My mom and step dad are alcoholics.. and I live with them.
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My mom and step dad are alcoholics.. and I live with them.
(This story is kind of jumpy, my apologies.)
Well, I'm a 16 year old girl, living with an alcoholic mom, and an alcoholic step dad. Well, my mom and dad got in a divorce when I was in kindergarten or first grade, and then my mom married my step dad. We moved to Illinois. My mom hardly drank when she was married to my father. But ever since my mom and step dad have been together, they've done nothing but drink, really.
Ever since we moved to Illinois, my mom has always put drinking in front of me. I was able to go to my mother's house every Tuesday, and the weekends. Half of the time I wouldn't even be able to go to my mom's house, because she went out. She use to tell me I could stay the night at her house, and then the day of when I was supposed to stay, she would say "We're going to (step dad's) mom's house." And I would be so hurt and upset, because I wanted to go over there. And then I'd call her, and I'd hear the casino slots. And she would always be slurring her words. Of course back in 2nd grade I didn't know why she was slurring her words. She would always ditch me to get drunk. Whenever I asked her to go to my band concerts, or school plays, she'd usually tell me that she'd go. And I'd always look for her familiar face in the crowd, and wouldn't spot her. I'd practically be in tears on the stage. After the concerts I'd call her and ask why she didn't come, and she would say excuses like her stomach her, or she had a headache, or whatever. I would be so upset. And almost every night of the weekend they'd always go out, leaving my step sister and I at the house.
Then around 7th-8th grade my mom kicked me out of the house. This is her reasoning: She had picked me up from my dad's house completely wasted one night, and my step dad almost ran us off the road, and I got so scared, so I told my mom I wanted to call my dad. And she got so mad at me, and told me if I called my dad then I'm going to be kicked out of the house. I called my dad anyways. So as soon as my mom, step dad, and I got home, she told me to pack my bags and have my dad come and pick me up.
Ever since then I've been kicked out quite a few times.
My mom and step dad used to live on the base, and if you guys don't know, they make you stop and they check your military I.D. in order to enter the base. Every time right before my step dad pulled up to the officer he'd either have my mom give him a piece of gum, or take a puff or two from my mom's cigarette. Obviously they were trying to hide the stench of alcohol in their breath.
Also, my mom and step dad would always drink and drive, while having me, and my step sister in the car. They would always bring along this coffee mug. And to test them, I'd ask if I could have a drink of that. And they'd tell me no. And I specifically remember one time we were about to take my best friend home, and I saw them poor a beer or two into the coffee mug. And I would NOT allow them to drink and drive with my friend in the car, so when they went outside I tried to hide it. Unfortunately my step dad saw me, and told my mother. My mom was FURIOUS, but I got them to not drink in the car while taking her home, so it was worth it.
My mom has mentally, physically, and emotionally abused me. Whenever she's drunk she'll always come in my room and tell me what a worthless piece I am, calling me a lazy f****, a selfish b****, a pig, all sorts of names. And those words would always hurt me, and make me cry. My mom would always threaten to make me go life with my dad, to take my laptop away, to not let me go see my friends, my boyfriend, etc. She has told me multiple times that she has hated me. At first it really affected me, but then I just kind of stopped worrying about it. And then one night, my sophomore year, my mom and I got into a big argument..and she told me she didn't love me anymore. It hurt me so badly. But to be honest, I don't know why it hurt me. I should be use to all of the things she says to me. And she always accuses me of being a druggie, having sex, and things like that.
My mom and I have only gotten into one physical fight. My best friend was there to witness it. She was really getting to me on our way home one night, saying all of these hurtful things, and what not. And as I was walking towards the garage she had tripped me, and out of fury I threw my halfway full gatorade bottle at her, and hit her in the knee. And then we were outside and we were pulling each other's hair and what not.. And my step dad broke us up. Then I ran into my room and we sort of got at it again. Then I was practically kicked out of the house then too.
There's been multiple times where's shes tried to hit me, or she's thrown stuff at me, and such.
I used to be always afraid to come home, because I didn't know what my night had in store for me.
And to try and get away from my mother, I would lock myself in the bathroom. And she would never leave me alone, telling me to unlock the door. And I would tell her no. And she'd try her hardest to pick the lock, but never succeeded. Then she threatened to call the police on me, saying I was trying to commit suicide in the bathroom. So of course that made me come out.
