Daisy30

I had posted a while ago about my wanting a seperating from AH. I still do and I am taking steps in that direction....

but my neighbor (who has helped me and the kids out when AH has been...welll you know) wants to do an intervention.

He (the neighbor) is sad that he no longer has his best friend.

so has anyone done one? are there resources out there? where?

I also would like to do it fairly quickly as I am ready to be out of here.

any thoughts or advice are appreciated

Bernadette

Just want to point out you don't need to be still living with him or even married to him to participate in an intervention.
Stick to YOUR plan, it's the one thing you KNOW will work out!!!
peace-
B.

GiveLove

Your NEIGHBOR wants to do an intervention?

Interventions are about jarring someone into sobriety so they get better. You want to do an intervention even though you're "so ready to be out of there" ? Am I missing something?

Haven't you done enough, Daisy? Is this what YOU want, or what someone else wants? Your neighbor can do his own intervention, rather than using you to get his best friend back. Protect yourself and your life and get away if that's where your heart is.

Barbara52

What do you think you should do for you? That is the important question.

steve11694

I have not lived with my AW for a while, and we went through much of the heartache and suffering that people that have lived with an active alcoholic can truly appreciate;

I never stopped loving her but I surrendered to the fact that alcohol is in the drivers seat, not the pre-alcohol person I married. I knew the non alcoholic person and the alcoholic one. Tragic and heartbreaking.

I would gladly participate in an intervention to try to get her into recovery. I would even help financially for rehab. To stop loving someone is a whole lot different from "letting go"

I did organize an intervention however she failed to go.

PS; anyone with a guitar ever try the song below?

Laden101

Sounds like you don't want to do an intervention, but are looking for help because your neighbor asked you for it. If you are ready to get out, then follow your plan and do the intervention ONLY if you want to. Like others have said, your neighbor can do one on his own. Good luck!

ghost99

I think an intervention is a good idea, just don't confuse trying to help him with the realities of your relationship. In other words, I wouldn't make your decision on staying/leaving based on the intervention outcome.