Another day, another blow
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Another day, another blow
Long story short....
AH called to say good night to kids....
His voice was all weird. He was driving....I had a bad feeling.
He said he took some levitra (sp? sleeping pills)
Because he has bad insomnia. He went to a clinic after work to get the meds.
Said he didnt want to wait the 1 hour for them to kick in so he took some on drive home (his grandfathers).....
He sounded confused....then he said he was lost and he felt confused.
I begged him to get off the road.
He didn't.
1 hour 30 mins. latter
he called, he was pulled over because he was driving crazy.
they did a breathalizer ...he passed.
they said he looked/acted extremely intoxicated.
he said he had diabetes, he just broke up with wife, he hasnt slept in 5 days....
they took a blood sample at the scene.
he must go to court for dangerous driving.
AND THEN THE STUPID POLICE LET HIM DRIVE HOME!!!!!
(no insurance, expiered registration......)
HE COULD HAVE KILLED SOMEONE.
Thank God my mother was here to calm me down.
I want to kill him.
What has happened to his brain!
He has gone crazy.
he said the lack of sleep is so bad.
.....so As I writting this I get a knock on the door.
It's my neighbour and he wants to know where he can find my husband....
HE OWS HIM MONEY!
I can't take this!
This is crazy!
I want him out of my life! NOW
AH called to say good night to kids....
His voice was all weird. He was driving....I had a bad feeling.
He said he took some levitra (sp? sleeping pills)
Because he has bad insomnia. He went to a clinic after work to get the meds.
Said he didnt want to wait the 1 hour for them to kick in so he took some on drive home (his grandfathers).....
He sounded confused....then he said he was lost and he felt confused.
I begged him to get off the road.
He didn't.
1 hour 30 mins. latter
he called, he was pulled over because he was driving crazy.
they did a breathalizer ...he passed.
they said he looked/acted extremely intoxicated.
he said he had diabetes, he just broke up with wife, he hasnt slept in 5 days....
they took a blood sample at the scene.
he must go to court for dangerous driving.
AND THEN THE STUPID POLICE LET HIM DRIVE HOME!!!!!
(no insurance, expiered registration......)
HE COULD HAVE KILLED SOMEONE.
Thank God my mother was here to calm me down.
I want to kill him.
What has happened to his brain!
He has gone crazy.
he said the lack of sleep is so bad.
.....so As I writting this I get a knock on the door.
It's my neighbour and he wants to know where he can find my husband....
HE OWS HIM MONEY!
I can't take this!
This is crazy!
I want him out of my life! NOW
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I am so glad you are back I've been wonderin' about you.
This is what he said???? I've never heard of them taking a blood sample at the scene but maybe they do that now days.
Is the car yours or his?
they took a blood sample at the scene.
he must go to court for dangerous driving.
he must go to court for dangerous driving.
Is the car yours or his?
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he said he had diabetes, he just broke up with wife, he hasnt slept in 5 days....
they took a blood sample at the scene.
he must go to court for dangerous driving.
AND THEN THE STUPID POLICE LET HIM DRIVE HOME!!!!!
(no insurance, expiered registration......)
HE COULD HAVE KILLED SOMEONE.
Thank God my mother was here to calm me down.
I want to kill him.
What has happened to his brain!
He has gone crazy.
he said the lack of sleep is so bad.
they took a blood sample at the scene.
he must go to court for dangerous driving.
AND THEN THE STUPID POLICE LET HIM DRIVE HOME!!!!!
(no insurance, expiered registration......)
HE COULD HAVE KILLED SOMEONE.
Thank God my mother was here to calm me down.
I want to kill him.
What has happened to his brain!
He has gone crazy.
he said the lack of sleep is so bad.
Maybe he thought you would let him back home if he told you this cockameemee story.
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I wont have to worry about the phone.....
I just found out he hasn't paid the bill in months....I can't make long distance calls and it's going to be cut off.
How can this be happening. It just gets worse and worse.
My neighbour just looked at me with such pity and said. "well at least you know now"
I was thinking....what do I know? what do you know?.....Does everyone know but me?