(And to clear things up, I do have a step sister, but she doesn't get the treatment I get. My mom loves her. She is always in the other room doing God knows what, while I'm in the other room getting it from my mom.)
To deal with all of this, my boyfriend helps me out with it so much. He is always there for me, no matter what. He has sat on the phone with me, and listened to me cry, he has cried with me, and he has given me some of the best advice I've ever gotten from somebody. I really don't know what I could do without him in this situation. It just hurts me so badly that he has to deal with this too. He's seen my mom drunk plenty of times. I am just so thankful that he's willing to put up with all of it, for me. He's literally my only escape from all of this.
This is my first post on these kinds of forums. Thanks for reading, and feel free to reply.
Well, I'm a 16 year old girl, living with an alcoholic mom, and an alcoholic step dad. Well, my mom and dad got in a divorce when I was in kindergarten or first grade, and then my mom married my step dad. We moved to Illinois. My mom hardly drank when she was married to my father. But ever since my mom and step dad have been together, they've done nothing but drink, really.
Ever since we moved to Illinois, my mom has always put drinking in front of me. I was able to go to my mother's house every Tuesday, and the weekends. Half of the time I wouldn't even be able to go to my mom's house, because she went out. She use to tell me I could stay the night at her house, and then the day of when I was supposed to stay, she would say "We're going to (step dad's) mom's house." And I would be so hurt and upset, because I wanted to go over there. And then I'd call her, and I'd hear the casino slots. And she would always be slurring her words. Of course back in 2nd grade I didn't know why she was slurring her words. She would always ditch me to get drunk. Whenever I asked her to go to my band concerts, or school plays, she'd usually tell me that she'd go. And I'd always look for her familiar face in the crowd, and wouldn't spot her. I'd practically be in tears on the stage. After the concerts I'd call her and ask why she didn't come, and she would say excuses like her stomach her, or she had a headache, or whatever. I would be so upset. And almost every night of the weekend they'd always go out, leaving my step sister and I at the house.
Then around 7th-8th grade my mom kicked me out of the house. This is her reasoning: She had picked me up from my dad's house completely wasted one night, and my step dad almost ran us off the road, and I got so scared, so I told my mom I wanted to call my dad. And she got so mad at me, and told me if I called my dad then I'm going to be kicked out of the house. I called my dad anyways. So as soon as my mom, step dad, and I got home, she told me to pack my bags and have my dad come and pick me up.
Ever since then I've been kicked out quite a few times.
My mom and step dad used to live on the base, and if you guys don't know, they make you stop and they check your military I.D. in order to enter the base. Every time right before my step dad pulled up to the officer he'd either have my mom give him a piece of gum, or take a puff or two from my mom's cigarette. Obviously they were trying to hide the stench of alcohol in their breath.
Also, my mom and step dad would always drink and drive, while having me, and my step sister in the car. They would always bring along this coffee mug. And to test them, I'd ask if I could have a drink of that. And they'd tell me no. And I specifically remember one time we were about to take my best friend home, and I saw them poor a beer or two into the coffee mug. And I would NOT allow them to drink and drive with my friend in the car, so when they went outside I tried to hide it. Unfortunately my step dad saw me, and told my mother. My mom was FURIOUS, but I got them to not drink in the car while taking her home, so it was worth it.
My mom has mentally, physically, and emotionally abused me. Whenever she's drunk she'll always come in my room and tell me what a worthless piece I am, calling me a lazy f****, a selfish b****, a pig, all sorts of names. And those words would always hurt me, and make me cry. My mom would always threaten to make me go life with my dad, to take my laptop away, to not let me go see my friends, my boyfriend, etc. She has told me multiple times that she has hated me. At first it really affected me, but then I just kind of stopped worrying about it. And then one night, my sophomore year, my mom and I got into a big argument..and she told me she didn't love me anymore. It hurt me so badly. But to be honest, I don't know why it hurt me. I should be use to all of the things she says to me. And she always accuses me of being a druggie, having sex, and things like that.
My mom and I have only gotten into one physical fight. My best friend was there to witness it. She was really getting to me on our way home one night, saying all of these hurtful things, and what not. And as I was walking towards the garage she had tripped me, and out of fury I threw my halfway full gatorade bottle at her, and hit her in the knee. And then we were outside and we were pulling each other's hair and what not.. And my step dad broke us up. Then I ran into my room and we sort of got at it again. Then I was practically kicked out of the house then too.
