Question for Al-Anon Sponsors
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Question for Al-Anon Sponsors
I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months. She has been going to Al-Anon
meetings for over a year and has a sponsor she really likes. She is working her steps slowly but surely. Is it healthy for her to be in a relationship with
me during this process ?
I support her completely, I have gone to meetings with her and had good dialogue about her steps. Her walls can be quite high and I think she has a
hard time trusting people. I don't want out, I want her to be healthy.
meetings for over a year and has a sponsor she really likes. She is working her steps slowly but surely. Is it healthy for her to be in a relationship with
me during this process ?
I support her completely, I have gone to meetings with her and had good dialogue about her steps. Her walls can be quite high and I think she has a
hard time trusting people. I don't want out, I want her to be healthy.
My sponsor and I talked a lot about relationships. She helped me to examine my motives and my feelings...and if I was healthy enough to be able to contribute to a healthy relationship. There were times that I could, and times that I couldn't
It's her choice as to whether or not she makes healthy choices and what "healthy choices" means to her.
I wanted XABF to be healthy too - to the point where I was unhealthy.
Thing is - not using the tools I learned in recovery from codependence would not get me very far in my recovery. Hiding from life won't get me any closer to who I want to be
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How about the following question: Is it healthy for you to be in a relationship with her during this process?
Peace.
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