Tuesday, August 19, 2008
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Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Letting Go of Shame
Shame is that dark, powerful feeling that holds us back. Yes, shame can stop us from acting inappropriately. But many of us have learned to attach shame to healthy behaviors that are in our best interest.
In dysfunctional families, shame can be tagged to healthy behaviors such as talking about feelings, making choices, taking care of ourselves, having fun, being successful, or even feeling good about ourselves.
Shame may have been attached to asking for what we want and need, to communicating directly and honestly, and to giving and receiving love.
Sometimes shame disguises itself as fear, rage, indifference, or a need to run and hide, wrote Stephanie E. But if it feels dark and makes us feel bad about being who we are, it's probably shame.
In recovery, we are learning to identify shame. When we can recognize it, we can begin to let go of it. We can love and accept ourselves - starting now.
We have a right to be, to be here, and to be who we are. And we don't ever have to let shame tell us any differently.
Today, I will attack and conquer the shame in my life.
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Letting Go of Shame
Shame is that dark, powerful feeling that holds us back. Yes, shame can stop us from acting inappropriately. But many of us have learned to attach shame to healthy behaviors that are in our best interest.
In dysfunctional families, shame can be tagged to healthy behaviors such as talking about feelings, making choices, taking care of ourselves, having fun, being successful, or even feeling good about ourselves.
Shame may have been attached to asking for what we want and need, to communicating directly and honestly, and to giving and receiving love.
Sometimes shame disguises itself as fear, rage, indifference, or a need to run and hide, wrote Stephanie E. But if it feels dark and makes us feel bad about being who we are, it's probably shame.
In recovery, we are learning to identify shame. When we can recognize it, we can begin to let go of it. We can love and accept ourselves - starting now.
We have a right to be, to be here, and to be who we are. And we don't ever have to let shame tell us any differently.
Today, I will attack and conquer the shame in my life.
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Thank You Rella-- this is great.
I went to see a speaker once many years ago, a psychologist, and she spoke really eloquently about "shame-based" behaviors and how shame is often at the root of people's worst decisions, worst behaviors. And how shame of feeling shame keeps many people locked in this painful circular loop.
Thanks for reminding me of that and giving me a good focus for meditation today!!
B.
I went to see a speaker once many years ago, a psychologist, and she spoke really eloquently about "shame-based" behaviors and how shame is often at the root of people's worst decisions, worst behaviors. And how shame of feeling shame keeps many people locked in this painful circular loop.
Thanks for reminding me of that and giving me a good focus for meditation today!!
B.
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