There's been multiple times where's shes tried to hit me, or she's thrown stuff at me, and such.
I used to be always afraid to come home, because I didn't know what my night had in store for me.
And to try and get away from my mother, I would lock myself in the bathroom. And she would never leave me alone, telling me to unlock the door. And I would tell her no. And she'd try her hardest to pick the lock, but never succeeded. Then she threatened to call the police on me, saying I was trying to commit suicide in the bathroom. So of course that made me come out.
(And to clear things up, I do have a step sister, but she doesn't get the treatment I get. My mom loves her. She is always in the other room doing God knows what, while I'm in the other room getting it from my mom.)
To deal with all of this, my boyfriend helps me out with it so much. He is always there for me, no matter what. He has sat on the phone with me, and listened to me cry, he has cried with me, and he has given me some of the best advice I've ever gotten from somebody. I really don't know what I could do without him in this situation. It just hurts me so badly that he has to deal with this too. He's seen my mom drunk plenty of times. I am just so thankful that he's willing to put up with all of it, for me. He's literally my only escape from all of this.
This is my first post on these kinds of forums. Thanks for reading, and feel free to reply.
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Welcome to SR. This is a wonderful place.
Al-Anon is a wonderful thing. I grew up with an alcoholic father and didn't realize what that meant until I got into recovery for my own addiction/alcoholism. You might be able to find an Alateen meeting but I'm sure the base you are on has an Al-Anon meeting.
If you are a military dependent you can access those benefits for counseling. You can call the Tricare number and get a same day referral. (I have done this for me and my children). The appt. might not be right away.
Most bases have chapels on them, the clergy can point you in the right direction as far as meetings and services. You don't have to talk religion even. It is just part of their job to know about the services.
Post any time. You are not alone!
Al-Anon is a wonderful thing. I grew up with an alcoholic father and didn't realize what that meant until I got into recovery for my own addiction/alcoholism. You might be able to find an Alateen meeting but I'm sure the base you are on has an Al-Anon meeting.
If you are a military dependent you can access those benefits for counseling. You can call the Tricare number and get a same day referral. (I have done this for me and my children). The appt. might not be right away.
Most bases have chapels on them, the clergy can point you in the right direction as far as meetings and services. You don't have to talk religion even. It is just part of their job to know about the services.
Post any time. You are not alone!
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I have been to two counselors so far. The first one I really liked, and really helped me through things. She knew everything about what happened.. But my mom never wanted to go there, because my counselor tried talking to her about her faults. My mom blames everything on me. And so I had to stop going to that counselor.
My most recent counselor I only wanted to go to so I could get prescribed to anti-depressants again. Because I was going through depression. And I wouldn't tell her hardly anything, because she was friends with my step dad, and I had major trust issues, from other incidents I've had. So I stopped seeing her.
My most recent counselor I only wanted to go to so I could get prescribed to anti-depressants again. Because I was going through depression. And I wouldn't tell her hardly anything, because she was friends with my step dad, and I had major trust issues, from other incidents I've had. So I stopped seeing her.
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Hang in there ,stay strong. Get more counselling. Your parents are very sick and need to get well. Dont blame yourself and dont believe the lies they will have you believe about yourself,keep listening to your music 
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Thanks a lot. I'm not sure if I'm going to get anymore counseling or not. It doesn't work out because my mom will never go, and when she did she would always say the bad things about me.
Another thing I forgot to mention..
One time I was about to go out of town, and it was my first plan ride alone. And she told me she would go with me, because I was sort of nervous and what not. And then the day of my plane flight, she didn't want to go because "her stomach hurt". Then when I reached my aunt's house (My mom's sister), my mom called her, and claimed how she had this massive hang over and what not.
Another thing I forgot to mention..
One time I was about to go out of town, and it was my first plan ride alone. And she told me she would go with me, because I was sort of nervous and what not. And then the day of my plane flight, she didn't want to go because "her stomach hurt". Then when I reached my aunt's house (My mom's sister), my mom called her, and claimed how she had this massive hang over and what not.
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You are now 16, which means in every state in the US, and most other Western countries, children of divorced parents can tell a judge who they want to live with.
Is it possible on your next visit to your dad's to ask him if you can live with him? They would have to go to court, but it would be fairly quick - you would have to tell the judge why you want to live with your dad and not your mom (which sounds pretty reasonable to me!) and that's kind of that.