It feels that way.
I'm going to a nar-anon meeting on Monday.
I hope that helps.
He's still claiming he's not using....well heroin at least......
I used to worry about my kids getting enough exercise, school or quality time etc...
Now I know all about heroin and addiction etc.....
I just found out he hasn't paid the bill in months....I can't make long distance calls and it's going to be cut off.
How can this be happening. It just gets worse and worse.
My neighbour just looked at me with such pity and said. "well at least you know now"
I was thinking....what do I know? what do you know?.....Does everyone know but me?
It feels that way.
I'm going to a nar-anon meeting on Monday.
I hope that helps.
He's still claiming he's not using....well heroin at least......
I used to worry about my kids getting enough exercise, school or quality time etc...
Now I know all about heroin and addiction etc.....
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howareyounow,
Go to that Naranon meeting....it WILL help...keep going....it WILL help. And keep posting here and reading around our threads, it WILL help.
Hugs & Prayers coming your way
Chris
Go to that Naranon meeting....it WILL help...keep going....it WILL help. And keep posting here and reading around our threads, it WILL help.
Hugs & Prayers coming your way
Chris
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I agree...stop listening to him and go to al-anon, because what he told you makes no sense.
Levitra isn't for sleep, if they checked his blood at the scene, they would have called an ambulance to check his blood sugar because he's a diabetic. Anything coming out of his mouth, right now, is probably BS and you don't need to hear it.
Keep reading/posting here, go to meetings and get all the support you can. Focus on you and the kids, and let him deal with his own stuff. I know it's hard, but like you said, you don't need this crap.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
Levitra isn't for sleep, if they checked his blood at the scene, they would have called an ambulance to check his blood sugar because he's a diabetic. Anything coming out of his mouth, right now, is probably BS and you don't need to hear it.
Keep reading/posting here, go to meetings and get all the support you can. Focus on you and the kids, and let him deal with his own stuff. I know it's hard, but like you said, you don't need this crap.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
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I get really PO'd when they blame their diabetes for being messed up - its the biggest tool in the diabetic/addict handbook - heck he can even have needles laying all over his car and the cop wont even care because he's diabetic. Its possible that they called EMS and they tested him because most cops know that diabetics can drive like their drunk and they have to get him medical attention if it may be diabetic related. If his sugars were off then the cop has to let him off. But the thing is is for my AS usually the drugs and alcohol were usually the cause of the high/low blood sugars but I never realized. Most would initially raise the bs and then it would drop later. So he'd run around with skyrocketing bs - completly out of his mind and then he would drop like a rocket and have a seizure.
My advice is dont talk to him when he sounds messed up - no good conversation is going to come out of it and it will just make you worry and try to help him. The sooner the diabetic addict ends up in the hospital and real blood tests take place the closer they are to seeing the truth.
My advice is dont talk to him when he sounds messed up - no good conversation is going to come out of it and it will just make you worry and try to help him. The sooner the diabetic addict ends up in the hospital and real blood tests take place the closer they are to seeing the truth.
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Everyone is right....none of it makes sense....
BUT.......at least it helps my case to be sure I have full custody and limited access!....
The more he gets in 'trouble' esp. with the police (he has a court date etc....)
THe easier it is for me.....yippee lucky lucky me!
BUT.......at least it helps my case to be sure I have full custody and limited access!....
The more he gets in 'trouble' esp. with the police (he has a court date etc....)
THe easier it is for me.....yippee lucky lucky me!
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If only acting on a decision was so easy when you're just numb all over and you just want to close your eyes, hide in a hole and make all these troubles go away. I myself would not have let things go on with my exah for four years if it were that simple.
You will put a plan into action, whatever it may be, when you're ready and you will know it when that time comes. I never understood what people meant by that until I had put my own plan into action.
You know the hard truths about your AH. Our minds will play with us and try to reason things out and make it into something that is "not so bad" just so we can handle the situation better. Or we might try to fool ourselves into believing their stories. But these "not so bad" things build up and the dam will break.
