Maybe, you could send me a couple of those great Italian Beef sandwiches. The food here in CA. is just not the same as in Chi-town. Hang in there and stay with us. We're in this together.
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Canada
Posts: 367
nobody knows, I too would immediately have a drink when I got home.
I still do have a drink right away, just not alcohol.
I've been buying multiple jugs of 100% fruit juices.
When I get home, first thing I do is make a drink in my big beer mug!
Throw in some ice, and mix up one, a little of this juice, a splash of another, top it up with cranberry juice,,,,Stir it up.... mmmmmm!
In fact I still have a drink in my hands all night long, just like the old days, but non alcoholic.
My personal fav creation is
1/3 mango
1/3 cranberry
1/3apple
-with a little splash of orange juice to top it up
Stir well!
I must say after doing this for the last 3 weeks along with taking vitamins and eating well have transformed me from a pasty skinned blurry eyed drunk into a brand new man.
My eyes are clear and sparkly.
My skin looks healthy.
I can also feel all those tiny brain cells and circuits in my head (that I fried over the years) slowly reconnecting. Seriously.
Just for today I will not drink.
You can do it too nobodyknows!
I still do have a drink right away, just not alcohol.
I've been buying multiple jugs of 100% fruit juices.
When I get home, first thing I do is make a drink in my big beer mug!
Throw in some ice, and mix up one, a little of this juice, a splash of another, top it up with cranberry juice,,,,Stir it up.... mmmmmm!
In fact I still have a drink in my hands all night long, just like the old days, but non alcoholic.
My personal fav creation is
1/3 mango
1/3 cranberry
1/3apple
-with a little splash of orange juice to top it up
Stir well!
I must say after doing this for the last 3 weeks along with taking vitamins and eating well have transformed me from a pasty skinned blurry eyed drunk into a brand new man.
My eyes are clear and sparkly.
My skin looks healthy.
I can also feel all those tiny brain cells and circuits in my head (that I fried over the years) slowly reconnecting. Seriously.
Just for today I will not drink.
You can do it too nobodyknows!
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