You now have legal control over your life, in your shoes, I would start trying to use it.
I'm glad to see you're centered enough to know that drinking and driving is very dangerous, and I'm sad to see that your mom/stepdad don't seem to care.
This board is full of people who will offer you advice (myself included). Take what you want, leave the rest. You don't *have* to do everything we say, we offer it up as ideas that may help you.
Is it possible on your next visit to your dad's to ask him if you can live with him? They would have to go to court, but it would be fairly quick - you would have to tell the judge why you want to live with your dad and not your mom (which sounds pretty reasonable to me!) and that's kind of that.
You now have legal control over your life, in your shoes, I would start trying to use it.
I'm glad to see you're centered enough to know that drinking and driving is very dangerous, and I'm sad to see that your mom/stepdad don't seem to care.
This board is full of people who will offer you advice (myself included). Take what you want, leave the rest. You don't *have* to do everything we say, we offer it up as ideas that may help you.
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Just the problem with that is.. My dad and step mom are character's of their own too.
My dad always guilt trips me into staying at his house, and when I'm finally there he tries to make me feel bad about not being their enough. That house is hectic because I'd have to live with 2 baby brothers. My step mom always yells at me for the slightest things, and I mean the slightest things. I'd have to move to a different school, which I've been there before, but I absolutely hate it there. And my step mom and I get into arguments every time I'm there. Some of them are my fault, some of them are her fault.
It's complicated.
My dad always guilt trips me into staying at his house, and when I'm finally there he tries to make me feel bad about not being their enough. That house is hectic because I'd have to live with 2 baby brothers. My step mom always yells at me for the slightest things, and I mean the slightest things. I'd have to move to a different school, which I've been there before, but I absolutely hate it there. And my step mom and I get into arguments every time I'm there. Some of them are my fault, some of them are her fault.
It's complicated.
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You are a teenager that needs help. my question is this, do your Dad and stemother drink or do drugs?
If not, then you would be better with them regardless of what it would be like living with two baby brothers. And you could sit down with your Dad and stemom and discuss what they would expect from you, etc. Do they know what you are living with?
I lived in a alcoholic home when I was your age and went through some similar things. Not quite to the extreme that you are going through though and I am STILL working through it and now my own problems because though I swore I never would, I did eventually pick up the bottle too.
Please try and find an Alateen and/or Alanon meeting. You will find others that know EXACTLY what you are going through. It will be a place where you can feel safe and be heard. If you can not leave your Mom's house, please do this. You will be amazed at how much it will help :ghug3
If not, then you would be better with them regardless of what it would be like living with two baby brothers. And you could sit down with your Dad and stemom and discuss what they would expect from you, etc. Do they know what you are living with?
I lived in a alcoholic home when I was your age and went through some similar things. Not quite to the extreme that you are going through though and I am STILL working through it and now my own problems because though I swore I never would, I did eventually pick up the bottle too.
Please try and find an Alateen and/or Alanon meeting. You will find others that know EXACTLY what you are going through. It will be a place where you can feel safe and be heard. If you can not leave your Mom's house, please do this. You will be amazed at how much it will help :ghug3
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You are a teenager that needs help. my question is this, do your Dad and stemother drink or do drugs?
If not, then you would be better with them regardless of what it would be like living with two baby brothers.
If not, then you would be better with them regardless of what it would be like living with two baby brothers.
Rei, this is definitely a complicated situation. It is complicated because you're a teenager and it is complicated to adults (why do so many people stay in horrible relationships even as adults?)
Your options are, unfortunately, quite limited from the sounds of things. Do you have any adult in your life whom you trust? Someone you could spend time with to stay away from your mom's house during the afternoons? Could you get involved in an after-school activity so that the amount of time you're forced to deal with them is as short as possible? Is there an adult you would trust to take you to an AlaTeen meeting?
My heart breaks for you.
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Well ginger, it's a rough situation.
My dad and step mom are aware of how my mom and step dad are, and what not. And I use to tell my dad everything, and I mean everything that happened at my mom's house. And I've told my step mom things too. When my mom and dad get into arguments over pointless things, the way my dad tries to win, is by telling my mom things I've said about her. My step mom has also done that. And my dad will also tell my mom stuff that I say about her out of the blue too, so I can't trust and of my parents, what so ever.
