Update and decisions
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Update and decisions
Hi everyone, just wanted to share. I'm finally sleeping better, and I started counseling at my University Center. Yesterday was the most "me" I've felt in months 
I finally wrote my friend and told him I have to drop out of the play he's producing. I know it's the right thing, as I won't have the time and the interest isn't there, plus it would be 3 months with a group of alcoholics.
But I'm avoiding reading my email, because as a people pleaser who fears disappointing people I'm dreading the response. But I feel better having done it.
Progress!
I finally wrote my friend and told him I have to drop out of the play he's producing. I know it's the right thing, as I won't have the time and the interest isn't there, plus it would be 3 months with a group of alcoholics.
But I'm avoiding reading my email, because as a people pleaser who fears disappointing people I'm dreading the response. But I feel better having done it.
Progress!
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Angelus this is great news that you are feeling better! 
Keep moving forward it will get better!
I have learned to say no which was a hard thing to learn!
However it has made my life much more manageable! Feels great!
Keep moving forward it will get better!
I have learned to say no which was a hard thing to learn!
However it has made my life much more manageable! Feels great!
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Congrats, Angelus -- so glad you're taking care of yourself.
You know, I've been in recovery for a long time and have been in business for myself for a dozen years, and I STILL get a little queasy when I have to give someone bad news. You'll be happy to know that I'm avoiding email today myself, because I had to tell someone they have to stop waffling on a project and pay us, like, Now.
But over time it's reduced to just a minor inconvenience, like having to eat my vegetables...your discomfort will fade away in time as you practice, practice, practice putting your dreams before those of others.
Hugs,
GL
You know, I've been in recovery for a long time and have been in business for myself for a dozen years, and I STILL get a little queasy when I have to give someone bad news. You'll be happy to know that I'm avoiding email today myself, because I had to tell someone they have to stop waffling on a project and pay us, like, Now.
But over time it's reduced to just a minor inconvenience, like having to eat my vegetables...your discomfort will fade away in time as you practice, practice, practice putting your dreams before those of others.
Hugs,
GL
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Hi Angelus--
Good for you! Just duck when you read the email! Whatever response you get try to hang on to the feeling of relief you had when you did what was right for you and your future and your mental health!!
Keep on growin'!!!
Peace,
B
Good for you! Just duck when you read the email! Whatever response you get try to hang on to the feeling of relief you had when you did what was right for you and your future and your mental health!!
Keep on growin'!!!
Peace,
B
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