Any of this familiar? Mechanisms to keep denial alive and well

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06-29-2008, 05:48 AM

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steve11694

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Any of this familiar? Mechanisms to keep denial alive and well

Rationalizing
Intellectualizing
Minimizing
Analyzing
Justifying
Theorizing
Explaining
Generalizing

Withdrawing
Silence
Defiance
Blaming
Arguing
Projecting
Looking away
Yawning

Bargaining
Comparing
Agreeing
Joking
Smiling & Laughing
Changing the subject
Glaring & Staring
Shouting & Intimidating

06-29-2008, 08:18 AM

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Bernadette

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Hi Steve-
Well all of the above at various times!
I was astonished to see "yawning!"
My ex-H used to yawn deliberately at some point whenever we had a confrontation about something. It annoyed the hell out of me!!
Peace-
B.

06-29-2008, 09:38 AM

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Well, OBVIOUSLY! Actually, thanks for making me smile, as I needed the reminder. Have a wonderful, happy, (in my case) Sunny day!

06-29-2008, 09:51 AM

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to looking away and yawning,
i have to add...
closing his eyes and
clenching his jaw.....

07-02-2008, 07:07 PM

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steve11694

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Hi Bernadette,

Yawning also got my attention. I recall my AW doing it a lot. It was part of her routine that added substance to her blaming being tired due to a "cold" "the cold that never goes away" I say.