New year, new start
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Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: York, England
Posts: 42
New year, new start
Hi folks. I haven't been around since summer when I lapsed after 13 days and have been off the wagon ever since.
Today is day one of what I really have to make my last and successful attempt to quit. I've spent all the festive season drunk and I feel ashamed and awful.
I'm tired, overweight and totally fed up.
It's a new year and a new start. I have to do it this time.
If anyone else wants to make 2009 a successful and sober one then let's do it together.
Thanks
Today is day one of what I really have to make my last and successful attempt to quit. I've spent all the festive season drunk and I feel ashamed and awful.
I'm tired, overweight and totally fed up.
It's a new year and a new start. I have to do it this time.
If anyone else wants to make 2009 a successful and sober one then let's do it together.
Thanks
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: lakewood ohio
Posts: 1
Kudos to you.....I came back one year ago on Jan. 1 2008 after 8 years. This is my 3rd time. I too was totally beat and I guess thats what it took for me. This time is different I'm actually ejoying myself. I heard someone say "I don't have to go to meetings I GET to go to meetings" and thats How it feels for me today. Good Luck and God bless
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: North of England
Posts: 19
Good luck
I stopped 2 days ago.
It would be really good if it was sucessful for both of us this time.
It will be good to talk next year when we both have a sober 12 months under our belts.
best wishes
I stopped 2 days ago.
It would be really good if it was sucessful for both of us this time.
It will be good to talk next year when we both have a sober 12 months under our belts.
best wishes
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Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: York, England
Posts: 42
Thanks for all the messages of support. In answer to the question "am I planning on any other support program"? the answer is no. This is my place for support as it is available 24/7/365.
Since my last attempt at sobriety I have split up with my partner as she wasn't providing any support and actually encouraged me to drink by refusing to help me change my habits. By this I mean that even though she knew I was trying to stay sober she still organised nights out in the pub with friends etc, all of whom are heavy drinkers. I have since met someone else who is very supportive and although our relationship is in the very early stages she fully understands what I'm trying to do and I have been completely honest about myself. We even went to the pub tonight and, although our friends were drinking, I stayed on soft drinks and felt under no peer pressure to drink alcohol. Unlike previous attempts, this time I have told all of my friends what I am trying to do and have been open and told them all to just treat me as they normally would and not to make a fuss about the alcohol. I strongly believe this is my best chance of sobriety as I've realised I needed to be honest with those around me as well as myself.
I am going to post in this thread at least once per day and I'd like those who are joining me on this journey to do the same. I certainly won't disappear this time.
Thanks again guys!
Since my last attempt at sobriety I have split up with my partner as she wasn't providing any support and actually encouraged me to drink by refusing to help me change my habits. By this I mean that even though she knew I was trying to stay sober she still organised nights out in the pub with friends etc, all of whom are heavy drinkers. I have since met someone else who is very supportive and although our relationship is in the very early stages she fully understands what I'm trying to do and I have been completely honest about myself. We even went to the pub tonight and, although our friends were drinking, I stayed on soft drinks and felt under no peer pressure to drink alcohol. Unlike previous attempts, this time I have told all of my friends what I am trying to do and have been open and told them all to just treat me as they normally would and not to make a fuss about the alcohol. I strongly believe this is my best chance of sobriety as I've realised I needed to be honest with those around me as well as myself.
I am going to post in this thread at least once per day and I'd like those who are joining me on this journey to do the same. I certainly won't disappear this time.
Thanks again guys!
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Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: kelowna, b.c.
Posts: 74
Keep on going my friend. I don't attend AA myself. I come on here, spend time with my wife who very rarely takes a drink * I used to say I drank for the both of us*, focus on getting good nutrition, get exercise and try to keep life low stress. I'm on day 6 after a four day relapse. I wasn't happy about the relapse, but I took stock of my last six months which included two solid runs of 34 & 39 days without a drop. Aside from those I never went back to my old drinking habits which were every night of the week.
Here's to making a good go of it in 2009!!!
Here's to making a good go of it in 2009!!!
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Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: north yorkshire, england
Posts: 1,891
Well said gonzo, Im trying to get past a relapse I had over new year, I want to accept the responsibily for it without beating myself so badly that I just give up on myself.
All I can do about it now is get back up and start again.
All I can do about it now is get back up and start again.
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: North of England
Posts: 19
Great to hear your developing a supportive relationship.
I am not sure I would trust myself in pub yet. That is a test I will face when I come to it.
I sounds as if you have a much better situation to work with this time.
Best wishes.
I am not sure I would trust myself in pub yet. That is a test I will face when I come to it.
I sounds as if you have a much better situation to work with this time.
Best wishes.
Thriving sober since 12/18/08
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Orlando, FL
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york, you're still detoxing, and that can be scary and dangerous to do without medical help. Please take care of yourself, and if you feel you need a doctor, call one!
Glad that you're back.
As for the pub thing, no thanks.. Over the past 17 days I have had, I did go once last Saturday. While it didn't fuel my desire to drink, I found myself being very judgemental about all of the people that were, and it put me in a funk. I am working way too hard on this to keep old habits and old 'hangouts' in my life. Cheesy saying but I find it's true "If you keep doing what you always did, you'll keep getting what you always got".
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Glad that you're back.
As for the pub thing, no thanks.. Over the past 17 days I have had, I did go once last Saturday. While it didn't fuel my desire to drink, I found myself being very judgemental about all of the people that were, and it put me in a funk. I am working way too hard on this to keep old habits and old 'hangouts' in my life. Cheesy saying but I find it's true "If you keep doing what you always did, you'll keep getting what you always got".
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