You will put a plan into action, whatever it may be, when you're ready and you will know it when that time comes. I never understood what people meant by that until I had put my own plan into action.
You know the hard truths about your AH. Our minds will play with us and try to reason things out and make it into something that is "not so bad" just so we can handle the situation better. Or we might try to fool ourselves into believing their stories. But these "not so bad" things build up and the dam will break.
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I had never heard the diabetes line until just recently.
My XAH's "girl friend" was a witness at our divorce hearing. XAH was recently arrested for assaulting her son. She told the police that day that XAH was drunk on mouthwash (I'm sure that does wonders for the lining of your stomach). That day at court she told my lawyer that XAH wasn't drunk at all...his blood sugar was low! LOL That was the craziest thing I had ever heard. Didn't know low blood sugar caused you to assault people when they won't give you the car keys.
Interesting how all addicts/alcoholics come up with the same stories!
Sue
My XAH's "girl friend" was a witness at our divorce hearing. XAH was recently arrested for assaulting her son. She told the police that day that XAH was drunk on mouthwash (I'm sure that does wonders for the lining of your stomach). That day at court she told my lawyer that XAH wasn't drunk at all...his blood sugar was low! LOL That was the craziest thing I had ever heard. Didn't know low blood sugar caused you to assault people when they won't give you the car keys.
Interesting how all addicts/alcoholics come up with the same stories!
Sue
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Suzie low blood sugars for people who are diabetic or hypoglycemic can cause some severe mood alterations. To this day I cannot tell the difference between when my son has a low bs or is drunk because he acts the exact same way. When his blood sugars are high is when my son gets violent but all diabetics are different with that. Living with a diabetic is probably similar to living with someone who is bi-polar - they do get very extreme.
With a judge unless he has some medical evidence that he is diabetic or hypogycemic it surprises me they would let him off the hook.
With a judge unless he has some medical evidence that he is diabetic or hypogycemic it surprises me they would let him off the hook.
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(((How))) Watching my marriage fall apart some 9 years ago was the hardest thing I believe I have ever lived through. So many things my now ex husband did at the time just shocked me over and over again. It's horrible to believe that you could actually have fallen in love with and felt you knew someone only to find out that you did not know the person at all. How could he have fallen so low? How could he even think it's OK to do what he is actually doing? I, too, thought I was losing my mind.
Taking action for my own future (in some ways I'm glad we did not have children) allowed me to gain some sense of control....some belief that things would get better. And they did...little by little.
I'm not admonishing you at all, and no one here is giving up on you or is mad at you....we all want you to have a wonderful, peaceful, sane future. All my support, good wishes and prayers. Keep writing and working it out. We are here.....
HG
Taking action for my own future (in some ways I'm glad we did not have children) allowed me to gain some sense of control....some belief that things would get better. And they did...little by little.
I'm not admonishing you at all, and no one here is giving up on you or is mad at you....we all want you to have a wonderful, peaceful, sane future. All my support, good wishes and prayers. Keep writing and working it out. We are here.....
HG
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PS...I am also an insulin-dependent diabetic...he has a tough row ahead of him, but it's his responsibility to take care of himself. Perhaps the roadside blood test was just a test of his blood sugar level?
HG
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(((Howareyounow))),
Listen to your mom if you can't do it yourself. One step at a time, like Anvil said. You don't have to "feel" bad or good about what you are doing, but just DO it. This is serious, this is YOUR life now. He's NOT going to be there for you, but YOU are and sounds like so is your mom. Time to put one foot in front of the other and walk your way through this nightmare. You can do it. Many of us here have and are stronger, wiser and happier as a result. God bless. Now get moving.
Listen to your mom if you can't do it yourself. One step at a time, like Anvil said. You don't have to "feel" bad or good about what you are doing, but just DO it. This is serious, this is YOUR life now. He's NOT going to be there for you, but YOU are and sounds like so is your mom. Time to put one foot in front of the other and walk your way through this nightmare. You can do it. Many of us here have and are stronger, wiser and happier as a result. God bless. Now get moving.
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