What are three positive things you bring to a relationship?
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What are three positive things you bring to a relationship?
In a recent Alanon meeting this was the topic. I found it so interesting to listen to the shares and realize that it was not only me that suffered from self esteem issues due to my fall into insanity from living with an alcoholic, and not only me that had trouble recognizing the good qualities within myself and verbalize them.
So, I thought it would be fun to start this thread.
1) I'm loyal and will stick with with friends. In the past this quality went out of control and turned into a negative but through therapy and Alanon I am realizing that it is a wonderful trait to possess.
2) I like new adventures and am good at rolling with the unexpected.
3) I am intuititve and pick up on others' feeling easily.
So, I thought it would be fun to start this thread.
1) I'm loyal and will stick with with friends. In the past this quality went out of control and turned into a negative but through therapy and Alanon I am realizing that it is a wonderful trait to possess.
2) I like new adventures and am good at rolling with the unexpected.
3) I am intuititve and pick up on others' feeling easily.
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Nice thread, chrysalis. We all bring so much but lots of us never give ourselves credit for it.
I bring great communication skills, lots of tenderness, and an infectious sense of humor to my relationships.
I bring great communication skills, lots of tenderness, and an infectious sense of humor to my relationships.
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hmmm lets see three things that I bring into a relationship:
total honesty, yep all my warts, I'll never lie or embellish who I am and what I stand for
serious laughter, you know the deep belly laughter with tears running down your face! I love having fun and sharing those times with those I love
a sense of adventure, I'm willing to try anything (no not chemicals) new food, new sports, new music, new ways of looking at old things
K.
total honesty, yep all my warts, I'll never lie or embellish who I am and what I stand for
serious laughter, you know the deep belly laughter with tears running down your face! I love having fun and sharing those times with those I love
a sense of adventure, I'm willing to try anything (no not chemicals) new food, new sports, new music, new ways of looking at old things
K.
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I don't know, but I'll ask and get back to you
I'm just noting that saying three good things about myself is so uncomfortable I can't do it yet, when I try I still hear the voice of my xagf telling me how horrible I am.
I'm a nice boy......I think...I think I am a nice boy.......a lot of people tell me I am a nice boy...a good man....why can't I bring them to mind right now....pretty much everyone I know in the whole world I know likes me and thinks I am a nice boy/good man....but on this question why is the only voice I can hear hers? She is the only person in the whole world that hates me beyond belief, and spent two years telling me what a loathsome scumbag I am but hers is the only voice I hear right now telling me what an awful person I am when I try to say something nice about myself....
My exes all like/love me, my family still loves me even after I "ran away from home", my friends all love me, I'm loved around the rooms of the program, my girlfriend loves me...but yet I only hear "you are a bad man, a hurtful man, a hateful man" all because I walked away in order to protect myself and get healthy but I "abandoned" her and her daughter when I try to write down three good things.
Interesting
very interesting.
I think I bring a lot to a relationship, I just can't say it right now.
I'm just noting that saying three good things about myself is so uncomfortable I can't do it yet, when I try I still hear the voice of my xagf telling me how horrible I am.
I'm a nice boy......I think...I think I am a nice boy.......a lot of people tell me I am a nice boy...a good man....why can't I bring them to mind right now....pretty much everyone I know in the whole world I know likes me and thinks I am a nice boy/good man....but on this question why is the only voice I can hear hers? She is the only person in the whole world that hates me beyond belief, and spent two years telling me what a loathsome scumbag I am but hers is the only voice I hear right now telling me what an awful person I am when I try to say something nice about myself....
My exes all like/love me, my family still loves me even after I "ran away from home", my friends all love me, I'm loved around the rooms of the program, my girlfriend loves me...but yet I only hear "you are a bad man, a hurtful man, a hateful man" all because I walked away in order to protect myself and get healthy but I "abandoned" her and her daughter when I try to write down three good things.
Interesting
very interesting.
I think I bring a lot to a relationship, I just can't say it right now.
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Originally Posted by gns 
Hmmmm... I have made a mental note of all the good cooks and great conversationalists on this thread and will be sure to pay attention to any dinner invitations coming up!!
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I'm reliable. I do what I say and I say what I do.
I'm a great conversationalist. I can talk about anything, sometimes for ages.
I'm interesting as I have lead an intersting life. Still do, I think.
I'm a positive person, most of the time. I try to find the good in everything.
Al Anon is great for this stuff. I like it how they say our defects are our assests used in the wrong way. I.e. we may be a caring person but we tend to take it to extremes and become caretakers.
Great topic.
I'm a great conversationalist. I can talk about anything, sometimes for ages.
I'm interesting as I have lead an intersting life. Still do, I think.
I'm a positive person, most of the time. I try to find the good in everything.
Al Anon is great for this stuff. I like it how they say our defects are our assests used in the wrong way. I.e. we may be a caring person but we tend to take it to extremes and become caretakers.
Great topic.
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So I do NOT have to list the bad stuff if I just come up with 3 good things??!!
Thank heaven!!!
Ok then -
1) Adventurous, except (like kingston) with drugs. I will read, eat, watch, or listen to anything, travel anywhere, or talk to anyone. If I only had the time....and cash flow.
2) Flexible. though this is not a good trait in any office.
3) Loyalty.
Egads - this looks like a summary of the traits of ACOA's!
4) Have not declared bankruptcy!
Thank heaven!!!
Ok then -
1) Adventurous, except (like kingston) with drugs. I will read, eat, watch, or listen to anything, travel anywhere, or talk to anyone. If I only had the time....and cash flow.
2) Flexible. though this is not a good trait in any office.
3) Loyalty.
Egads - this looks like a summary of the traits of ACOA's!
4) Have not declared bankruptcy!
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