Language of Letting Go - Sept. 10 - Self-Approval
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Language of Letting Go - Sept. 10 - Self-Approval
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Self-approval
Most of us want to be liked. We want other people to think of us as nice, friendly, kind, and loving. Most of us want the approval of others.
Since childhood, some of us have been trying to get approval, trying to get people to like us and think highly of us. We may be afraid people will leave us if they disapprove of our actions. We may look for approval from people who have none to give. We may not know that we're lovable now and can learn to approve of ourselves.
In order to live happily, to live consistently with the way our Higher Power wants us to live, and to tap into a way of life that is in harmony with the universe, we need to let go of our extreme need for approval. These unmet needs for approval and love from our past give others control over us today. These needs can prevent us from acting in our best interest and being true to ourselves.
We can approve of ourselves. In the end, that's the only approval that counts.
Today, I will let go of my need for approval and my need to be liked. I will replace them with a need to like and approve of myself. I will enjoy the surprise I find when I do this. The people who count, including myself, will respect me when I am true to myself.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Self-approval
Most of us want to be liked. We want other people to think of us as nice, friendly, kind, and loving. Most of us want the approval of others.
Since childhood, some of us have been trying to get approval, trying to get people to like us and think highly of us. We may be afraid people will leave us if they disapprove of our actions. We may look for approval from people who have none to give. We may not know that we're lovable now and can learn to approve of ourselves.
In order to live happily, to live consistently with the way our Higher Power wants us to live, and to tap into a way of life that is in harmony with the universe, we need to let go of our extreme need for approval. These unmet needs for approval and love from our past give others control over us today. These needs can prevent us from acting in our best interest and being true to ourselves.
We can approve of ourselves. In the end, that's the only approval that counts.
Today, I will let go of my need for approval and my need to be liked. I will replace them with a need to like and approve of myself. I will enjoy the surprise I find when I do this. The people who count, including myself, will respect me when I am true to myself.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
a lot of gentle reminders...
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Today, I will let go of my need for approval and my need to be liked. I will replace them with a need to like and approve of myself. I will enjoy the surprise I find when I do this. The people who count, including myself, will respect me when I am true to myself.
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Good Stuff.
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THANK YOU RELLA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good Stuff.
Peace,
B.
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Great thread. I've been working hard on this and have made some progress.
I used to worry about the people in back of me if I was first at a stop light LOL. I would worry that it would change and they would get mad at me if I didn't start off fast enough for them. Now this seems really silly to me because I'm just as important as they are for Pete's sake.
I used to worry about the people in back of me if I was first at a stop light LOL. I would worry that it would change and they would get mad at me if I didn't start off fast enough for them. Now this seems really silly to me because I'm just as important as they are for Pete's sake.
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