I think my boyfriend is out using
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I think my boyfriend is out using
Wow I have never been so scard in my life! I believe my boyfriend is out using right now. I've been trying to get ahold of him all day, and his phone is turned off. Very not like him. I have no clue what to do.
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Join Date: Sep 2007
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Lisaf3868, welcome to SR..
There is nothing you can do.. and I do mean nothing..
The only thing that you can do for you is to decide if this relationship is worth the fear and the anxiety that it is bringing you by not knowing where your bf is at and if he is or isn't using drugs..
I have no clue what to do.
The only thing that you can do for you is to decide if this relationship is worth the fear and the anxiety that it is bringing you by not knowing where your bf is at and if he is or isn't using drugs..
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Welcome to SR!
I agree with the above...focus on yourself.
I'm a recovering crack addict, and the first sign that I was using was when no one could get hold of me. It will do no good to try to track him down, or worry about him. He's doing what he wants to do and you can't change that.
Three c's...you didn't cause it, can't control it, and you can't cure it.
Most addicts eventually come back around, and have some story of why they "disappeared". Go with your gut. Decide if this is what you want in a relationship. Read around some other threads and see what others have gone through, being in relationships with A's (addicts). It's not pretty.
If he has access to any joint accounts, I would seriously consider changing that to limit or stop his access. He could drain out a bank account rather quickly.
Keep coming back here. There are a lot of wonderful people here, with a ton of ES&H (experience, strength and hope). You're not alone.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
I agree with the above...focus on yourself.
I'm a recovering crack addict, and the first sign that I was using was when no one could get hold of me. It will do no good to try to track him down, or worry about him. He's doing what he wants to do and you can't change that.
Three c's...you didn't cause it, can't control it, and you can't cure it.
Most addicts eventually come back around, and have some story of why they "disappeared". Go with your gut. Decide if this is what you want in a relationship. Read around some other threads and see what others have gone through, being in relationships with A's (addicts). It's not pretty.
If he has access to any joint accounts, I would seriously consider changing that to limit or stop his access. He could drain out a bank account rather quickly.
Keep coming back here. There are a lot of wonderful people here, with a ton of ES&H (experience, strength and hope). You're not alone.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
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Hi Lisa,
I don't have much to add to what others have said. I'm sorry you are so worried, I know that feeling. Just know you have lots of support and advice available here. Sending you lots of good wishes!
Hugs,
HG
I don't have much to add to what others have said. I'm sorry you are so worried, I know that feeling. Just know you have lots of support and advice available here. Sending you lots of good wishes!
Hugs,
HG
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