beachbum617

Well, here I am on day 7. I feel great! The best part is that I passed a couple of hard tests. Friday night out with friends (four couples and kids) and all drinking martinis and wine. I drank seltzer all evening. Couldn't trust having one or two glasses b/c it would have been too easy to hide the fact that I was having more with so many bottles flowing. Then last night, at home, had 2 1/2 NORMAL sized glasses of white wine. Not the tumblers full I used to consume. Felt fine, didn't get wasted and was able to stop with some wine in the bottle (which I promptly dumped this morning).

It feels good to feel like I am gaining a little control. I don't think things were as dire for me as others, but I was absolutely on the path to destruction.

Now...today is another sober day. A day to appreciate the rain, the season, and the kids while NOT being hungover or buzzed. YAY!!!!

Majamama

Hi beachbum,

I had a similar experience yesterday... went to a kids birthday party where there was champagne for the adults. It sort of started to set me off on a binge. I had 2 glasses at the party and then came home and drank 2 beers. I decided to STOP, eat and take a nap. I am disappointed in myself that I spoiled an 8 day stretch of sobriety, but today I will start over - stronger!

-Majamama

CarolD

Hmm..
I'm confused...Day 7 of what?
Is your goal abstinence?

beachbum617

My goal is to remain sober (e.g. not have to get drunk and drink as much as possible everytime I pour a glass of wine)...

I would like to learn how to have a glass or two on a weekend and that's it...

Majamama

Hey beachbum,
I've had that goal before - like 20 times before!
I understand that the ability to drink in moderation is what you want...
I wanted it too, but it is not possible for me, an alcoholic. It works for a short time and then just snowballs. IF you can do it -great!
-Majamama

CarolD

Thanks for your explanation.
Best wishes

sicilia1414

hmmmm...I don't think it's something you really learn, IMO.

Either you have the ability or you don't....

Jakey

Exactly the same for me. I tried that plan so many times and it never worked in the long run.

nickishine

Good for you, Beachbum!

Maybe you're not an alcoholic afterall! If this works for you and continues to work for you, then that's great.... more power to ya!

Not in my case! Maybe once or twice with sheer will power or luck, but I won't even venture to test the waters anymore. I AM an alcoholic and will end up dead in this disease if I continue to drink and have lost the ability to control alcohol in my life.

Thanks for your post. All the best goes out to you!

Sincerely,
Nicki

Tryingto

I truly hope it works for you.

I have done that before.
That is the lovely excuse (another one of them) that justifys either an extra glass 'here or there', or rapidly turns into 2 glasses of wine almost every night, and then 'oh better make that 3 glasses, yes over 3 glasses means you have a problem'

.......as you can see it would/does just stretch out of control with me.

Though I am also ultimately hoping to drink in moderation, at present that is far from going to happen. Unfortunately I know myself (and what I will do to get/hide alcohol) far to well now.

beachbum617

HMMM...you all are making me think (a good thing). Maybe I can't do it? Maybe one glass or two will snowball...

Not quite sure. For now...for today...no drinking...

Thanks to all who weighed in with your opinions...

bstt03

I have tried so many times! I know realize that I don't want just those two glasses of wine - gee what is the fun in that? I drank to get drunk, period end of story. And I also feel that if you have to think about it and be concious of controlling it, worry about, etc., plan it out then its a problem. That is with me anyway. If you can do it, then more power to you. I know some have, just not me! good luck to you either way!

Freedom1990

Perhaps you might want to look up the definition of sober in the dictionary?

Desiderata

Soberity to me means NO SUBSTANCES of any kind. I can not drink anything because I'm an alcoholic and will eventually start to consume large amounts of alcohol. I've tried that path SO many times and realized I was really living in denial or living as a dry drunk. We each come to terms with our addiction in our own time. Hopefully before time catches up with us and we don't have to look back with regrets, sorry, anger or sadness.

Moderation is not an option for me...I hope it works for you. Happy Holidays, Des.