Now, my mom's sister is also fully aware of what happens at my mom's house. And I use to be able to talk to her about anything that went on at my mom's house, because she'd listen, and wouldn't tell a think to my mom. And she would give me advice and what not. Now whatever I do to try and make things better, never works. And she started getting tired of constantly hearing things that happens, because she feels like I don't take her advice to heart. So I don't have any adult to talk to, who I can trust.
During the nights I'm usually always out. There's never a time where I'm not. But she does call me a lot while I'm at my boyfriend's or friend's house, and yell at me for things. It's embarrassing. I usually never bring my friends to my house at night, because when my mom comes home she will embarrass me and say hurtful things to me.
My dad and step mom are aware of how my mom and step dad are, and what not. And I use to tell my dad everything, and I mean everything that happened at my mom's house. And I've told my step mom things too. When my mom and dad get into arguments over pointless things, the way my dad tries to win, is by telling my mom things I've said about her. My step mom has also done that. And my dad will also tell my mom stuff that I say about her out of the blue too, so I can't trust and of my parents, what so ever.
Now, my mom's sister is also fully aware of what happens at my mom's house. And I use to be able to talk to her about anything that went on at my mom's house, because she'd listen, and wouldn't tell a think to my mom. And she would give me advice and what not. Now whatever I do to try and make things better, never works. And she started getting tired of constantly hearing things that happens, because she feels like I don't take her advice to heart. So I don't have any adult to talk to, who I can trust.
During the nights I'm usually always out. There's never a time where I'm not. But she does call me a lot while I'm at my boyfriend's or friend's house, and yell at me for things. It's embarrassing. I usually never bring my friends to my house at night, because when my mom comes home she will embarrass me and say hurtful things to me.
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Hi Rei, im probably one of the people on this forum closest to your age and situation. Im 22, in college. I too have alcoholic parents who are constantly at me, abusing me physically and especially mentally. They get paid every thursday and drink all through the weekend, constantly fighting and bashing doors down.
It really does take its toll, and i know what you are going through. Its easy to think to yourself - Why me? Am i really such a bad person that my mother drinks because of me? I have nowhere to go etc. But at the same time - we have been forced to grow up quicker - and this will stand to us in the future. Its a shame that we dont have a parent to admire and look up to, but we cannot solve their drinking problem for them. after watching them drink my whole life - i have accepted that this is their toxic lifestyle and nothing i can do will change it.
I also avoid being at home whenever possible, and so long as i realise that it is not me who is sick, but them - i can function relatively normally untill i can move out. you are lucky to have your boyfriend - remember he is sticking by not out of pity but out of love. Dont feel guilty for having him there for you. Perhaps you can move out when you turn 18?
Stay strong, Emma
It really does take its toll, and i know what you are going through. Its easy to think to yourself - Why me? Am i really such a bad person that my mother drinks because of me? I have nowhere to go etc. But at the same time - we have been forced to grow up quicker - and this will stand to us in the future. Its a shame that we dont have a parent to admire and look up to, but we cannot solve their drinking problem for them. after watching them drink my whole life - i have accepted that this is their toxic lifestyle and nothing i can do will change it.
I also avoid being at home whenever possible, and so long as i realise that it is not me who is sick, but them - i can function relatively normally untill i can move out. you are lucky to have your boyfriend - remember he is sticking by not out of pity but out of love. Dont feel guilty for having him there for you. Perhaps you can move out when you turn 18?
Stay strong, Emma
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Rawdeal,
I've definitely thought those things before. I just can't understand why I have to go through it. I can't say I've really thought my mom drinks because of me. I really don't know why she drinks. We're pretty good money wise, we have a nice house, she has a great job, I just don't know why she's like that. Even when she's sober she can be cold-hearted, and what not. But I surely don't think that I'm the sick one, or a bad person.
I try to avoid being at my house, too. During the summer I don't get too much "action" I guess you could say at home, I mean I do get nasty phone calls, and what not, but I'm never home at night. But when school starts up, that's usually when I have problems. Because sometimes my boyfriend can't hang out, or I just don't want to do anything. When my mom gets home I try and jump in the shower, so she would just leave me alone. But that doesn't work. She will bang on the door, and wait for me there until I get done. She will demand me to unlock the door. I lock the door so she can't come in and take my phone, or anything.
I know, I am very, very grateful to have my boyfriend. He is always there for me.
I would love to move out at 18, but I don't think I will be able to support myself financially.
I've definitely thought those things before. I just can't understand why I have to go through it. I can't say I've really thought my mom drinks because of me. I really don't know why she drinks. We're pretty good money wise, we have a nice house, she has a great job, I just don't know why she's like that. Even when she's sober she can be cold-hearted, and what not. But I surely don't think that I'm the sick one, or a bad person.
I try to avoid being at my house, too. During the summer I don't get too much "action" I guess you could say at home, I mean I do get nasty phone calls, and what not, but I'm never home at night. But when school starts up, that's usually when I have problems. Because sometimes my boyfriend can't hang out, or I just don't want to do anything. When my mom gets home I try and jump in the shower, so she would just leave me alone. But that doesn't work. She will bang on the door, and wait for me there until I get done. She will demand me to unlock the door. I lock the door so she can't come in and take my phone, or anything.
I know, I am very, very grateful to have my boyfriend. He is always there for me.
I would love to move out at 18, but I don't think I will be able to support myself financially.
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I wish I had some advice to give you. Your story breaks my heart and it really pisses me off to hear that she says those things to you! I have a 13 yr old daughter and I could not imagine telling her I hate her (although she has told me that before when she didn't get something she wanted, but I know that she really doesn't hate me!)
I really am sorry that you have to go through this. You sound like a very intelligent young woman and I hope you stick around Sober Recovery.
I really am sorry that you have to go through this. You sound like a very intelligent young woman and I hope you stick around Sober Recovery.
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Hey Rei. I know we talked in chat and everything, but this post gave me the whole picture I guess.
I think what people suggested earlier about Alateen/Al-Anon meetings would be helpful. I've gone to a few and it's awkward at first, I'm not going to lie, but after a bit they help. They kind of center your ideas and help you figure out how to help yourself in these situations instead of letting your alcoholic parents take a toll on your life (for all who don't know, I'm 16 too, and I have an alcoholic mom). Do you have your liscense yet? If you do, it gives you some independence and that way you don't have to rely on your mom or step-dad to get you around, especially if you want to go to a meeting or a counselor that your mom/dad disapproves of. If you don't, maybe a close friend who has their liscense could help you out? Have you told anyone besides your boyfriend and counselors about these issues at home?
Just some ideas to kick around I guess.
-Simba
I think what people suggested earlier about Alateen/Al-Anon meetings would be helpful. I've gone to a few and it's awkward at first, I'm not going to lie, but after a bit they help. They kind of center your ideas and help you figure out how to help yourself in these situations instead of letting your alcoholic parents take a toll on your life (for all who don't know, I'm 16 too, and I have an alcoholic mom). Do you have your liscense yet? If you do, it gives you some independence and that way you don't have to rely on your mom or step-dad to get you around, especially if you want to go to a meeting or a counselor that your mom/dad disapproves of. If you don't, maybe a close friend who has their liscense could help you out? Have you told anyone besides your boyfriend and counselors about these issues at home?
Just some ideas to kick around I guess.
-Simba
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You are the first teenager that I've talked to that has the same type of lifestyle that I do. I do have my license, which is why I'm always out. And my dad bought the car, not my mom, so she can't take it away from me. He did that on purpose.
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It makes me feel better knowing you have a means of escape (e.g. the car).
I am terribly sorry you're going through this. While there may not be much you can do at the moment, I can't suggest strongly enough that once you're out of the house, you find a counselor and start working through the issues this will leave with you. If you're going to college, most colleges have free mental health clinics you can go to.
You're in my thoughts.
I am terribly sorry you're going through this. While there may not be much you can do at the moment, I can't suggest strongly enough that once you're out of the house, you find a counselor and start working through the issues this will leave with you. If you're going to college, most colleges have free mental health clinics you can go to.
You're in my thoughts.
Misanthrope
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Indianapolis, Indiana
Posts: 92
Hey Rei, I know how hard these things are to deal with, I currently live with my mother who hasn't even really made an attempt to get a job after my alcoholic father died (at the present moment, i'm the only person in the household holding any sort of paying job), in short, the screwed up behaviors of people still continue even though my primary abuser is no longer alive. I suggest saving up any money you can get with the intention of moving out as soon as possible whenever the opportunity arises. If possible, find someone you can trust with things and hope for the best. Also, welcome to the forum.
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